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That's true! I don't know how my dad will be. I mean, he's been really happy, but I still don't see him in person often. He says he'll be around more...I'll just have to see. If he's around, I will be far less likely to want to be separated ..for myself and my son. He won't travel to NC, so 2 months would be too long. My mom doesn't understand why my dad and I are up each others' butts when he's around, but oh well. It's jealousy I think.

Yes, I have , but I mentioned it to my mom, and she flipped out. Her plan is to come mid-September and stay a month. Then, come get me and drive me to NC for a month or two for Christmas. .......... I have a cat. I can't leave him and won't leave him that long. I had to leave him two months when I was in the hospital. And even though we were living with my dad then, I worried every day. I still think back to it and hold him and say I'm sorry. I hate to think he thought i'd left him or had been injured :/ He's elderly, and they are two terrible months we can never get back. Ill go back for Christmas, but not for that long and only if my dad will move my cat in with him during that time!

When he kicks, it sometimes is fluttering. Other times, it's enough to just slightly see my stomach move. But, that's just a couple episodes per day total. I'm trying to just stay relaxed. I'm in my twentieth week now. Made it this far at least. My mom is strange about this. Normally, like yours stewedsquash, she overreacts. But, she told me that she can't remember ever worrying when she was pregnant. She thinks she just assumed everything would be fine bc it's so rare something bad happens. I'm personally in the camp of liking to be informed of the good and bad. I'd rather mildly worry each day than to be blindsided by something horrible. But, I respect everyone's way of thinking on this. I just don't relate to my mom, but I am glad she hasn't stressed me out about the baby's health.

Oh, stewedsquash, you aren't and weren't a failure. I'm so sorry you thought that. There is so, so much to worry about having babies. I knew some of them before I got pregnant but had no idea i would worry every day about something going wrong. I'm so glad your pregnancies and children ended up okay. I worry about movement. He moves sometimes but I still don't feel him all day. The biggest movement I felt was when he turned back over after the ultrasound tech flipped him over with the wand. He liked to be curled up faced down. But, I have certainly read online that every woman feels her baby's movements differently. It's no sign of being a good or bad parent. We care and try, and that's what matters.

Oh, no, I very much doubt I'll call him JW. Just thinking ahead. Me being upset has little to do with what will probably actually happen and more just the attitude. If I stick to what I'm planning, he's going to have four names with the first two initials making the often used JW.

It's really that I'd like her to agree to make an effort. She's not incapable of speaking one specific name without an accent. She always spoke pretty much without an accent at work. It's really about how she keeps inserting her negative opinions of names I pick out. Half my family is Indian/African. Several of the names take more practice to get right, and I know I'm not perfect in saying them bc I don't have an Indian accent. But, my mom is American and she can say the word double. On one hand, I'd like to be able to talk to her about my name choices. On the other, a give an inch, she takes a mile. She starts right up like she's my husband. It's not her decision. I'd be fine if she said, "I'd try, but I might still mess up sometimes. But, I'd respect the pronounciation of his name." It's the going off on how initial names are ugly and common that upset me. I mean, I'm hurt to even think what she'd say if I go with a Muslim or Indian name. I've talked with her directly before. She said she understood. Then she asks me more questions, but quickly slips back into criticizing like it's her choice. I've told her I don't need to know a list of names she hates and why. Constructive criticism would be pointing out that the initials spelled something strange, for example. Thank you for sharing about your experiences. Did you share name ideas beforehand with friends or family? Times like this a husband would be nice. It's lonely to keep things inside. Forgot to add- I do think I have a little bit of an accent but it's not like my mom's. It's more just my voice rather than dropping off whole syllables or changing them about. If I'm not thinking I say "ah" for "I". But, like my mom, if I'm thinking, I'm perfectly capable of saying it correctly. It's more when I'm overly excited.

I think that's why I've made a major effort to cut down getting angry or annoyed at driver behavior. I can be right all day, but in the end, what can be done? I just take a deep breath and avoid the person. You're right- keep safe best I can. I have no idea who is in a car or what state of mind they're in while driving. It's like metro riders who don't make eye contact or talk to strangers. Sure another passenger can be annoying but they'd rather not get stabbed. I think being inside a car makes ppl feel invincible. Well, they're not.

Hmph. Several years ago in a Walmart parking lot I honked at a woman who cut across lanes and almost hit me. I parked. She passed me as I was walking. I waved and gave a big smile as she flipped me off. I ran in to get one item. Came back. My car was keyed around the entire car. I waited for her to come back. She denied it. I called the police. Even though they had her go by my car one way to get a cart and back the other way around my car with the cart on video, the video quality was too poor for them to actually see her key it. She denied it when they visited her house. We had to pay 3 grand to get my car repainted. I was angry with her and the police (though yes, I get it)... But, I did learn that even though it's not fair, people can do really nasty things even when they started the inappropriate behavior. It's not worth 3 grand to show my ass to even a "deserving" person. Now I rarely honk...And only if I'm not close to home or my destination. That experience burns my butt every time I think about it.

That's funny. Yeah, I could see myself doing the same thing but hopefully not! I don't know what shape I'll be in after labor. I guess no one ever does. I'm trying to prepare myself now to just not say any words. Even if I'm screaming in pain- just keep it as a scream. Don't include words. I can be mean :/

Hope your daughter is all better now! What sweet nicknames. :) I love nicknames, too. My dad's is frog, and mine is miss piggy. Well...no one else other than my dad calls me that, but it's fun. I think I'm fairly set on the name. I thought girl names were more fun for some reason, but if I have a girl later on, at least I've got a list and a top favorite.

Ugh! Warning: baby name talk... I've decided what I think will be my son's name. It's long and I will see what name or nickname fits him as time goes by. I'm fine if he prefers one name over another later. Anyway, I had realized that one option would be to go by JW. I doubt I'll call him that as a baby, but he could like it later. Who knows. So, I texted my mom and asked if she would be able to consistently pronounce JW as double U, not dubya. (She's southern). She says maybe not. She'll stick to the first name and how she doesn't like initial names anyway. I.really.dont.care what she likes or hates. Maybe she took my question as if I were rude. I don't know. But, seriously, I lived at the W Hotel...she called it dubya. She has a friend JW- it's dubya. Pres Bush....dubya Bush. It's not making fun. It's what she and the rest of her family say!!!! Just ranting. Accents can affect pronounciations of names. I think it's respectful to at least be willing to try to say the name correctly rather than acting like it's dumb to even make the effort. Oh yes. I've made her mad. So true to my normal self who can't let things go I said.. It's not like anyone would say "double trouble" or "bubble gum" as dubya troubya or bubbya gum"

To me, this is when I try to be aware. Has a car been sitting in a driveway for longer than we've been at the lights or did they just roll up? Are there breaks in traffic? I do think it's fair to let a car in every so often. It's like the zipper method when a lane is closed/ blocked on a road. Tangent......Certainly, I see a lot in driving that often people don't want to wait one more second than they utterly have to wait. The issue is, on the road, we're all going somewhere. We all *generally* have an interest in not wrecking our cars or getting into an accident. We have to sort of play nice even when we don't want to do so. Key word is "we." There are some ppl who never let anyone in if they can help it. There are others who usually let lots in the lane. It works out how it is. Driving isn't a videogame. And the fact that it takes constant decisions- exactly what speed am I going, what lane do I drive in, etc means ... well, there are endless opportunities to annoy or be annoyed. I think it also matters where you live. Jay walking is almost like two different things in many ways when comparing Manhattan to Fort Worth, TX. And, of course some people have baaaaabies with them ;) Sorry, wanted to throw that out there. Meant in a humorous way. DeLurker, I normally just try to ignore it unless it's my dad. Then I sit on him ;) between his bony legs and my bony butt, it gets the point across. I didn't try this at church last night with a stranger! Group too small to move without seeming rude I thought. B

When someone is in a class or meeting but shakes their leg uncontrollably (?). It often either shakes a row of seats or their shoes make a squeaking noise. I understand if it's compulsive but can't they alter some factors at all?

That's interesting to me. I was going to write the following but had decided against it. Now, I think I will...This afternoon I stopped in an Einstein's Bagels bakery. I was in line behind/standing beside a man. We waited a minute for the cashier. When she arrives the man orders a total of about 50 bagels. 4 Asiago cheese. 7 sesame. 6 onion. Etc. sliced. Creamed cheese. Pastries...... Finally, he's done. While he's waiting for a heated item, I order my one, unheated cheese bagel and a cup for self serve soda. I, of course, said not a word. It was his turn. I have no clue if he was in a hurry. It was fine either way. I just know had the situation had been reversed, I would have asked the one other person in line if they had a small order. It took me less than 2 min to order, get the bagel handed to me, and pay. Plus, he took the bagel I wanted :/ the one little bagel while he off the top of his head rattled off (random?) numbers and types of bagels. He had no exact list. He was looking at the case just saying whatever. At the end he even said...."hmmm...I'll take about 5 more of....surprise me!" He emptied out 3 bins of bagels. Just not considerate. Don't worry, I didn't hit him or curse him out ;) Just...thought it was inconsiderate.

He sounds inappropriate. It's like...do you two have a playful relationship or he just sends you weird stuff? Doesn't really matter either way..that's just the thought that pops into my mind. Certainly not trying to be nosey. I mean, I personally find the picture inappropriate, especially to be sending to a coworker, and why is he lecturing you? "This is parenting?" I could see a friend doing that if the two are often joking about one really not wanting kids, etc. but, the key there to me is *friends* and *joking.*

Maybe part of it for me is that I don't work and don't go out often socially. I try to assess someone's interest about my pregnancy. I'm sure I don't always get it right, but for any topic, I try very hard now to not stay on it for too long. Say something or answer a question in a sentence or two. Then keep doing that if more questions arise and try to ask a question back. I don't like interacting socially. It's just a constant struggle. Even if twenty conversations go well, the next could doom the relationship.

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Hopefully big grocery stores won't become obsolete with online ordering. Maybe we'll just have markets again. That wouldn't be awful in many ways, but of course you can't see the product in person and you have to wait for non-perishables.

I haven't seen this yet, but I agree Matthias is good looking. I saw him in The Loft. I think he looks better on film moving than in a picture.

Just feel like saying.... I got the call- Great news!!!!! Testing was negative for Down syndrome or trisonomy or spina bifida! Sorry, just quite happy everything is looking great for my pregnancy so far.

I'd rather have ice cream and pound cake ....Unless we're talking about the store bought white powdered mini donuts. I haven't eaten those since high school.

I have a question about my cat. He's 15 and has always slept in my bed. We are very close. For the past few months even if I put him in bed, he leaves and goes to sleep on the couch. Every night he at some point comes back. He's always in bed with me when I wake up. I think his health is fine. He eats okay and I bring him to the vet on schedule. During the day, he never goes off on his own Perhaps this is a question without an answer since I can't ask him. Just thought I'd give it a shot. He doesn't seem sick or angry. There are no other animals here. I am pregnant. Oh, and I now normally wake up to a toy he has brought me during the night, too.

When I was in high school in the early 2000s, I completely thought the style was just "normal" clothes. I completely thought we had no specific/discernible style...just things like tees, jeans, and sundresses. Boy was I wrong. There are fun buzzfeed.com articles that have examples of the style- platform sandals, toe rings, wide leg jeans, etc. It amuses me now, and then I wonder what I'll think of my personal style in ten years.

I just read on FB that "smol" is a new (?) slang word meaning....small? Has anyone else heard this? I don't understand why this would be popular if it even is popular. Is it a blending of small and any other word? Not picking on "postalcrastinate" I promise! That's cute and actually means something. Smol I don't understand. Is it simply small misspelled? Feel free to enlighten me if I'm missing something.