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It struck me watching this after listening to Hamilton that the letters from General Washington would have all been written by A. Ham himself.

Poly people do form commitments to more than one person--and sometimes the members of the couple are both seeing the new person. As for open marriages--it can be fun for the single person. You get to be the naughty guest star in someone's fantasy and then leave. Everyone has fun and often you become friends. Whenever I read this thread I remember why I have no interest in online dating but doing what I do I get to have fun, meet nice people, and enjoy myself in a safe environment.

Back from seeing Don Juan in Soho in London. It's brilliant. Sharp, cruel, sexy, and very funny. David Tennant is brilliant. If you get the chance to see him onstage...do it! The play wouldn't work in the States so I am glad that I spent the $ to hop across the pond. And since I'm going to write it up for Theatre Journal I can write it off on my taxes :) I saw it Saturday night and I am still processing my thoughts on theme, character, and intent which to me means the play did exactly what good theatre should.

I check in with this topic regularly as I am a big theatre person (have a PhD in Theatre History and everything) but this is my first post here. I just had to because in May I am flying to London for the weekend to see David Tennant in Don Juan in Soho. First time the play has been revived since its initial run in 2006 and I am soooo excited. I adore Tennant and the play promises to be amazing!

Also, there are SW: TFA fics being written with A/B/O dynamics. So if your kink is Poe knotting Fin, mazel tov, if not, none of my business.

Putting them in fic together isn't shipping. Shipping is hoping that there will be a relationship between the 2 characters. Writing darkfic or non-con fic with the 2 characters isn't shipping them--it's writing scenarios using the existing text. There is also fic with Kylo and Poe that explores the exact same dynamics.

Or there are people who are into dub-con/non-con and they shouldn't be kink shamed. Not everyone who finds Kylo/Rey an interesting dynamic to explore in fic is interested in "woobifying" him.

I think it's incredibly unfair that someone should have to come out before they are ready just to appease mean-spirited people. Clay Aiken and Ricky Martin were the subject of mean spirited gay jokes for years before they came out. One of the goals fought for by Gay Liberationists (and trans advocates in more contemporary times) was that everyone should feel free to come out but no one should be forced to come out.* *Except for people who actively engage in anti-gay discrimination, "family values" campaigns, or work for media that endorses that POV, who are also banging guys--those people deserve to be outed as hypocrites.

That story is being told. It was told in an evocative Frontline special about trans kids, it's being told on Becoming Us on the ABC Family Network, it's being told on I Am Jazz on TLC, it's being told in Transparent, it's being told in Orange is the New Black, and it's being told in news specials (like NBC) about trans adults and trans kids. The "media" always focuses on pretty people, rich people, well-spoken people. It's why Andrew Sullivan became a self-annointed spokesperson for the gay community, even though he's a giant hypocrite, while Dan Savage is still looked at as problematic by the "mainstream." Will and Grace, Queer as Folk, the L Word, and Queer Eye were exceedingly popular but none of those shows highlighted the experiences of the poor/people of color/gender-non-conforming/disabled. And that has always been the case with media--and too often the media deals with minority stories as 1) Hopeful inspiration; 2) Tragedy. The one thing I take away--Caitlyn is not being treated like a Freak. Is there an overabundance of media saturation, yes. Is that all her? No. Is some of it her? Yes. It would be fabulous if E! did a show about a poor quadroplegic Latina transwoman. But, and to quote the West Wing, "it would make the cast of Up With People sit down and cry."

I did. We went to Disneyland when I was about 18 months old and my parents were constantly stopped so people could look at my long eyelashes.

I assume you feel exactly the same way about Brandy Norwood, who killed a woman and then went on DWTS, Rebecca Gayheart, who ran over and killed a child and faced no charges, and Matthew Broderick who killed a woman in Ireland because he was confused by driving on a different side of the road. Accidents happen every day in cars--if she wasn't drunk, texting, exceeding the speed, or acting in a manner that implied malicious intent or overt compromising of her integrity...what is supposed to happen? I briefly zoned out driving home on a route I took everyday and slammed my car into the back of a truck. I was giving a $100 ticket and my insurance rates didn't even go up. Shit happens. Every time you step in a car you do so with the understanding you can be killed by your actions or the actions of another. If this woman had been killed by anyone other than Caitlyn Jenner no one would give a fuck and her adult stepkids wouldn't be looking to cash in.

She was at Pride in West Hollywood--it was a few weeks ago. She was apparently at an LGBT Republican booth taking photos with people. She was overshadowed by Channing Tatum and Matt Bomer dancing on the Magic Mike XXL float.

The interesting thing with all the accusations of being a famewhore...Caitlyn Jenner hasn't said a word nor been seen 'out' since her Diane Sawyer interview. She has made 4/5 tweets and been heard in voiceover or on tape...but she hasn't been snapped by the paps, she isn't giving interviews, she has been absent. That may be why the coverage can seem so insane--she isn't out there doing follow-ups or talking to media. IMO for someone to be famewhorish they have to be out their being a whore for attention...apparently Caitlyn was in San Francisco visiting the HRC.

Chaz Bono is not equitable because he was known as a child of famous people rather than a public figure in his own right. And while it may not be PC to say--the transitioning of an out butch lesbian to a man did not garner the same sort of coverage because it a) played it incorrect stereotypes about lesbians; b) there has been a noticeable issue in the lesbian community of people coming out as trans men, to the point where it has caused a rupture within the queer community (Google Michigan Womyn's Festival.) Laverne Cox became famous after her transition, she did not come out as trans and then transition in the public eye. The most apt comparison to Caitlyn Jenner would be the transition of Lana Wachowski whose gender identity was the subject of speculation for many years and she finally came out as a trans women a few years ago (when Cloud Atlas premiered). However, the Wachowski's are notoriously press-shy and do not give interviews--much of the speculation was due to Lana's marital issues and participation in the fetish community. Caitlyn Jenner's openness has the potential to be a paradigm shift because she has been known to so many generations. The Greatest Generation and Baby Boomers knew her as the Olympic Hero who took down the Soviets. Gen X knew her from that, the Kardashian show, and arguably Can't Stop the Music if they are into cult culture, and Millennials know her from the Kardashian show. For example, I have tried to explain transgender identity to my mother for years (my specialization was gay male sexual culture and queer pop culture in grad school) she never got it. Now with Caitlyn Jenner--it makes more sense for her because Caitlyn Jenner gives voice to trans identity to older people in a way that I think some trans groups have struggled with. As for Jenner being responsible for highlighting the racial, ethnic, and class discrimination faced by trans people of color--that is unfair and speaks to the schism that exists within all minority communities. Feminist groups have issues because the experiences of white women do not correspond to those of women of color; gay rights organizations have loooong been criticized for addressing white normative gay male issues; the NAACP is critiqued for not addressing the needs of the black gay community, and on and on and on. I hope that every Republican candidate gets asked "which bathroom should Caitlyn Jenner use?" I want their narrow bigoted views exposed to the world so everyone can understand that you don't need to go see Jurassic World to see dinosaurs roam the earth.

Not all women are nurturing or maternal. I like my niece--that's it. I am the single woman calling other people breeders and shooting dirty looks at their rude offspring.