Truer words were never spoken. Jill has had no role model for what a mother does. She has no reference in other families because of the isolation of the cult. I actually feel sorry for her mom in law because you know as whacked out as Derrick is, their family was pretty normal if fundy.
I am less concerned by her "bad" mothering. I had the worlds best mother. Seriously. She made perfect moms wilt. But my sisters and I still found ways to back flips off the second story of our entry way (with mattresses as crash mats) and explore caves and all other sorts of crazy shit. And we were highly monitored. We went into the woods with no adults and played all day until my mom rang the bell for dinner. And no one ended up on a milk cartoon. Tons of stitches were had and glorified. We all grew up, went to college, and got jobs. Children today are smothered to the point of not being functional as adults.
I'm not defending Jill's stupid picture taking (when she should be saying "get down from there this instance". But I'm uncomfortable calling her a bad mom. I do hope Derrick realizes that she's overwhelmed with two kids and stops the baby train. I hope someone tells Jill that not all women are maternal. Not all mom's feel like they are doing a great job. Jill needs someone to gently point out that she needs structure, she needs to set limits on the crazy climbing. Or better yet, suggest she take them to gymnastics or a climbing play thing.
She is a feral child who is now expected to know how to parent to our "normal" standards. She's not got a clue. And the best news is, she's not surrounded by her fundy family screaming that she's not doing it right, she needs a litter of kids, and that she just needs to pray to find happiness. I really hope she finds that friend. Life is hard, folks. I've had an easy life and some days I struggle to just make it through the day. I can't imagine how Jill feels.
I wish her luck. I think she wants to be a good mom but doesn't know where to start.