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That's pretty judgemental and offensive. I already said Callie was wrong for reading it the way she did. That doesn't change the fact that Arizona knew that she read it wrong and rather than talking to her went to a lawyer. Disregarding the content of my posts by misrepresenting me as not being able to see when my "fav" is at fault is ironic and implies a desire to not have a conversation but call someone out for not seeing it the same way as you do. I think I'm done discussing this with you.

I thought about that too. She seemed to really make that decision at that moment.

Just to go back to the same cycle they had before. It makes no sense.

The thing is Arizona knew she misunderstood the advice. A conversation where she used her words would have been better than burning down whatever good feelings they had between each other. Callie makes poor decisions, but the thing is so does Arizona. I have sympathy for Arizona to a point but she just as badly messes things up because she refuses to tell Callie what's what before going from 0-100. Neither thinks things through.

Can I ask how beyond this situation, Callie's character has been assassinated?

Same problems even though they've been apart for so long. The writers lack any sort of creativity.

Hyperbole. She was trying to figure out a way to make things work and read into what Arizona said. Sure, she read it the wrong way but the other person could have corrected her assumption and didn't.

The thing is, Arizona didn't outright say, yeah do long distance. I do agree she meant that and Callie heard it the way she wanted to, but it also could have been Arizona saying go to New York and you can come back and visit.The words were purposely left open to interpretation. It was clear to us, but it wasn't firmly stated, the words were purposely ambiguous so that a misunderstanding could occur.The one thing that is clear, Arizona knew Callie misinterpreted her advice and rather than talk to her, she went to a lawyer. Does it mean I think either are not responsible for this mess? No, they both are.

The thing is she misunderstood Arizona's advice and thought it was okay to go and take Sofia. She was planning on staying. She clearly was not trying to be selfish. Arizona could have used her words but she didn't. There is no character assassination going on in my opinion.

This is the thing that gets me. Callie is clearly trying to do things differently than she has done in the past. She even alluded to that in this past episode, so that would indicate a level of growth. She certainly has some of the qualities she always has had though, they all do. Arizona can be recklessly impulsive and she proved that yet again by going to the lawyer without talking to Callie. None of them have grown out of a lot of their worst habits, not just Callie.

This! People already deciding poor victimized Arizona was in the right to file for custody makes me shake my head. Callie thought after their conversation that Arizona was telling her to do what she had to in order to make it work with Penny, even if she had to move. She assumed something, wrongly, but she thought Arizona was giving her blessing. Arizona not talking to her before hightailing it to the lawyer is all kinds of messed up. Neither is wrapped in glory at this moment.

In real life. In drama and thrillville? Who knows what shit they are going to pull.

At first that's how I saw it but now seeing how it's playing out, I think there is a specific reason the highlighted it so much. You're welcome. I looked back and realized it sounded like I was talking from a real life perspective. I can't with this show though. Lol.

Okay, see I'm not talking about this from a real life legal standpoint. I couldn't. This is Grey's spec and because they do drama for the sake of drama. They always say the show is not about the kids, yet here we are. I also believe they highlighted Arizona's dating habits for this specific reason, otherwise why not just have her meet somebody? I get the desire to relate real life instances, I've done it, but ultimately this show is not often based in reality.

Scenario: what if Callie decides to take the year off while in New York? That way when Sofia's not in school she's with Callie.

Certainly in real life you would prioritize Sofia.Callie wanting Sofia shows just how much she prioritized her. One year in New York is not going to break her. The fact remains a mother in a relationship of many months is going to be looked at more favorably than a mother who randomly hooks up. I'm not begrudging Arizona either. She's single and free to date however she wants, but it's not stable and save for Callie that in general has been her dating history. She can make all the promises she wants but the fact remains that it doesn't look good and would surely be used as a mark against her character by any good lawyer. What if Arizona is the one who doesn't want to work with Callie in order to figure out something for that year? Doesn't that make her look bad? Right now, we'll see what Arizona decides to do tomorrow and go from there. The story hasn't been told so it's hard to say who's going to look bad.

One thing we've seen though is Callie is not that person. She's not selfish.She has a huge heart so I'm thinking that a person she's been seeing for months that she sees a future with is not just some whim. If she wants to go is it selfish? Sure, but it's because she wants to be with this person. If she wants to take Sofia? That's no more selfish than Arizona wanting to keep her. They both love their daughter. Like you said it's a year. Why is it all on Callie to make it work? Because she's the one who wants to leave? So what? She wants to leave because this person she cares about is moving. It's also on Arizona to make it work and not just by forcing a custody battle to keep Sofia there. There is a happy medium that exists where it could work, but both have to want to make some compromises. Not one or the other. Again, just my opinion. I'm still not going to come down on either one until I see what happens. I understand it's a speculation thread, but speculation about a storyline is one thing. Deciding a character is already in the wrong is another thing especially when it hasn't played out. On a side note, I'm not saying you've made a decision, but it's clear some have. Who said Callie was leaving Sofia?To be honest, I think this is Grey's amping up drama. Nothing more.

As opposed to the bisexual biological parent?The custody battle sucks but either way it's not about LGBT and about Grey's upping the drama quotient.

Again, my feeling is, if Callie feels that strongly about pursuing a life with Penny, there is nothing wrong with wanting to include Sofia in that life.It doesn't mean cutting Arizona out. Having said that, I'm not going to give either a hard time and decide what either one should do until I see how it plays out. This fandom gets torn apart by snap judgements and what one or the other is doing wrong. The story hasn't even begun to play out and people have already decided Callie's in the wrong.

I never said you did. It's the implication from others that my response and earlier ones were about. The fact is both have a right to want Sofia with them. Neither one is wrong in this scenario. The only wrong thing might be how each goes about this situation but I'm going to reserve judgement until I see how it plays out.

If this was real life sure, but this is Grey's. I'm not about to say Callie is an awful person for wanting to pursue a life with Penny and wanting to include Sofia in that life.

To me it's still basically telling one parent to give up their child. The situation may not be ideal, but at it's core both have every right to want her with them, even if it's for a year. Sofia may be better served staying in Seattle or she may be better served going to New York. My friend's mom had to go away for school for about a year. Should she have left her daughter with the grandparents so as not to uproot her? It didn't damage my friend. In fact that new experience was beneficial. I don't for a second think Callie is leaving. I think this is all for drama.

Stability is more than just about staying in a familiar place.Children move all the time and they are none the worse. Children of divorced parents move too and are fine. They go back to visit the other parent and are fine. Callie is in a relationship, with another doctor, that for better or worse is stable. Arizona randomly hooks up with women and lives with an intern who also brings women home. That is not going to work in Arizona's favor no matter how you cut it.

Absolutely and I think if it were as simple as that Callie would agree. I'm not saying this is you, but a lot of what I've seen is how awful it is for Callie to even consider moving away with Sofia. Apparently, Callie's happiness is far outweighed by Arizona's for some.

Grey's version of drama. Utter disappointment.