buffyjunkie July 19, 2015 Share July 19, 2015 Man the world is a rough place. My condolences to the family's loss Chyna. And Harvester providing an initial safe haven is a huge help. Valny those lyrics rock. And I completely agree romantic regarding Tatiana. 2 Link to comment
cko July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 Hey, all, I slipped off the grid for a bit but I'm back. :-) Hugs to Barphe, we are here for you! And a good ol'pat on the back to Erratic, you are a marvel. And harvester is a good friend. Very sad for the family, Chyna's friends. So glad we can hang together here, support each other, and actually consider listening to country music just because val and trudi recommend it. harvester, I facebooked you, but do want to meet you in SF for dinner this week!!! How's Wednesday? Better text me, as my visits here are kinda patchy... 1 Link to comment
Endeavour July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 Chyna, that is terrible. You're already doing a lot to help your friend, Harvester. You're a great friend. It's been humid for days. Today was the worst. I need some advice. We have a buyer who is closing on their home a few weeks before they would close on the one we are selling. They want to rent until it closes. They wouldn't move in until their place closes, inspection is done and agreed to and appraisal accepted by their lender and they have a firm mortgage commitment. I would be sure a very large down payment was made that is non-refundable if they don't close on the house we are selling. Everything would be in a contract. I understand they need somewhere to live, but I've also read horror stories. I know someone who has done this recently and it all worked out but it seems like the risk to us is huge if something goes wrong. Everyone's thoughts and advice are welcome. Link to comment
Chyna July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 Harvester, you say you don't know how to help, but giving your friend a safe place to stay is huge. Vibes to your friend and the journey she has ahead of her. Link to comment
romantic idiot July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 (edited) What is the risk to you, Endeavour? That they will move in and refuse to leave? They will be paying rent. Even if they do drop out, they could do that at any time before closing and you wouldn't be able to do anything about it. You'd need to find a new buyer anyway. There is a risk that they'd trash your place...And I'm assuming your agent won't be paid till the sale is done. So I'd suggest that you request a security deposit against any damage done to your house which you will subtract from the sale price. Unless you have someone else who is willing to buy sooner, I don't see a major issue. Maybe the rent could be same as the amount you currently pay as your mortgage? I guess looking at the tenancy laws would also be good, in case you do need to have them evicted. Edited July 20, 2015 by romantic idiot 1 Link to comment
Endeavour July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 (edited) I don't think there is way to figure out how much risk - just that a lot of things could go wrong. The closing could fall through because someone loses a job or some other reason; there could be damage to the home; someone could get hurt; there's no guarantee rent would be paid and then you're dealing with eviction, etc. I would love to believe it will all go smoothly but, after my last experience, I'm a little leery. I've not had the best of luck so far with this. Edited July 20, 2015 by Endeavour Link to comment
Chyna July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 On a lighter note, and because I know you all will understand: Tiny C is blowing through the Harry Potter books this summer, and she's about 3/4 done with Prisoner of Azkaban. She's at the part where everyone is heading toward the Shrieking Shack for that big climactic scene... and it was time to leave for a week of overnight camp so she had to put it away. For a week. She was DYING. 4 Link to comment
Endeavour July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 Oh, I can imagine how difficult that was! 1 Link to comment
Erratic July 20, 2015 Share July 20, 2015 Poor kid. But the nice thing is that she has something to come home for. ;) 1 Link to comment
Harvester July 21, 2015 Share July 21, 2015 (edited) I loved watching my nephew experience those books, and I bet TinyC is beyond adorable. Does she have any strong opinions about the characters? Has she checked out Pottermore? I was underwhelmed, but kids love it. What is her house? I am a Slytherin. I even took the damned test twice and lied on one. The Sorting Hat knows. Edited July 21, 2015 by Harvester 5 Link to comment
Chyna July 21, 2015 Share July 21, 2015 Tiny C is is the puffiest of Hufflepuffs. No question. I'm Ravenclaw. When Chynette takes those online quizzes, they always say either Ravenclaw or Gryffindor. I can see both of those for her--she's the Hermione around here. 2 Link to comment
trudi-tru July 21, 2015 Share July 21, 2015 Harvester, you are doing a great thing for that person. I hope she finds the strenght to stay away for good. Endeavour, I'm afraid I don't have any useful suggestion as I have never been in a similar situation. There is no way to predict how things will turn out, so if you have so many doubts and it causes you too much stress, then don't rent it. Can you talk to the potential buyers, express your fears and see if they'd be willing to rent a place till the closing and then buy your house? I'm a Gryffindor. I am not too crazy about Pottermore. 1 Link to comment
AnnieF July 21, 2015 Share July 21, 2015 Every test I've ever taken comes up Ravenclaw, which sounds about right. Today is mine and the mister's 25th wedding anniversary. It's been quite a time so far. :) 4 Link to comment
KittenPokerCheater July 21, 2015 Share July 21, 2015 Woot Annief! Also, I want to send all the books I loved as a kid to TinyC. Has she read the Dealing with Dragons series yet (the first book is iffy but the rest are brilliant). harvester, you are a rock star. Giving her a safe haven is so compassionate and wonderful. Barphe, are you feeling better after your fall? I hope this all works out endeavour. I've never owned a house, so I don't fully understand all the ins and outs of this. I don't know why it all has to be so hard. Can't they give you give a bankers check and then you can give them a date when they can move it (after the check as cleared)? Or is that insane troll logic? In silly news, my Dad said nothing- nothing!- about my weight loss. So I think I'm done with his obsession with weight. But I am glad that I lost the weight because tomorrow I'm doing some work in a bathing suit. Let's hope my stomach doesn't decide to get all poofy tomorrow. I'd like to look okay on camera (even though I won't look stick thin since the camera is pretty unforgiving). Fuck all ilnesses. Especially Liver disease and depression. 4 Link to comment
Endeavour July 21, 2015 Share July 21, 2015 (edited) Happy anniversary, AnnieF! Are you doing anything special for the 25th? It does seem more complicated and less straightforward than when I bought, but that was stressful too. I've never sold before. I want to be fair but not get taken advantage of. Then there are the oh so helpful conflicting family opinions. So fun. I decided on a compromise. No renting but they can store their belongings til the closing. Still have to get through inspections, appraisal, etc. Hopefully, this will work out. Keep good thoughts for me! Anti- poofy vibes to KPC. Glad you're making progress with your father. Try not to let him stress you out. I think I tested Gryffindor, but it's been a while so I'm not sure. Off to find out... ETA: I took a few and Ravenclaw seems to be it. Edited July 22, 2015 by Endeavour 1 Link to comment
Chyna July 22, 2015 Share July 22, 2015 Has she read the Dealing with Dragons series yet? I don't think so--we'll have to look for them at the library once she finishes HP. I'm so glad she finally got hooked on them. She has a tendency to read the same things over and over, which would be fine over a short time, but since she's becoming a better reader every year, she's rereading stuff that's waaaay too easy for her. I think it's like comfort food. But she needs to read more challenging, longer books now. We tried to get her to read HP last year but she was put off by how thick the book was and didn't really give it a fair shake. This time, she's caught the bug! 2 Link to comment
Darkpool July 22, 2015 Share July 22, 2015 In silly news, my Dad said nothing- nothing!- about my weight loss. So I think I'm done with his obsession with weight. But I am glad that I lost the weight because tomorrow I'm doing some work in a bathing suit. Let's hope my stomach doesn't decide to get all poofy tomorrow. I'd like to look okay on camera (even though I won't look stick thin since the camera is pretty unforgiving). Here's hoping you never give his opinion another thought again. Sending vibes for a photogenic day tomorrow. I tried out Pottermore and sorted into Ravenclaw. No surprise there. Ever since I discovered the books, I assumed I'd be either Ravenclaw or Hufflepuff. 1 Link to comment
Barphe July 22, 2015 Share July 22, 2015 Hi KPC, I'm healing well. The colors of the bruises are fantastic, but unless I bang my elbow into something (which, since I am a klutz, is a fairly regular occurrence), nothing hurts. I'm glad your dad didn't mention your weight, your profession is demanding enough, and besides, you are gorgeous. I've never tried the sorting hat, but I assume I'd be a Hufflepuff or Ravenclaw, although, really my heart is in Gryffindor, which is why I don't want to know...... My new stove comes today. Why do they even bother with a four hour delivery window, when effectively it means I'm chained to my house for the day? 3 Link to comment
Barphe July 24, 2015 Share July 24, 2015 Random knitting question. I am knitting in the round on circular needles, is there any way to decrease without switching to double pointed needles? Link to comment
AnnieF July 24, 2015 Share July 24, 2015 (edited) Random knitting question. I am knitting in the round on circular needles, is there any way to decrease without switching to double pointed needles?Only if you have a flux capacitor. ;)Venting: I have a lot of Facebook "friends" who are CCSVI people, active in MS advocacy. And every now and then someone will post about their venoplasty anniversary, and how it's been X number of years and they still feel great, and I'm just...I know it isn't right, but atm my reaction is white-hot rage. Because it didn't last for me, and it just...isn't fair. Ha. Having a very hard time right now not being extremely angry at everyone and everything. Edited July 24, 2015 by AnnieF 3 Link to comment
Chyna July 24, 2015 Share July 24, 2015 I bet, AnnieF. I know how disappointed we all were when it didn't work for you, so I'm sure your disappointment is that x 1,000,000. To have it work and then have it taken away has to be horrible. Random knitting question. I am knitting in the round on circular needles, is there any way to decrease without switching to double pointed needles? You can use the magic loop method. It's pretty awkward to do at first, but you'll get the hang of it. Link to comment
AnnieF July 24, 2015 Share July 24, 2015 To have it work and then have it taken away has to be horrible. Yes. And it's been interesting for me to see in myself all of the usual human behaviors that come out: bargaining, denial, misplaced anger. Because of course it's not the fault of the people whose veins are staying open that mine didn't. But anger wells up in me at them, which is...ugh. They have something that I also got to have, briefly. But I didn't get to keep mine. Which of course is no one's fault. But try making my brain believe that. Yeah. :( 4 Link to comment
trudi-tru July 24, 2015 Share July 24, 2015 It's a perfectly understandable reaction, Annie. I think it's good that you're allowing yourself to feel that anger. Even though it's not anyone's fault that your veins are stubbornly uncooperative, you need a target for your frustration. I think I'm done with his obsession with weight.Let's hope this sticks. 3 Link to comment
KittenPokerCheater July 25, 2015 Share July 25, 2015 AnnieF, I'm so angry on your behalf. Grrrrrrrrrr. Hope they can find something else that will help you soon. I am glad your bruises are colorful Barphe. And that you're healing. How has everyone's week been? Link to comment
Erratic July 25, 2015 Share July 25, 2015 AnnieF, It sucks. Rage the fuck away. Scream and punch things. It is unfair and wrong. And it sucks. Hard. You are one tough fighter. And all good fighters -the best - use rage and anger and impotence to fight harder. It still sucks though. :( 3 Link to comment
Endeavour July 25, 2015 Share July 25, 2015 AnnieF, I think it's completely normal to have those feelings. It does suck and I hope you're feeling better about this soon. 2 Link to comment
Barphe July 25, 2015 Share July 25, 2015 AnnieF, you deserve better. Life kicked you in the ding ding and it sucks. You have my admiration, love and mega vibes. 2 Link to comment
Loandbehold July 25, 2015 Share July 25, 2015 [bold]AnnieF [/bold], I understand what you're going through. Rage away. It's fucking unfair and you have every right to feel angry about it. Much vibage heading your way. 2 Link to comment
buffyjunkie July 26, 2015 Share July 26, 2015 Annie, I'm sorry I didn't respond sooner. I don't have any wisdom or real help to offer. I kind of hate that our society promotes this idea that if we just think happy thoughts all the time everything will be OK. Right now I am going to a friend's premie son's funeral. Some days are worse than others. But I wish for you, that you have more good kind of days, however that is defined. 2 Link to comment
KittenPokerCheater July 26, 2015 Share July 26, 2015 Hulk SMASH! I really wish we had one. He could help us all vent. Because sometimes I think it would be satisfying to have someone take down a building (with no one in it of course). Anger/Rage can be cleansing. And messy, if you knock down a building. Vibes for work, please? I am sort of seeing an old (NOT the frog) boyfriend and I am super ambivalent about the whole thing. If I am working, then I won't have time to see him. And I'd be making money... Link to comment
trudi-tru July 26, 2015 Share July 26, 2015 I'm sorry about your friend, buffyjunkie. Work and romantic vibes for KPC. Link to comment
Endeavour July 27, 2015 Share July 27, 2015 I'm sorry to hear about your friend's son, buffyjunkie. That must have been a very difficult day. Work vibes to KPC. Anger/Rage can be cleansing. I find that it can make me very productive. So it's definitely a useful emotion at times. Link to comment
buffyjunkie July 27, 2015 Share July 27, 2015 Many work vibes KPC, because as much as we love having you for ourselves, we want to share your talent with the world too. Link to comment
Darkpool July 27, 2015 Share July 27, 2015 (edited) Busy busy busy vibes for KPC. Also, do you really need the excuse of "work" to stop sort-of-seeing a guy you're "super ambivalent" about? I'd think "this isn't working for me" should be enough. Edited July 27, 2015 by Darkpool 2 Link to comment
Endeavour July 29, 2015 Share July 29, 2015 (edited) Don't want to jinx anything, but looks like we're going to close in a few weeks. Anyone watching Humans or Mr. Robot? I think I like Humans better. I'm sticking with Mr. Robot but I'm not sure what I think at this point. I don't entirely like it but will see it through. Dont know if I'll be back for S2. Guess it depends on how this one ends. Edited July 29, 2015 by Endeavour 1 Link to comment
Harvester July 29, 2015 Share July 29, 2015 Busy vibes for KPC. Congrats Endeavor! Love to AnnieF. Feel free to take your anger out on an outspoken conservative. 3 Link to comment
buffyjunkie July 30, 2015 Share July 30, 2015 Endeavor you scared the bejeezus out of me. When I first read your post I thought you were talking about this Board's website. Link to comment
KittenPokerCheater July 30, 2015 Share July 30, 2015 Thanks for the work vibes people. I'm getting work (not enough never enough), but I'll take a day whenever it shows up. Also read for a play that I didn't get. Part of me thinks these people (who I know) are fucking with me and it's a power play for them to bring me in so they can not cast me. I'm watching Mr. Robot and it's messing with my head. Is this what dropping acid is like? What do you guys think about it? Yay on the closure that shall not be named- will withhold all celebration until the ink is dry. AnnieF, I hope you're still raging if that is how you feel. Embrace whatever emotion you feel like- we got your back. 2 Link to comment
Endeavour July 31, 2015 Share July 31, 2015 I'm watching, KPC. I don't know what to think and I have no idea where it's headed. I'm very undecided about this show but I'm sticking with it for now. I think it was originally supposed to only be one season but it ended up getting renewed. I wonder how much that's changing how they planned to end this season. Sorry you didn't get the part in the play and I seriously hope no one is messing with you. Glad we're at the end of the work week. Does anyone have good plans? Nothing exciting here. Just catching up on things. I do hope we get a break in the weather. Link to comment
buffynut July 31, 2015 Share July 31, 2015 Hello folks. Just wanted to officially say hello. Buffy is one of my all time fav shows, and I was an occasional poster at TWOP and came to Previously when TWOP shut down. I post on a few show boards here, but I just drifted onto the Buffy forum and posted in the Lie to Me board, and thought perhaps I should make a more official introduction. Have added Buffy as a subscribed forum, so I will keep an eye on the discussions and chime in when I can. 3 Link to comment
trudi-tru July 31, 2015 Share July 31, 2015 Welcome, buffynut! Nice to meet you. KPC, I hope you have the wrong impression, cause otherwise it would be pretty horrible of those people. If you honestly believe that's what's happening, maybe you should stop going in for reads. 1 Link to comment
Endeavour July 31, 2015 Share July 31, 2015 Hi buffynut! Welcome. I think most of us, if not all, made the jump over from TWoP. 1 Link to comment
buffyjunkie August 2, 2015 Share August 2, 2015 Hello buffynut. Were you buffynut at the other place too? Weird question of the day: has anyone used a Turkish fouta or Peshtemal bath towel? They are being recommended as an alternative to those bulky terrycloth beach towels when traveling. There are some on Amazon for around $20, so not too bad price-wise. Link to comment
Erratic August 3, 2015 Share August 3, 2015 Dude! Babies are tiring yo. So is having your aged parents visit for 6 weeks. (10 days down!) 1 Link to comment
Darkpool August 3, 2015 Share August 3, 2015 Can you assign the baby to the parents for the next few weeks and get some sleep? 1 Link to comment
trudi-tru August 3, 2015 Share August 3, 2015 has anyone used a Turkish fouta or Peshtemal bath towel? They are being recommended as an alternative to those bulky terrycloth beach towels when traveling. I've only ever used them to lie on the grass, never as a beach towel, so I don't know if they're pratical for that. Erratic, how are your parents liking their new grandson? Link to comment
AnnieF August 4, 2015 Share August 4, 2015 Greetings to buffynut. :) Babies are tiring yo. So is having your aged parents visit for 6 weeks. (10 days down!) Six weeks. Oy. I get it, I mean, if you're gonna fly all that way, might as well make it a long trip. But oy. Are they any help with Alf? Link to comment
romantic idiot August 4, 2015 Share August 4, 2015 Yo buffynut. Vibes to all. Don't feel like writing much for a while :o( 1 Link to comment
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