I have a different thought on this, in general (since I obviously don't know the women you know). Women have been so highly conditioned to want marriage that even if we don't want to feel affected by that conditioning, we often are. It's a gigantic should. But, what if the delaying and not feeling ready is actually because someone doesn't really want it? Only fairly recently has it been OK-ish for women to say they don't want children or even marriage. Someone already 60? It's going against society and family and inner programming, so you make excuses. The not-wanting may not even be conscious if the should goes deep enough. Actually, I'm speaking for myself, and though I'm younger than 60, I can't be the only one to have this issue. Even after I realized that I don't want to be married, I felt like something was wrong with me. I still have to tell myself it's OK. --Rebecca was smart, I think, to take the time for herself. It's only been a year, and she now realizes she does want romantic love. That's also wise ... she didn't say marriage. She's taking things a step at a time.
Anyway -- I kind of wish the timing or composition of episodes had been different, maybe cut some of the earlier filler material and push up other elements to allow a two-hour finale story (yet still have the concert!) where the resolutions could have been a little more fleshed out, because the "where are they now" did feel rushed.
I never like when they show someone in a flash forward with a partner we know nothing about, so Josh's new love felt awkward. Plus, when Rebecca talked about how anyone in the room could be her future love, they put the new girlfriend in the background, leaving Josh as a candidate, so why should I care about his present attachment?
I loved Nathaniel telling off his father and ending with I love you. And he didn't need to say that he's nice now.
I noticed something in the dream sequences that was very interesting: With Greg, Rebecca realized at the wedding that she wasn't happy. With Nathaniel, they were married and about to have their first child. With Josh, their kids were around 6 or 7 before she realized she wasn't happy. So, was that a reflection of her true feelings for the guys -- i.e. she didn't love Greg and realized it right away, yet loved Nathaniel more and Josh even more, and so took longer to realize -- or was it that she didn't fool herself as much with Greg, and so realized earlier, but had such an idealized view of Josh for so long that it took years longer to realize her unhappiness (with Nathaniel somewhere in the middle)?
When it was over, just on an emotional gut level, I felt saddest that she wasn't with Josh, which surprised me -- and then Nathaniel. Not at all for Greg. I can't tell if that's because of the re-cast or the character himself. I thought she had the best chance with Nathaniel, but then they sort of downplayed him the last couple of episodes. The date with Josh was the most emotional, and so was his reaction to her not choosing him, so maybe that affected me. He was working on himself, too, so it could have almost been like he and Rebecca would grow up together. Even Nathaniel, in a way, was frozen at a younger emotional age, so that could have been somewhat similar. Greg... again, nothing. I just can't judge him fairly.