It frustrates me that the point was continually lost in the hurricanes of yelling and LuAnn flouncing away. No one is ripping you a new asshole for going swimming. It is not self absorbed asshole behavior to go swimming. Coming home after swimming and admiring yourself on a poster you have no doubt already looked at a thousand times before, and then complaining about being last to get a massage IS THE ASSHOLE BEHAVIOR. Complaining that you didn’t get a blow out because the hair dresser didn’t have time to get to her because she was late IS THE ASSHOLE BEHAVIOR. So is:
Demanding the best room at Dorinda’s and throwing a fit when you find out Bethenny asked for it first.
Complaining that Bethenny had to leave before her Halloween performance because she went on late, and then saying she wished Bethenny had been there to see her succeed, when Bethenny WAS THERE.
Acting like the other women being there didn’t even count because Bethenny left.
Saying Bethenny shouldn’t have gone home to relieve the babysitter, because all Bryn was doing was sleeping.
saying, well I’m going to go swim/to a meeting/need some sugar for my coffee while a friend is breaking down in front of her, but she demands constant “what have you done for me lately?” support from them.
Treats AA meetings as another performance and thinks she is there to entertain the group, which makes them happy. The other stories of pain and enormous REAL loss just roll off of her because she’s not listening when it’s not her turn. She’s the kind of person who is just waiting for other people to stop talking so she can hear the sound of her own voice again.
Defends ignoring what other friends were going through in their lives because she was in a bad place, but can’t be bothered to ask about them when she’s in a better place because she’s a stah, dahling.
LuAnn is completely tone deaf when it comes to her “music” and feeling out a room. Bethenny’s realization that she did so much to help LuAnn when she was legit off the rails and a danger to herself, and then to have Lu act like she deserves a spa day every day because being sober is hard, when the person she relied on so much emotionally needed the same help but didn’t get it, and died? Yeah, I can see that setting of a bit of hysteria.
If LuAnn had not behaved in such an entitled way and complained that the luxuries being handed to her weren’t luxurious enough, or big enough, or she wasn’t always first in line and getting first pick of everything, Bethenny would not have snapped.
If she still says at the reunion that they were mean to her and attacking her for being self absorbed just because she went swimming, I’m going to pop a blood vessel.
When have we ever seen LuAnn be charitable, truly charitable, or go out of her way to help s friend in need? I can’t think of a time in ten years. All the other women can set themselves aside when they are needed, but LuAnn is just a taker, and it’s hard to be friends with someone who operates that way every single day. Even Ramona can manage to show up and comfort her friends when they are struggling.
There are many narcissists throughout all the RH franchises, but LuAnn is a malignant, toxic narcissist. That’s the difference, and why she IS worse than the others. She hasn’t even tried to learn how to pretend to feign interest and empathy. The only times she’s engaged in a conversation about someone else is when it’s ugly gossip.