Cassie seems like a people pleaser and Colton's actions on the show were sold as romantic. He was a nice guy who was really into her, and she was somewhat attracted to him, so she gave things a shot. She could probably tell he was the type to take a breakup very badly (not that she could anticipate this, but he seems very clingy), so she put it off. Even now, his defenders are saying she should be more accommodating, he's just brokenhearted, and why did she have to go embarrass him by making all this public? Ugh.
Reality Steve said he heard the show was Colton's idea that he introduced to Cassie, that it hadn't been picked up by a network, not much had been filmed and her family wasn't involved. Cassie's sister also posted that she and her parents hadn't signed any contracts or spoken to any PTB from this supposed show. And Cassie backed out, apparently, not him. It now seems like it was Colton's delusional way of trying to stay in her life.
A breakdown of the restraining order details:
Colton's fake stalker texts to himself...projecting much? It's all of his worst thoughts about himself, out loud: you're too square/awkward, she needs a bad boy, her family never liked you.
I really wonder how the show is going to address this. Will TPTB hide behind it being a legal matter and just never reference Colton's season again? It would be awful for any Bachelor breakup to escalate into stalking, but it's one thing if they'd seemed like a perfectly happy couple on their season. In this case, the show encouraged Colton in not taking Cassie's "no" for an answer from the start, which only fueled a dynamic that only got unhealthier from there.