My dad died when I was 24 and living across the country. He was in the hospital, but had been improving when I found out, but due to finances, I planned to go a week later and he died in that week. Though he was sick, because they said he was improving, it was still somewhat of a shock. Perhaps they feel the loss more deeply too because when he went back in, they for at least a moment, knew how foolish it was to go back for a dog and that was his death warrant, but seeing him come out and be at least on the surface, very little worse for the wear felt like he cheated death for good. All but Kevin likely grieved twice.
My dad had some serious flaws that my head can acknowledge, in my heart he is loved like he had none. And I think the same is true for the Pearsons, and perhaps why all we see is the good. Even twenty years later, as daddy’s girl (coincidentally, the only girl of three) I experience grief on a small way i’d say weekly, so I relate to Kate. I have no idea the exact date and I’ve consciously never tried to find out. In fact, I think it might have been yesterday as I watched the episode. Like Randall, I celebrate his birthday, which is also in February, some years with cake and watching videos of him, sometimes just remembering the happy times.
Back to the episode, I too was upset that a father would tell his kid that she was his #1. It’s possible when talking to his other kid, he says the same thing. That said, it’s probably true and though the other kid feels love, she probably knows it without saying. But still shitty of him because it’s possible in times of sibling fighting, she could throw that at her sister.