My thoughts on Jude and Connor are that Connor doesn't care if Jude is gay, it's that he wants to please his dad so he will go along with what he wants. Based on how Connor's dad was directing and coaching him at the batting cages and his reaction ("I'm supposed to be good at this"), he plays baseball and will no longer sleep over at the Fosters' because he wants to please his dad. I don't think he likes the decision.