So it's not the fat that's the problem per se. It's the nitrates, processed meats of who knows what, and sugar drenched sauce!
Everyone keeps talking about the evils of eating fat, but it's been proven over and over again that processed food and sugar is the real issue. It's a bit self-congratulatory to say that the nasty fat on steaks you don't touch is why you aren't like these people. @libgirl2 Also, taking off the fat off meat before cooking, causes it to dry out faster and not retain flavor and juices.
Over 40 and killing myself at the gym did not work for me, even when I thought I was eating clean. Cutting out all processed food and added sugar did. I was close to 180 at 5'7 and now 149 without even dieting or calorie counting. Someone told me about Whole30, which helped me get started. Now I mostly eat Primal and don't worry about cutting off the fat. Full fat cottage cheese, and the rest is better than processed fat-free versions.