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4 hours ago, PRgal said:
But this is happening AT schools. And was, to a certain extent being used long before social media was a "thing." I remember being shamed 20-25 years ago when I was in university and graduate school. Internet was there, but not social.
OK, get it, I thought it was related to the more recent polarization in several topics where I think social media shares a lot of blame.
3 hours ago, PRgal said:I was actually shamed by a teaching assistant in my first year (this was a Women’s Studies class). She was talking about colonialism and how it was the Europeans who brought in sexism/patriarchy. This was before I really focused on East Asian history, but I knew my heritage enough to know that it’s not just a European thing. I mentioned that and she went all over me. I suppose you can still consider a student since she was a PhD candidate, but still.
I don't know much about the history of sexism in that part of the World, but I do get frustrated a lot when people get too self-blaming over things like colonialism and imperialism of the West that is largely gone and not the fault of current generation and at the same time ignore imperialism of several undemocratic countries that is still very much present, especially if it's because they want to trash their own democratic countries that are definitely not ideal but still much better than the alternatives. I probably won't elaborate further because this is linked to several current topics that can get very heated, but I think I know what you mean in general.
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Judi and Arnold were an unexpectedly good combination. That's what I like about this show. It pairs people who I would not expect to work so well together.
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21 minutes ago, PRgal said:
On education: Our current education system no longer allows for open debate. People are automatically "cancelled" or shamed for having some belief that doesn't adhere to the current narrative. I've experienced this myself and let me tell you that it's no fun. This usually comes from people who have at least high school, and for the most part, an undergraduate degree of some sort. Just look at what's currently going on on social.
I agree but I blame it on social media, not education system. We have different education system but the same problem with misinformation and most of it is on Facebook and Xitter these days, even though some "alternative media" websites are still going strong as well.
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I'll just add that to a growing list of reasons why I can't wait until Xitter finally self-destructs. At this rate, it shouldn't take long but there is still a lot of damage that can happen until then.
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Speaking of things revealed years later, can anyone in real life only learn that their divorce has not been finalized and they are officially still married years later when they are planning another wedding? I hope not.
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5 hours ago, paulvdb said:
And another high school graduation related thing: people finding out that they never graduated high school many years ago because they failed one assignment. And now having to do the assignment so that they can pass that subject and get their high school diploma.
Sounds like one of my recurring nightmares and from what I've heard, it's a common one.
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I'm one of those weirdos who gets more upset when something bad happens to animals then humans, in real life or on TV. When the pandemic started, in some of my dark moments I thought it might not be that bad if we were all to be wiped out by relatively painless virus and left the planet to animals, before we manage to destroy it completely. I am not particularly proud of those thoughts and generally don't think that way, but every now and then when I hear stories like above, it crosses my mind.
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The main segment was depressing, but I guess good timing with Halloween and then Christmas.
I feel sorry for Argentinians with those choices. On one hand, that new guy looks like a menace (to be honest, I was thinking maybe he's not that bad just eccentric until John mentioned that he praised Trump. That, or any other dictator or fan of dictators always settles it for me). On the other hand, I can totally understand how they don't want to vote for someone who helped tank the economy. It reminds me of the last two Brasil elections that also had only bad choices. At least I can use these examples when people who have much easier choices lament that there are no good candidates. There is never an ideal candidate and if there was, there's probably something shady being covered because let's be honest, very few good people go into politics and it they do, they often either get burned out or gradually become dirty themselves. So, let's be grateful if we have some relatively good choices, because as we see not everyone does. (PSA over 😜)
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13 hours ago, theredhead77 said:
Counterpoint: not enough education leads to an entire populous or demographic with underdeveloped critical thinking skills which leads to insane trains of thought such as: a test of the emergency broadcast system will turn anyone who received the COVID vaccination into zombies, or, the COVID vaccination contains micro-chips to track people, or the COVID vaccination contains 5G chips, or... and I could literally go on for quite sometime listing all the ridiculous beliefs and behaviors that come from not having developed critical thinking skills.
Also, lack of education in general, or lack of education specifically for girls often results in overpopulation and terrible conditions for children, not to mention a terrible track for human rights in general and for women and girls specifically. Not that I think the OP was meant in this way.
I agree that in some cases having a degree might seem like a waste, especially if it's done just for the sake of getting a degree and not because the person is interested in the subject or plans a career in that field. Everyone is different and some people can thrive in academic environment, some in manual work like carpentry or agriculture. We need all of them, after all. What is important, IMO, is that children and teenagers and even adults who are inclined to switch profession have enough opportunities to choose depending on their own strengths and skills without any unnecessary snobbery against either of those options. (Not that I've seen any here.)
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19 hours ago, theredhead77 said:
No one should have to appear to be the property of another to be treated with respect. In addition to that, potential repercussions (such as escalation in harassment, or violence) for lying about being the property of another to get an unstable harasser or predator to leave you alone are not worth the risk.
I suppose in some cases it can help, but I'm thinking more about emergencies with a complete stranger, not a situation like the above when it's an ongoing problem with someone familiar. My mother once had to deal with a taxi driver at night who started to have inappropriate comments and she got him to let her go by telling him that her husband is a cop and has means to find him.
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22 minutes ago, anna0852 said:
But you know the press is going to hound the other five unmercifully over this. And they were all so close!
God, I hope not! Seriously, leave people alone during difficult times. Is that so hard to grasp?
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4 hours ago, RealHousewife said:
Anyone have comforting words for me? I got into an argument with a guy friend from work. I like the guy and think he's good at heart, but I called him out on the way he speaks around women in the office not being gentlemanly or appropriate. He likes to bring up boobs, butts, Playboy, his sex life, stuff that I don't think is respectful to us. (He dials it back around certain people but has always been crude around me.) I've also told him the way he talks will run off nice women. He's been with several women who've been crazy and/or cheated on him. (He's also admitted to cheating but makes excuse for it.) I think because he puts out the vibe that he's all about sex, he is going to attract women who are mutually all about sex. He had excuses of everything-that he was going through a rough time when he said this, that he was just joking around when he said that, that since we're friends he thought it was cool to say that, that this particular woman dressed this way so he said that, that this woman who spoke about that way treated him like that, yet he insists those weren't excuses when I said they were excuses.
He got upset with me yesterday, and I dread dealing with him next week. I've known him for quite awhile , and it's not the first time we've been candid or I told him I don't like the way he speaks. But he got really offended this time. I'm always leery of becoming friends with anyone in the office, but sometimes it just happens. There are people I go back with for several years now, have to interact with a ton, travel with, etc. Sometimes you develop somewhat of a bond and can see the good in them even if they have sides you don't think are pretty. I am going to try to be better about maintaining boundaries and minimizing any chat that's not work-related, but I sure miss when I could just work remotely every day.
Good for you for saying that. Did you call him out in front of other people or just the two of you? If there were others, I hope that someone supported your opinion in front of him. I remember how it sucked the few times I tried to call out someone at work over racist/sexist/homophobic rhetoric with nobody backing me up. Just made me less likely to bother next time. And then when someone told me in private that they basically agreed with me, I was even more angry because that is something they should be saying in front of others, if they kept quiet then, they might as well stay quiet for all I care.
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It's also on youtube, I don't think that's edited.
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I just hope it's soon enough that the actors can promote the new Doctor Who specials. Yes, I'm self-centered like that.
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Stephen's speech at the end of the monologue was very powerful. And the opening with all those innuendos was great, the writers deserved a raise just for that.
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Patrick Stewart remembering his childhood was so nice. I am not very into memoirs, but I hope he has success with his book, I'm sure his life has been fascinating.
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Almost half of gen Z viewers want less sex on screen, study finds
QuoteLess sex and more friendship – that’s the verdict of gen Z on their preferences for US media, according to a new study by the Center for Scholars and Storytellers (CSS) at UCLA.
According to the center’s annual Teens & Screens report, today’s adolescents want less of the sex and trauma seen in shows such as HBO’s Euphoria and The Idol, and more storylines reflecting “lives like their own”, namely more platonic relationships and less of a focus on romance.
The center, based in the psychology department, surveyed 1,500 adolescents between the ages of 10 to 24, and found that the majority of adolescents aged 13-24 (51.5%) wanted to see more content centered around friendships and platonic relationships, rather than romantic ones. A near-majority (47.5%) said sex was not needed for the plot in most TV shows and movies, while 44.3% felt romance was overused in media. Nearly 39% wanted to see more aromantic or asexual characters on screen.
Adolescents also expressed dissatisfaction with several tropes, such as the expectation that male-female friends would fall in love. “There’s a complete lack of platonic relationships in American cinema,” wrote one respondent, a 17-year-old Black boy from Georgia. “I don’t like that every boy and girl friendship has to be romantic at some point. Sometimes people can just be friends,” said a 16-year-old white girl from the western US.
“While it’s true that adolescents want less sex on TV and in movies, what the survey is really saying is that they want more and different kinds of relationships reflected in the media they watch,” Yalda T Uhls, the founder and director of CSS and co-author of the study, told IndieWire.
“We know that young people are suffering an epidemic of loneliness and they’re seeking modeling in the art they consume. While some storytellers use sex and romance as a shortcut to character connection, it’s important for Hollywood to recognize that adolescents want stories that reflect the full spectrum of relationships.”
The findings reflect several studies on decline of sexual intercourse among gen Z. A 2021 study by the Centers of Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported that 30% of teens said they’d had sex at least once before, down from 38% in 2019 and over 50% in decades prior. It was the largest drop ever recorded by the survey, which polled over 17,000 adolescent students and has been conducted every two years since 1990.
And the University of Chicago’s General Social Survey, which has tracked shifts in Americans’ behavioral trends for decades, found in 2021 that three in 10 gen Z males aged 18 to 25 reported having gone without sex the previous year. One in four gen Z women also reported having no sex in the previous year. A UCLA study found the proportion of young adults who reported having two or more sexual partners also declined, from 23% in 2011 to 10% in 2021.
In an authors note, two gen Z co-authors of the study, Stephanie Rivas-Lara and Hiral Kotecha, described how the isolation of the Covid pandemic was foundational to their generation’s prioritization of friendship, and cited clinical studies on the “friendship recession” and the epidemic of loneliness declared earlier this year by the US surgeon general, Vivek Murthy; according to the Cigna Group, young people today are twice as likely to report feeling lonely as those over 65.
“As researchers in the industry, this felt like a headline-worthy discovery,” said the authors on the study’s finding of more friendship, less romance. “But as young people, this felt like an idea that could casually blend into our many conversations and reflections on community (or lack thereof) that have been center-stage for our generation this year.”
“As a member of gen Z myself, I wasn’t surprised by some of what we’re seeing this year,” Rivas-Lara told IndieWire. “There has been a wide-ranging discourse among young people about the meaning of community in the aftermath of Covid and the isolation that came with it. Adolescents are looking to media as a ‘third place’ where they can connect and have a sense of belonging – and with frightening headlines about climate change, pandemics and global destabilization, it makes sense they are gravitating towards what’s most familiar in those spaces.”
The report also found that teens overwhelmingly disapprove of aspirational content about wealth and fame, with only 10.5% of respondents listing it as their preference. Fifty-six percent of adolescents also preferred original content over franchises, remakes or adaptations. Of topics gen Z wanted to see, the top preferences were hopeful, uplifting content with people beating the odds, and characters with lives “more like their own” – which, reportedly, means less romance, and more platonic relationships.
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3 hours ago, MissT said:
I'm not a Brittany fan and I don't really feel sorry for her, but I did read about Gene Tierney and yes she had a mental breakdown. Studios back then didn't give a crap about their stars. July Garland comes to mind and many others.... everyone controlled absolutely everything about her life. From who she dated, married, gave her drugs to sleep, to look alert.... such a sad life she had.
I hope the takeaway from all of these tragic stories is that we are now at least more aware of how difficult it can be for young people in showbusiness if they don't have a strong support system and too many people try to prey on them, sometimes including their families and people they should be able to trust. And hopefully people will become kinder and more understanding and don't mock celebrities so much when they go through difficult time.
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I don't know. She has some good points, but honestly I would not probably notice and once I started to think about it, I found similar traits in many earlier characters, like Alice, Ariel, or Mulan so I would say it might be a case of when you look for something, you will find evidence. So I agree that most characters are like that to some degree, but I think it's not usually their main feature and they are still different enough from each other. And as she said, in some cases like Rapunzel and Anna it is understandable that the character would be socially awkward because they have been isolated their whole childhood and adolescence.
As for the reasons why they are like that, I think it might be related to how expectations for teenagers and young adults have changed over time. Most Disney heroines are in their late teens, maybe occasionally early 20's which is the age when we grow up and go from teenager to adult. But while in the past it was expected that girls would be more or less fully grown by then, not just physically but mentally, and the expectations for them had been different, we now often look at people of that age still as kids and the general consensus (backed by the information that the brain is still developing until our mid-20's) seems to be that people are allowed to be less mature and to take more time to be fully functioning adults. That is probably reflected in how characters are now written. Plus there is the current animation style that makes most female characters look adorable.
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1 hour ago, DanaK said:
60th specials start airing November 25!!
I expected them sooner, but at least there is more chance that they might be able to promote it if the strike ends by then.
Do we know when the episodes will be on Disney+? Same day or next?
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5 minutes ago, kristen111 said:
I don’t even open the windows anymore. Too many creatures coming in. Crickets are coming in. One was on my toilet bowl .. I freaked out. He was an ugly big sucker.
I'm the window opener. At home, we have nets to prevent the undesirables from coming in (though somehow some manage to come in from time to time. I had to kill an ugly piece if insect I've never seen before today because I was alone and the cat just kept looking at it and didn't seem interested in disposing of it.)
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1 hour ago, Browncoat said:
In the winter, I use cozy flannel sheets, made even cozier when I wear my flannel jammies. Sometimes I'll add socks, but those usually come off in the middle of the night.
I can always add more covers to the bed if it's cold, but if it's hot, there's only so many covers I can take off, and I'm still sweltering.
I think some basic logic should be applied in places that have 4 seasons. It's ok to dress in more layers in winter than in summer, especially now that we should really focus on saving the energy. I've had colleagues who wanted to have air conditioning in summer so cold you need a sweater but the heating in winter on basically the same temperature, if not higher. Because for some reason that I don't get they need to wear short sleeves inside even in winter and some would get this look like they've been insulted if you suggest that they could wear a warmer sweater because, you know, it's winter. And don't get me started on opening the windows. Why do companies force us to come back to offices again? It can't be to socialize as they say, because all of this fighting over temperature, windows or lighting doesn't seem very productive.
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If It Wasn't For That One Thing: How Movies Could've Been Better
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I realized how much I dislike angry mob scenes. I have recently seen an Ukrainian animated movie Mavka: The Forest Song (a good movie BTW: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sdzFcSQp-x0) and it had a scene basically similar to the one in Beauty and the Beast, just with reversed genders - villagers get very easily manipulated into attacking someone over their magical abilities, complete with torches and pitchforks, prompted by a complete stranger and ignoring someone trying to stop them despite knowing them their whole life. Yes, I get it, superstitiuos villagers in unspecified historical period were understandably afraid of the supernatural, but for once I would like to see them at least take enough time to breathe, formulate a plan and listen to everyone who can provide more information and perhaps talk them out of the crazy idea or, I don't know, contact some authority outside of the small village who could help them? I mean, in case if they actually were attacked, it might be impressive to see them form a defense in such short time, but if it's for a preemptive attack based on little evidence, it's quite scary.
But of course, once any one of the characters learns the truth, that there actually wasn't any danger and they've been manipulated, everyone stops immediately because suddenly everyone listens to reason and all is well again.