I don't know how to quote so this is in reply to "trying". It has occured to me that the main difference between MAFS and "arranged" marriages is that in. "arranged" marriages, culturally, there is no divorce. So you pretty much have to keep trying or be miserable. In addition, there is a lot of support to help things (out of family pride if nothing else). Our MAFS couples have a six week out (as Ashley well knows). In addition our couples don't have to sleep in the same house or deal with how to balance time together with time alone in the same place. I think that figuring out how to enjoy life without losing that sense of self is one of the hardest parts of learning to live within a relationship. Of course the longer you stay together, continuing to make adjustments the easier it becomes even if you don't "love" each other at first. If it was either try or be miserable forever I would hope even Ashley would start making an effort.