S12 Episode 5 - Get the Party Started

[Yeah No]

Whitney sets new goals to get over grief and find love again, but when the planning for her niece Jaime's bachelorette party takes over, her resolutions are pushed aside and and unexpected party crasher threatens to throw everything into chaos.

I find it interesting that no one created an episode thread. Anyone can, you know, you just go to the general MBFFL forum and click on "start topic" at the above right, then just fill in what you find in your TV guide. I did it last week. I've been busy and haven't gotten around to watching this episode yet or I would have done it by now. I'm also going on vacation next week so if someone else can do it then that would be great. I'm not a mod. so I can't move the posts about this week's ep. to this new thread either.

[Gramto6]

Thanks @Yeah No! I guess there isn't a mod specific to this thread any more that would keep up with the episode topics. I'll give it a shot next week. I haven't ever created a thread but I guess I can figure it out. My only problem is I often forget the show is even on and catch a rerun later. LOL

Maybe a mod will come along and move the already posted threads applying to this post here.

Edited August 8 by Gramto6
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[Yeah No]

I finally caught up with this episode. I think she really is going through some sort of midlife crisis. I think she decided some time ago that she had until she was 40 to finally become an "adult" and now that it's here she realizes she doesn't have anything to be an adult for except to be a cool aunt and great aunt on the sidelines. And whose fault is that?  Hers! Well you know that's the thing about young people today. They think they're going to be young forever and then when 40 hits them in the face they realize they didn't have as much time as they thought. And now it's that much later and that much harder to go back and achieve all those things they thought would just be there or happen by the time they were good and ready to "settle down". I also think losing her mother pushed her into that realization because as long as she was alive she could sill see herself as the "younger generation" of women in the family. Without Babs and with Jaime she is forced to realize her age and what she has neglected to achieve in life.

At least she's acknowledging all this now, including how old she feels next to Jaime and her friends. And she does seem to be hanging out more with her older half sister, too.

What gets me with a lot of people of her generation is how they are all doing the things in their 30s that my generation did when we were in our 20s. A lot of women's marriage and baby clocks were ringing loudly at age 30 so that's when a lot of them settled down. But today increasingly women in their 30s seem to think they can put it off marriage and kids until they are 40 and that's not always realistic. I'm seeing this with my friends' children in that age bracket. I think they're living in denial.

So I was right that she prefers to be married or at least have an SO before she has kids. I figured that from the way she was acting. But if so she certainly didn't respond with enough urgency to get that accomplished, frozen eggs or no frozen eggs. I just don't know what some of these young people are thinking.

She's a reviewer for "adult toys"?  Just the thought of her and that in the same sentence is making me sick to my stomach! 🤮

 

[Dibs]

I agree that she's having a midlife - or existential - crisis.  It's not coincidental that the pizza box contract stipulated that she and Buddy would marry if they were still single at that age.  He barely dodged a bullet there.  Thanks, Courtney! 

Whitney is obviously terrified of living and dying alone; her friends are all dropping off, men are scarce, her eggs are aging, Glenn won't live forever, and Hunter at least appears on TV to be working toward a life of his own.

She's desperately latching on to this new family (I would need a second DNA test to confirm the connection, myself) I suppose in hopes that she will be the indulgent "cool aunt" who will be forever cherished and cared for, but I don't know how that's going to work out.  They seem to me like they're just in it for the money and fame assuming this is even real. 

As a single cat lady myself, I can relate and will happily watch.

 

 

Edited August 9 by Dibs

[Yeah No]

4 hours ago, Dibs said:

I agree that she's having a midlife - or existential - crisis.  It's not coincidental that the pizza box contract stipulated that she and Buddy would marry if they were still single at that age.  He barely dodged a bullet there.  Thanks, Courtney! 

Whitney is obviously terrified of living and dying alone; her friends are all dropping off, men are scarce, her eggs are aging, Glenn won't live forever, and Hunter at least appears on TV to be working toward a life of his own.

She's desperately latching on to this new family (I would need a second DNA test to confirm the connection, myself) I suppose in hopes that she will be the indulgent "cool aunt" who will be forever cherished and cared for, but I don't know how that's going to work out.  They seem to me like they're just in it for the money and fame assuming this is even real. 

As a single cat lady myself, I can relate and will happily watch.

I think in her case her fear of dying alone is very real because she knows that her "barnacles", including this new family, are only hanging around her for the fame and $$. I don't know if any one of them except for perhaps Tal would still stay in touch with her on any regular basis after the show's over. And speaking of the show she probably sees the writing on the wall with its inevitable end at some point in the not so distant future. 

Again, I see this kind of thing with a lot of young people today. It's like they never factor in what the future might look like in a few years and consistently live like their youth will never end. At least her friends eventually stopped that. They may have done it a little later than my generation did, but they eventually grew up and moved on with their lives. And now that she is facing 40 she has really put herself at a great disadvantage for making up for that lost time. Unfortunately there's a lot of truth to that. She was already disadvantaged in finding a partner because of the relatively smaller pool of men who are attracted to heavy women, but now her age is also a disadvantage. WTF was she thinking?

[Dibs]

I think Tal must be her therapist, so yeah; as long as her insurance holds out, he'll still be in her life!  And I guess Todd as long as he's given free room and board and paid to walk Goosey twice a day...

I'm sure anyone could find SOME guy to settle down with who also wants to get married and start a family before it's too late, but Whitney seems to have very high standards due to her very high opinion of herself, and that's a problem.  She'll have to "settle."

As to why her age snuck up on her, she probably always felt like Babs' little girl as long as her mother was alive.  Now she's also been replaced as Daddy's little girl by Angie and is no longer the cute young thing in the room (that would be Jaime), so reality is slapping her in the face.  Finally, she's showing and feeling her age for the first time (tired, no energy, her poor body's probably falling apart, even her face is looking older); that's another wake-up call.

Sometimes age just hits you all at once; for me, it was menopause!

 

 

[Yeah No]

50 minutes ago, Dibs said:

As to why her age snuck up on her, she probably always felt like Babs' little girl as long as her mother was alive.  Now she's also been replaced as Daddy's little girl by Angie and is no longer the cute young thing in the room (that would be Jaime), so reality is slapping her in the face.  Finally, she's showing and feeling her age for the first time (tired, no energy, her poor body's probably falling apart, even her face is looking older); that's another wake-up call.

Thank you, that's a much better way to say what I was trying to say in a post above!

Speaking of her face, her recent weight loss has accentuated lines and bumpiness on her face that weren't there before. A bit of "Ozempic face", perhaps? I just found out that's a thing!

[LeesburgLee]

20 hours ago, Yeah No said:

I also think losing her mother pushed her into that realization because as long as she was alive she could sill see herself as the "younger generation" of women in the family. 

My father told me that once your parents die, you realize that you're the next in line to go and there's nothing you can do about it. It changes your outlook.

It sure changed mine.

[Pi237]

I honestly think Whitney looks great. She’s dressing better and she does have a pretty face (forgive me, I hate the trope of telling fat women ‘you have such a pretty face, if only you’d lose weight!’ But she is pretty.) 

I want her to process the grief she’s feeling about not having what everyone else has, and be free. I believe she wants romance, but Im Not convinced parenthood is her strong desire vs what she feels she ‘should’ want at her age. I do see some maturity in her this season. Of course, next week’s bachelorette party will probably counter that lol 

I think the show would be more fun if she accepted where she’s at and not felt like a failure for not securing the husband and kids life. It’s not for everyone and thats ok! It doesn’t make one woman less accomplished than the other. And if she truly wanted all that, she could lower her standards and find it. Or be a single Mom. 

 

[BAForever]

22 hours ago, Pi237 said:

I honestly think Whitney looks great. She’s dressing better and she does have a pretty face (forgive me, I hate the trope of telling fat women ‘you have such a pretty face, if only you’d lose weight!’ But she is pretty.) 

I want her to process the grief she’s feeling about not having what everyone else has, and be free. I believe she wants romance, but Im Not convinced parenthood is her strong desire vs what she feels she ‘should’ want at her age.

 

Ok, @Pi237, you were able to articulate my thoughts about Whitney, so you can be the therapist! Even though it's been a year, I'm not sure she's finished grieving Babs. And I agree that 40 snuck up on her (at least partially due to Babs' death). I agree she wants romance, and I'll go out there and say she wants a life partner, but don't think kids are nearly as high on her list. 

And agree so much on her friend envy- Whit, there's a lid for every pot, you want a romance, you may have to expand your parameters on who you'd date.

 

[princelina]

On 8/10/2024 at 1:51 PM, BAForever said:

 I agree she wants romance, and I'll go out there and say she wants a life partner, but don't think kids are nearly as high on her list. 

I've always thought her "kids" storylines were just that, not an actual desire to have them.

[lightninggirl]

I get Whitney's grief as I went through a lot of that losing my daughter last Christmas. It's NOT linear - it stalls, you can just function and not move forward in your grief and that is especially true when you're pushing it down to care for everyone else. 

I get that maybe things are done differently in Alabama and Angie is close to her daughter, but OMG YUCK at her being involved in her daughter's bachelorette party. I would absolutely die if my mom was AT my party, much less admonishing me for not having a stripper. And then Angie gets all "oh, dear, I don't know" and nearly clutching her pearls when presented with the adult toys, saying, "I've always been married!" I'm just a couple of years younger than her and I just can't imagine (and trust me, I'm no prude and have been around a few blocks quite a few times!). Also, her overbleached hair, overplucked eyebrows, and 80s double eyeliner make her look really, really hard, bless her.

[Mollywolly555]

So true about Angie's contradictory stance on wanting a stripper at the party v. Vibratory. She had a child out of wedlock as a teen so no she has not always been married. 

Her dated look bothers me too. Over bleached hair need some low lights. Lay off the blacker lower lid eye liner. Get a professional eyebrow enhancement.  She does have great legs as seen in her premiere night dress. But no, no mom's at Bachelorette parties. I bet Whit wanted Angie there cuz otherwise she wd be the oldest one there.  And frankly Whit is looking more and more matronly. 

Whit cd have a chance with an older guy, but I doubt she will go there, cuz she has an image in mind of her perfect man. But honey,  that ain't happening. Adjust your expectations and focus on personality. Isn't that what she expects the guys to do to date her?

And sex of course.  Lots of ho sex. So she can talk about it with her father.  Again, ewwww.