Eh, I'd rather see older women (no disrespect, but they're mostly older to me) own up to being sexual creatures than to beat around the bush about it. The dares on the bus were cringy, but I was laughing right along with them. Also, it was clear Kandi was gonna go there -- she owns a sex toy business. She knew the ladies wanted her to take it to 11, so she did.
RHOC's Tamra (especially Tamra) and Vicki talk openly about needing, wanting, and having sex. Maybe not to the degree of their favorite positions, except for Tamra, but this isn't exclusive to RHOA. If I remember from years back, Teresa talked about her favorite sex toys for Juicy Joe, but I haven't seen RHONJ in a long time. I don't watch RHOD.