lucy711

I felt so sorry for Ysabel this week. I know exactly what she is going through. I have scoliosis and wore a brace when I was her age. The brace does not fix the curve- that is never going to go away. What the brace does is stop it from getting worse as she is growing so that she can avoid surgery. She will stop wearing the brace when a doctor deems she is done growing. I do, however, think it may be beneficial to her that it is out in the open, because it was painful for me to have to discuss it everytime someone wondered why I was suddenly larger and wearing oversized clothing. I hope it doesn't damage her self-esteem. I was naturally a size 3 but had to wear size 7 clothing with a brace. I know that a size 7 isn't large, but young girls are always touchy about their weight. Hopefully she'll come out this as a strong young woman!

Yes to all of this. Her family has every right to be critical of her and her actions. Imagine being her parents- as soon as Nicole is 18, she runs off to Texas to chase some guy, comes back pregnant, and then expects help. That's a major problem right there. Then, add to it the ridiculousness with Azan and a previous boytoy...I think her parents are too nice. The kicker is that she still expects her family to help her out in this mess by watching May and giving her money. Didn't mom even drive her to the airport for her absurd adventures in Morocco? Her family is being much nicer than my parents would have been to me. My father would have already sued me for custody of May and cut me out of his life. And, he would have every right to do so. Nicole is a freaking adult with a child. It's not playtime anymore. Cut her off and let her try to make it on her own with her barista salary and food stamps. Good luck!

I think it's pretty said that Libby's father just seemed to watch his daughters marry money. Never any concern from him about his daughters contributing to the household. Did they ever work or have any aspirations beyond sipping wine and going to strip clubs for bachelorette parties?

I don't believe for one second that the Chris and Nikki marriage is a love match- on Nikki's part. There's nothing wrong with that, but she's definitely in it for the $$. How did David and Annie pay for a wedding in Thailand, too? Chris again? Ashley annoyed me at the wedding. If she was just going to come and make a stink face, she shouldn't have come at all. That said, it was crappy of her dad to host it on her birthday. He talks a good game about wanting her in his life. So maybe he could have held the wedding on, oh I don't know...the day before or the day after?

This season surprised me because my impressions of so many of the cast members have changed. At first I liked David Spain...now not so much. I got grossed out when I learned that he had contacted Evelyn many years ago. Ew. At first I thought Luis was harmless and a more homely Pedro. Wrong. This guy is slick and has no conscience. At first I thought Aika was really cool, and while I still like her, I think it's clear that she is playing a game and can be quite the emotional manipulator. At first I didn't like Andrei. Now he seems to be one of the only sane people on the show! At first Libby struck me as really superficial, but I'm good with her now. But she needs to ditch the lipstick and her sisters! Still don't like Evelyn!

I hope this is true, because I was disgusted when David and Annie accepted Chris' idea to fund the wedding. Have some pride, people! If you don't have money, get married at a courthouse and have Annie buy a nice dress off the rack from Macy's.

I would have liked it if she had a dress that actually fit her well and was modeled on a 1920s or 1930s style instead of a dress from the 70s or 80s. It would have been great to see a modern dress that was done with 1920s or 1930s influences. I thought the car was cool, too.

I too am not a fan of the white strapless dresses favored by so many brides today, but I also don't like Evelyn's dress. It doesn't do anything for her figure. There is a happy middle ground between the strapless look and the nightgown she is wearing. Evelyn's style is a little eccentric- she has a prairie dress with a 1920s car and what looked like 1980s shoes. And yes- what is with Evelyn's mother's dress looking like a wedding gown?

Yes- it is common to see 3 year olds with pacifiers, but I think many pediatricians are against it. My son never used a pacifier, but his pediatrician told us when he was born that we should "lost it" when he turned one if he did like it. My parents did the same with me. I don't think we can judge May's speech because toddlers can be quiet in some circumstances and really chatty in others. We haven't seen enough on her, and she would most likely be shy about talking in front of cameras. But it does bother me that almost every time we see her, she is in front of a screen. And based on what we know about Nicole, I highly doubt she has a set bed/nap schedule. I have an 18 month old and was horrified when Nicole said that May wakes up multiple times during the night and needs her diaper changed. That sounds like a newborn!

Indeed! It was very trashy the way that she approached the entire situation. I do feel pity for her, however, because it sounds like David really let all of his kids down. I'd be angry if I hadn't seen my father in years and suddenly he was introducing to me to his fiance in front of a camera. I can't believe how many of the cast's family members are willing to do this and have their lives broadcasted to the world while acting so uncouth. There is no way I would want to be any part of it!

I agree with you to a point. It is scientific fact that women's chances of becoming pregnant decrease with age, especially after 35, although certainly it can still happen. But pretty much every woman in my family hits menopause by her early 40s, so there would be no way I'd be having a kid at 46. It is important for women to be aware of the science behind it because there are women who think they have plenty of time and when they settle down in their late 30s suddenly can't get pregnant and are devastated, understandably. Many of my friends are going through that, and in vitro doesn't always work and is expensive. Having kids later in life works for many women, but it also doesn't work for many women. Aika probably still could have a kid, but she shouldn't be wasting her time with a guy who has zero interest in it!

Wow, that is pretty bad if he is just working as a mascot. Talk about humiliating. Although if he and Annie are married now, she can get a job and get out of the firehouse. My opinion of Annie has gone down after last week. I think she just wanted to come to the USA and life the good life courtesy of Nikki and Chris. David is a loser, but I think he is an honest loser. He told her in Thailand that he doesn't have money. The reason I look down on her is that she pretends to love and care about him (at least 90% of the time), but she doesn't. I don't blame her for that, but her dishonesty in the relationship makes her lose respect in my eyes.

Maybe, but since it is like the 4th (?) season of 90 Day Fiance, it shouldn't be unexpected that this topic came up. At the very least Evelyn could have warned him and he could have had a better response. I would never want to be on the show, but if I announced to the world on tv that I was a virgin and was on a show about marriage, I would expect the topic to present itself. Every time there is a virgin couple, it seems to be a big deal. I have a hard time having sympathy for people who appear on these shows and then don't know what to expect. Reality tv has been around for many years now and producers will do anything to make someone embarrassed or start conflict. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

I know some are saying that maybe David is simply not comfortable with discussing sex on camera. That's understandable. I wouldn't want to, either. But there is a better way to handle it, like maybe saying "let's discuss that another time when we are alone. It's not something I like being public about." There you go. Done. I think the reason so many people are speculating about his sexuality is because David had a mini meltdown when the topic came up!

Someone mentioned that maybe David is from a traditional Catholic family and thus can't discuss sex. I had a Catholic upbringing, and I got married in the church. The Catholic Church requires all engaged couples getting married to attend pre-marriage counseling, and that includes a session on sex and 'natural family planning.' We had a pretty open discussion about it in my session. Most of the couples had already engaged in sex, anyway! I just can't imagine that a 27 year old living in Spain never talked about sex with his friends.

So Aika knew about the vasectomy before coming here and was still okay with it? I mean I know it can be reversed, but it sounds like she wants a baby tomorrow. She must be really desperate- I'd love to know more about her life in the Philippines. With furniture and decoration, the firehouse apartment actually could be cute. I wouldn't mind living there for a year or two. But David has no money...so there is that... I was really bothered by Annie telling Nikki that Chris is a co-sponsor and is responsible for her for ten years if David can't provide. Annie- get a job when the 90 days are over. Problem solved. Evelyn wears ugly sweaters.

The whole race thing is getting ridiculous. It doesn't relate at all to the show. I think David was probably more concerned with having Spanish speakers around rather then stressing about how many African-Americans live in town. We have no way to "prove" if Claremont is more or less racist than other areas of the country. I am a little worried with how quick people on this forum are to call others they don't know at all "racist" or to malign an entire part of the country. It's a serious allegation, and the more it is tossed around with little fact to back up opinions, the less that word means. Evelyn's family and/or David may be some of the most racist people in the country. Or they could be surprisingly tolerant and open-minded (who knows). I think it would be more pleasant for all if we actually discussed the show.

No, I think the term refers to when people, often from major cities, think they are better because they live in cities that are diverse and have a lively culture and turn their noses up at people who don't live there. That doesn't make the non-city folk xenophobic. I live in a suburb outside of NYC, and while I love visiting the city, I would never live in Manhattan like a lot of my friends. I can't handle large crowds, lots of noise, and all the latte shops and vegan restaurants don't appeal to me. It's when those NYC folk come to my town and call it boring because there isn't an organic grocery store every 10 feet that I roll my eyes and use the "e" word. Elitists are the people who think that everyone who lives outside of a major urban center are xenophobic....

America still has many racial problems to work out, but I agree with you that it's not the 1960s anymore. I spent hours interviewing (black and white) veterans of the Civil Rights Movement in the 1950s and 1960s when I was in college, and they would be pretty surprised by the people on here that think we've made no progress. But I'll get back to the main topic of this forum. If David Spain is so worldly and loves cosmopolitan cities and diversity and all that- he has no business moving to NH and marrying a sheltered 18 year old girl. Seriously. If he loves Virginia so much he should have looked for a woman from that state. In other news, why didn't Molly send Louis on a plane back to the DR the minute he started gripping about missing his single life so much? I would have kicked him to the curb the minute he started griping about my 6 year old daughter.

I have no doubt that Claremont probably isn't that welcoming to people of various racial and ethnic backgrounds. I looked up the alleged lynching story, and I don't see any articles after September. I really want to know if charges were filed and what is being dong about this. I find the whole discussion of whether Evelyn and David are going to live in Claremont tiresome. Shouldn't the discussion be about having David find a JOB and then living where he can find gainful employment? I'm assuming he's going to be the breadwinner since I have a hard time believing they can live on what she is bringing in.

David looks worse every week. I do feel sympathy for him because he has literally nothing going for him (except a lot of gold jewelry)? I'd actually like to know more about his backstory. Did poor Annie seriously have no better prospects? He is the type of guy that gives all diabetics a bad name. T2 Diabetes runs in my family even though NONE of us are overweight or drink and are active. I had Gestational Diabetes when I was pregnant, and there is a good chance I'll develop it in the future. For the record, I'm 5'3" and 105 lbs. My doctor told me that I should have gained more weight than I did during pregnancy. People see David and assume that all type 2 diabetics live unhealthy lifestyles. Genetics suck!

Evelyn's parents may very well know the difference between Spain and Mexico, but there most likely wasn't a Spanish restaurant around. There was at least a chance that someone at the Mexican restaurant spoke Spanish. If I were overseas and I was taken to an English restaurant rather than one serving "American" fare, I wouldn't be offended. Thoughts- -Evelyn and David are equally insufferable. She is entitled and close-minded. But he lost me tonight. New England is beautiful, and I'm sure that small town life can be lovely. He has no right to piss on that. This conversation about where to live should have been had a long time ago. Oh, and brother Evelyn- Northern Virginia is quite different from New Hampshire. -Nicole and Azan- I don't get it. These two can't stand each other. Surely if Azan really wants to come to the USA, he can find someone else. Poor May. I can't imagine what this girl has seen. -Similarly, I hated how the fight between Nikki's brother and David Poor happened in front of the kids. -Libby's sisters are awful. I didn't want strippers for my bachelorette party, so my bridesmaids didn't consider it. Are their marriages really that sad that going to a party like that is so exciting? Do they actually work or do anything? I get the impression they sit around and drink wine a lot. -This show is so educational! Now I know that strippers in the Dominican Republic touch guys all over!

I don't think we can criticize Nicole for May wearing diapers. Plenty of two year old children do so. Even if she had started potty training her, May would probably regress during the trip to Morocco. The poor kid is totally off any schedule she may have. But no way in hell would I let Azan change her diapers. I really hope that little girl spends more time with Grandma than her mother. As an aside, I thought it was funny that Elizabeth moved into the apartment immediately before Andrei arrived and that nothing was ready. He hopped off the plane one day and put the bed together the next day! Impressive!

Some random thoughts... -Evelyn: I teach 18 year old students, and most are not as self-centered and immature as she is. At the very least, they are mature enough to know that 18 is too young to get married. This girl has a massive chip on her shoulder. Maybe someone should tell her that most couples start out in tiny apartments and that they don't have a an extra "special" home. And besides- your significant other is the reason the home is special- not the size of the living space or the "vintage" kitchen. -Annie: I find it hard to muster sympathy because she knows what she is getting into. David told her that he doesn't have money. She knows he doesn't have a house. But, she made sure to bleed him dry for the dowry. Her plan is to ditch him in a few years and find someone better. As far as I can tell, she hasn't been conned by David Poor. -Nicole: She feeds her kid in the middle of the night? What the heck? Why isn't May sleeping through the night? I also think it's rude to subject Azan's family to a toddler who apparently wakes up crying most nights. And Nicole sleeps until 2 pm? What is May doing while Mom sleeps? So many questions! Why change May's diaper at night? My son is 1 and sleeps from 7 am until 7 pm with one diaper. I get the feeling that Nicole never bothered to put May on a schedule and is reaping the rewards! I think Elizabeth and Andrei really love each other. I hope it works out for them.

I get what you are saying- but in that case Elizabeth would have to give up her creature comforts that she has in the USA since it doesn't sound like Andrei would have many prospects. If she's willing to do that, then fine. But I don't get the impression that she wants to live with Andrei anywhere but in America.