shapeshifter June 13 Share June 13 3 minutes ago, EtheltoTillie said: @Milburn Stone I'm just adding something to the condo conversation. I see that @shapeshifter had posted something about no elevators in her building. So she doesn't like her condo, but that's not really because it's a condo, but rather her particular condo And, it’s in the 80s today but the pool is still closed — which is depressing. 1 Link to comment
supposebly June 13 Share June 13 18 hours ago, chitowngirl said: I’m getting anxious and over stressed about driving my son to the airport for his honeymoon. I thought it was going to be drive to their house (about an hour away), pick them up and take them to JFK. They live west of Philly. Well now I find out my DIL is taking the train with the luggage to the airport because my son has to work. He doesn’t know how long, it depends on the deliveries he has to do. We have to leave not much later than noon to get to JFK by 4pm for their International flight at 7pm. On a Friday. And he wants to take a quick shower. He also thought we could swing by his place for this, which takes us off the Tollway and adds time. If he gets done in good order, he can shower at my place since we live down the road from his work. If I can’t put the pedal to the metal, he misses his flight. So I’m anxious and stressed and will be for a week and a half. And I know that I have no control over when he gets done with work, traffic, etc….but the brain won’t/can’t shut off and stop overthinking 🥲 In addition to everyone else's good advice, tell him to skip the shower. As someone who gets very anxious to get to the airport with time to spare, esp. larger airports, every minute counts! 2 1 Link to comment
shapeshifter June 13 Share June 13 (edited) 2 hours ago, chitowngirl said: I messaged them this: 🟢do online check-in as soon as it’s available. 🟢DIL checks in and pays for the 2 suitcases online so she can just drop them off when she gets there (bags should both be in her name). 🟢Son pleads with boss to get him out as soon as she can. 🟢I would think we would need to be on the road no later than noon to get son to JFK by 4:00. 🟢Son should just have his carry-on. 🟢He’ll leave his car with us and dad and I will get it back to his house.… ✅ ✅ ✅ ☑️ ✅ ✅ Tell him no later than 11:30 a.m. This allows for the inevitable: "sorry, I was running late because… 2 hours ago, chitowngirl said: …Did I miss anything? Does this all sound good? Travel time now from here to JFK is 3 hours 15 minutes. 10 minutes ago, supposebly said: In addition to everyone else's good advice, tell him to skip the shower. As someone who gets very anxious to get to the airport with time to spare, esp. larger airports, every minute counts! Yes to telling him to skip the shower and tell him you're bringing a full package of wet wipes. Edited June 13 by shapeshifter 2 Link to comment
chitowngirl June 13 Share June 13 11 minutes ago, supposebly said: In addition to everyone else's good advice, tell him to skip the shower. As someone who gets very anxious to get to the airport with time to spare, esp. larger airports, every minute counts! His sister and I told him that! Thanks everyone! Just typing all that out with a plan to them (and you!!) helps with the stress. Ativan helps too! Travel time to JFK is 3:33 😁 1 1 Link to comment
shapeshifter June 14 Share June 14 (edited) I posted this in the Family issues thread, but… On 6/11/2024 at 10:15 AM, shapeshifter said: Has anyone ever wondered if their second grandbaby got switched at birth in the hospital because they look so different? My daughter laughed at this and assured me her husband was with the baby the entire time (she had a C-section), but it was just a really weird feeling. Here I was, holding this beautiful 5-month-old, looking at me adoringly, and wondering… …when I shared the experience with my therapist yesterday — explaining more in depth how upset I felt (I suggested it might be like a panic attack, but I don't get those, so…?) — she suggested that I was feeling "paranoia." 🤔 It's not so much about my being wrong, it's how I felt in the moment. There's a line in one of the later books by Laura Ingalls Wilder / Rose Wilder Lane that describes this feeling like being at the top of the basement stairs, and taking the first step, but there's nothing there except darkness. ETA: After applying some of my retired-academic-librarian-google-fu skills, I skimmed this article and wonder if it could be related to the "lesions" on my brain that I was told several years ago were "typical" for someone with lifelong migraines. 🫤Something else to be "paranoid" about?? Edited June 15 by shapeshifter 3 Link to comment
shapeshifter June 16 Share June 16 I only heard the last 20 minutes of this episode of Hidden Brain, but it was very timely for anyone considering career moves: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/why-you-feel-empty/ And I always love listening to Shankar Vedantam's voice. 2 Link to comment
EtheltoTillie June 17 Share June 17 On 6/14/2024 at 11:40 AM, shapeshifter said: I posted this in the Family issues thread, but… …when I shared the experience with my therapist yesterday — explaining more in depth how upset I felt (I suggested it might be like a panic attack, but I don't get those, so…?) — she suggested that I was feeling "paranoia." 🤔 It's not so much about my being wrong, it's how I felt in the moment. There's a line in one of the later books by Laura Ingalls Wilder / Rose Wilder Lane that describes this feeling like being at the top of the basement stairs, and taking the first step, but there's nothing there except darkness. ETA: After applying some of my retired-academic-librarian-google-fu skills, I skimmed this article and wonder if it could be related to the "lesions" on my brain that I was told several years ago were "typical" for someone with lifelong migraines. 🫤Something else to be "paranoid" about?? I’ve held off on commenting on this. Maybe too many late night visits to Dr Google but don’t want to discount your feelings. That article seems to describe a very rare phenomenon. I’d be interested to hear more about the therapist’s opinion. 1 Link to comment
chitowngirl June 22 Share June 22 (edited) Long story short-we made it to JFK on time!! The Long Story-son got here at noon, took the quick shower. I checked the time to JFK. We were good. He said the plane is already delayed because they left the previous destination late. Fabulous! Get on the road. He’s on the phone with DIL. She’s at 30th St. Station in Philly, but there was that power outage and they keep pushing her train departure time back. I asked if we should just go to the station and fetch her? She’s not responding. We get to the point where the PA Turnpike splits into the Schuylkill expressway. No word. Get to next exit which could get us to the Schuylkill. No word. When we get to the Fort Washington exit, I pulled over. He got a hold of her, but she couldn’t decide if we should fetch her. I said we’re coming to get her. Of course, now I’m driving all through Philly. We get her at the station, pick up 95 and head for the NJ Turnpike. Amazingly, we are still good on time. No problems in NJ and surprisingly, breezed through Staten Island. Then on the Verrazano, I saw what the Beltway looked like! Oy! Had no choice, joined in the fun and crawled to JFK. Thank goodness for the plane delay, but we were good! Ironically, if I would have just picked her up at their house like I thought I was going to, we would have avoided all traffic!! eta-the 3:30 trip took 5:15 with the Philly detour 😆 Edited June 22 by chitowngirl 2 2 6 Link to comment
shapeshifter June 22 Share June 22 1 hour ago, chitowngirl said: Thank goodness for the plane delay, Those plane delays have saved many vacations! Thanks for letting us know. So no wet wipes were needed.😆 2 1 Link to comment
EtheltoTillie June 24 Share June 24 Thanks for letting us know @chitowngirl that was even worse than I could have imagined. The Belt Parkway is not for sissies. Link to comment
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