Fellow Fightin' Blue Hen right here :) I drove to UD from Long Island, and it's a 3 hour trip. It's a breeze from New Jersey. Now, Alpine, NJ to Philly, I can see people being up at arms about Randall running for office - Bergen County is a suburb of Manhattan, not in the greater metropolitan area of Philly. That would be like someone living in Benton Harbor, Michigan running for councilman in Chicago, Illinois. As others have said, there are plenty of things you can do to help a community, including attending a council meeting to nudge the councilman to do something
I had my babies from '85 - '92. Never knew the sex, as I had only one ultrasound and unless they could see a penis visible (impossible for me, I had three girls), you didn't know. WRT Kate betraying Tess, it would be easy to clue Rebecca in on Tess' need to have someone to listen and still retain her confidentiality. "Mom, I had a great time visiting for Thanksgiving and got to know Tess a bit better. She's changing and growing up, and I know she could always use someone to spend time with her and listen to her, especially with Beth looking for a job and Randall's campaign. Thanks for being a listening ear." Ta. Da. And ditto on cringing at "No matter what." A simple "We love you, and we're glad you can come talk to us whenever you want or need to" would suffice.