I don't think Haley has that understanding, "that basically anyone who has sex can realize that it takes a few times to sync up with a new partner, especially if you were drunk the first time." I would say you need time and repeated experiences. For women, if you don't find an instantaneous sexual or emotional connection, it's going to take some time if ever to have great sex. In my experience, most women need some connection including just sexual attraction to have "good sex" the first time having sex with a new person.
From everything we saw before the marriages and during the marriage