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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    1 hour ago, Marigold said:

    This is a lawsuit and a criminal case. 

    This is freaking insane. Absolutely insane. 

    I'm just curious, how old is this caregiver?  Is this a woman of the same age who maybe thinks she is in love or a younger girl who is nuts or what? 

    We don't know how old the caregiver is but I can guarantee she is not as old as my 82 year-old father. We never met her, since neither my sister nor I lives near him. We trusted the recommendation of the facility.

    I am going to contact the elder law attorney tomorrow. We may ask her to draft a letter for us explaining why we will not be paying $1500 for the caregiver's "services" on the latest bill. Tha facility told my sister they would report this to the state. I will also ask for confirmation that has occurred.

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    9 hours ago, ginger90 said:

    Just curious, was the care giver employed by the facility, or by you through an agency, jcbrown ?

    Employed by the facility. We had another agency at first but the facility suggested this caregiver could take over their duties (and then some, as it turned out!).

    I do have contact with an elder care attorney in Dad's city (he is in Indiana; I am in California. I was thinking she would be a good place to start and I was actually drafting an email to her. We originally asked for this caregiver to do the same as we were paying the other agency to do: two four-hour shifts a week. We just got the bill for her services in December and it is more than twice as much as other months. No way we are going to pay her to abuse Dad and there is no excuse for doubling the amount of hours we asked for without my sister and I okaying it, even if it were not extra creepy since we would be basically paying for her sexual services.

    When we learned about this yesterday, I was sort of confused and felt sorry for Dad. Today, I am leaning more toward fury. I am concerned, though, that we not poison the relationship with the facility if we can help it since it has been a good fit before this. I am wondering if that is an unachievable goal, however.

    Oh, and someone on the Alzheimer's board suggested that we also should get him screened for STDs and HIV. Ah, this sucks.

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    So my dad is in a memory care facility and we have been paying a caregiver there to get him out and about (he likes to go to the drugstore, out to lunch, Target, whatever). He mentioned earlier that they had "gotten really close." It came out today that they have actually embarked on a sexual relationship. The facility fired her immediately, as they had to. He is a bit embarrassed but says he never thought he would have feelings for another woman (Mom dies of Alzheimer's ten years ago after a fifty-year marriage and longer than that relationship and he was her caregiver and they were each other's only partners ever). My sister and I are struggling with what, if anything, to do with this. On the one hand, I am happy he found someone to make him happy for the time she did. On the other, I am less than happy we were paying her to do so. And I am struggling with the fact that if the genders were reversed, I would likely want the police involved. One of the "features" of the disease, for those who do not know, can be inappropriate sexual behavior.

    I posted much of this on the Alzheimer's.org board but you folks are often smarter.

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    Top Chef Junior - General Discussion

    in Top Chef Junior

    17 hours ago, Violet Penner said:

    My Comcast just notified me that they are adding the Universal Kids channel BACK, but the only upcoming episode that is airing that I can see is a repeat of the Un-Bee-Lievable episode. I hope we’ll get to see the end of this series at some point!  I’ve already been deprived of the Great American Baking Show ending!

    My Comcast also looks like they may have added it back. They show two episodes tonight, one of which it claimed to have recorded earlier but instead recorded a cartoon. I will hope for the best! I was also feeling repeatedly deprived, first by GABS's cancellation and now by having this show pulled mid-season. Sheesh.

    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    4 hours ago, Sew Sumi said:

    eta: We had a little shaker last night around 2:30. It was sharp enough to wake me up, but it didn't knock anything over. Ho hum, went right back to sleep once I checked on the kitties. 

    Woke me up, too, and I'm in the South Bay. We had another much smaller one much closer to me about an hour later--slept right through that one.

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    Dream Co-Hosts

    in The Chew [V]

    I've been thinking about this (perhaps I need a life) and I think that one thing the show lost when they lost Mario (other than evidently a huge creepy perv) is someone with a real gift for teaching. Michael does okay and Clinton does okay within his more limited realm of expertise. I think Carla needs some more time to learn how to teach. She tends to wrap herself around her own axle and forget she is teaching. One of the things where Mario had a lot of talent was that he has a lot of knowledge and was good at sharing it. I think the show needs someone with a similar level of expertise. Not sure where they might find it. I still stand by my suggestion of Ming Tsai.

    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    Happy holidays, all. We had a quiet day with two friends over for dinner (beef tenderloin with gorgonzola sauce, brussels sprouts, root vegetable gratin, homemade rolls, chocolate kahlua buche de Noel, other things...). It was a nice respite especially since Dad has been off his nut lately. The nurse at his memory care facility says she has been dreading this weekend, since the disruption in routine makes many of the residents go a little nuts. His hallucinations have been terrible, to the point that he called his friend yesterday to come pick him up but could not tell his friend where he was, talked to my sister for 45 minutes, which she spent trying in vain to orient him to his room, and called before 7 AM and woke me up for more of the same. Oy. Nonetheless, tomorrow is a stay-home-in-PJs day. Much to the happiness of my nearly 18 year-old oldest cat/lap barnacle.

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    Top Chef Junior - General Discussion

    in Top Chef Junior

    On 12/23/2017 at 8:02 PM, Sew Sumi said:

    Interesting. I thought, aside from local programming, that they were pretty standard across the board. 

    eta: @biakbiak, I thought you were in the SF Bay Area, based on your other posts. I am as well, so we should ostensibly have similar programming. 

    I am in the South Bay but do not see any evidence of the channel for this show.

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    Recipe Box

    in The Chew [V]

    3 hours ago, Nessie said:

    Thanks for the info.  I may have to give them a try, as fresh everything bagels are my favorites, and everyone else's apparently, as they are sold out if I don't get to the bagel store early enough

    Everything bagels are empirically the best bagels. I just checked my notes to see what I changed in the recipe. I added between 2 teaspoons and 1 tablespoon of diastatic malt powder to the dough. I also added a tablespoon of salt and 2 tablespoons of baking soda to the boiling water. My notes also say "at least" next to the direction to bake 18 minutes, and that was with my convection oven, so watch the time and add.

    Not that you asked, but I thought you might want the info.

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    Jill, Derick & the Kids: Moving On!!

    in Counting On

    Good lord, that's offensive. I feel sorry for the international students who subject themselves to these patronizing dimwits.

    And also, have the Dullards ever read the  Quran? Seems they need to be willing to do so if they are shoving the Bible down Muslim people's throats.

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    Recipe Box

    in The Chew [V]

    31 minutes ago, Nessie said:

    Did you do the everything bagels that take two days, @jcbrown?  I've been wondering if they are worth the time.

    A couple of years ago I made Daphne's Christmas Kale Salad for Christmas Eve dinner, and it was a big hit among my non-kale eating family.  My oldest son even proclaimed that it tasted "like Christmas", and so now I have to make it every year.

    I did, though I think it was three days. Very little of that is active time, though. I really liked them. The texture was a bit different than the really super-dense bagels you often get but I've been in a phase with making pretzels and since the technique is similar, they fit right into my current mania. I thought they were fun and tasty.

    I may have to look into the kale salad. We are pretty anti-kale here (I was traumatized by having to put it around crocks in restaurant salad bars--take it off at the end of the night, rinse it off, store it in a garbage bag, re-use the next day, shudder) but it might be worth a shot.

    S15.E03: Keep On Truckin'

    in Top Chef

    15 hours ago, annewithaneee said:

    I don't think they gave him a chyron, which is just as well, but I basically had a rage stroke when I saw Logan Paul (one of the worst people on the internet, though not nearly as bad as his younger brother Jake) at the main challenge. He's not a Colorado college kid, he's a scourge aka professional YouTuber. I was already annoyed seeing him mug around with his Go Pro and dabbing (!!!!!), but to have him have an actual seat at the table with the judges was just too damn much. I swear he got more critique airtime than Gail, and that's just unforgivable. 

    So, that ruined the episode for me, but I know most Top Chef viewers won't have any idea who that kid is and that he's the wooooorst (which actually makes including him in the judge's tasting all the more confusing), so I may be alone here. 

    I have never seen nor heard of that idiot Owen Wilson wannabe before and completely agree that he should not have been sitting with the judges. His opinion is worth nothing in this competition, especially when all he had to offer was "I really love waffles." The show wasted critique time that could have included actual substance on someone with zero relevance to their audience. I don't get it.

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