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Yes, Bekah looks much younger than the other women, but that's because most of the other women actually look like they are 35-40 years old. Bekah looks like she's maybe 25 at the youngest, but acts like she's a teen. She's cute, but is no beauty. Jackjill, I think you nailed it with your description of Bekah. Arie may only be 36, but he apparently doesn't remember anything about 22 year olds other than they are really young. Bekah thinks she has depth, but she is a pseudo intellectual. She actually is as superficial as the other women. The difference is she tries to appear deep and mature. The other women embrace their superficiality. Neither she nor Arie are ready for marriage. Marrying at 22 is one thing, but marrying someone 14 years older than you when you are that young is not likely to end well. Just 10 years ago, Bekah was only in middle school for crying out loud! She needs to grow up first and experience life before she settles down. Is she even financially independent? Does she have her own health insurance or is she still on her parents' plan? Krystal is either a producer plant or is she the most insecure woman I have ever seen on this show, which is saying a lot. At 29, she should be well past this whiny stage. Girl has sociopathic tendencies and Arie better stay clear for his own sake even if he is only on this show for fame.

The only black jacket contestant I think who was the wrong choice was Robyn. It has nothing to do with her dish, which looked delicious. It's the fact that she is generally very scatter brained. I see her as a great sous chef, but never the head chef. I see greater leadership potential in Jennifer. I'm glad Elise is finally gone! She was a great chef, but had such an insufferable personality.

I agree that many of these 20-something appear significantly older (early to mid 30s). It's either due to bad makeup or they are aging horribly. Eh, Bekah M doesn't impress me. She has good body language, but she is average looking at best and is annoying. Looks wise, the other women leave her in the dust, though she doesn't seem as dumb as the others.

I find it odd that Bekah M's age was not shown on the screen. What's the deal? She looks like she's in her mid to late 20s, which is not strange. I wonder why there is such secrecy?

Isn't Michelle 26? That is very young, but a far cry from being a kid. Many 26 year olds are married and have children. How is it that she had more maturity at 22 (when she first appeared on Hell's Kitchen) than at 26? I despise Elise and think she's an a**hole, but Michelle was acting like a teenager. I don't think Michelle nor Elise have the maturity to run a kitchen. They can be line cooks and that is about it.

It's simple: Raven came across as defending Danielle rather than on being a comforting ear to Kristina and asking her questions. Danielle was Kristina's rival in this weird love triangle, so when Raven focused on defending Danielle, Kristina felt betrayed. In contrast, Wells built up Kristina's self-esteem with compliments and asked why she was letting Dean treat her this way. To be fair, Raven is only 25, so she still has a lot of maturing to do. Wells is 31, so he at least has more experience in giving advice.

This episode dragged for me. I voluntarily decided to read my organic chemistry book from college out of sheer boredom.... The only thing that peaked my interest was the Dean love triangle. I was hoping Dean learned from his mistakes and grew up just a little. Sadly, he's still a little boy who enjoys stringing along women. Danielle and Kristina, need to take a good look in the mirror and figure out why they let such an immature little twit play them both. Danielle is pushing 30 and is still letting some fool play her on national television.

In this Dean-Kristina-Danielle love triangle, I think Kristina was being silly since Dean was clearly not committed to her. He even told her that he wanted to date other people. That alone should've told Kristina that they were not in an exclusive relationship,so he was fair game for anyone (including Danielle) to date. That being said, if Kristina and Dean were in an exclusive relationship (hypothetically speaking) and Danielle were aware of this relationship status and still tried to pursue Dean, I put the blame on BOTH Dean and Danielle. Dean is to blame since it is his job to honor his relationship with Kristina since he promised exclusivity (in his hypothetical situation). Danielle would also be to blame, but for a different reason. Danielle (or any other woman) is not responsible for Dean's relationship with Kristina, but as an adult, they should try to act like a decent human being and stay away from men who are in committed relationships. I don't subscribe to the idea that a woman knowingly pursuing a taken man is free of any blame whatsoever. This infantilizes women and removes any responsibility from their own actions. To sum up, everyone is responsible for their own actions (both men and women)

When she's older and if she's still single, then sure. As of right now, she is way too immature for her age. She's a sweet girl, but she's incredibly stupid when it comes to men. I can't believe that at 25, she is still letting a man jerk her around and treat her like she's a backup option. Time for her to grow up a bit. She needs to take a good look in the mirror. Dean was undoubtedly an a**, but she allowed him to treat her disrespectfully. At her age, she should know that if a man is so wishy-washy between her and and another woman, then he's clearly not interested enough in either woman beyond sex. Kristina and Danielle were never actually friends according to Danielle: http://www.realitytvworld.com/news/danielle-lombard-on-dean-unglert-and-kristina-schulman-bachelor-in-paradise-triangle-you-cant-help-who-you-love-22626.php I don't like Danielle at all, but I think she was telling the truth in this article. Here are the basic rules of dating that I have followed since 18 in order to stay out of love triangle bulls*t: 1) If a man is merely dating one of my friends, then he is off limits even if my friend gives me the "green light." 2) If I am aware that a man I'm interested in is even just dating a random woman, then he is off limits until they break up. 3) If I date a man who I genuinely believe to be single and I find out he is in a relationship with someone else, then I immediately dump him. Kristina is making dating a lot more complicated than it needs to be. She doesn't need to wait for Dean to make up his wishy-washy mind. She could've walked away immediately when she felt disrespected.

I don't understand Kristina. Dean said he was interested in pursuing other relationships and encouraged Kristina to do the same. This should tell her that she and Dean are not in an exclusive relationship. Therefore, Danielle has every right to pursue him. If Dean stated that he wanted an exclusive relationship with Kristina and then pursued Danielle, then he is obviously at fault. Danielle would also be at fault for pursing a man who was in an exclusive relationship (that wasn't the case here though).

I think what she was trying to say was that her virginity is a great tool to use to weed out guys, and she's correct...in most cases. A guy would have to REALLY like her to stick around knowing that she wasn't going to have sex with him. A guy who is only mildly interested or just wants her for sex will not stick around for more than a couple of weeks once they realize that she is serious about not giving up the goods.

Jasmine: what a crazy woman! She will forever keep driving men away with her possessive, gonna-cut-a-b***h attitude. I know people make fun of Jack Stone for being a "serial killer," but honestly I'm more concerned about Jasmine. Jack is awkward at times, but Jasmine is 5 cans short of a 6-pack. Christen: she annoys me. She asks Matt out (which she has the right to do), but doesn't want to hurt Jasmine's feelings or to deal with drama. It seems pretty clear that asking out Matt would hurt Jasmine. She is either two-faced or incredibly dim or possibly both. Wells: physically, he is very attractive, but he seems like a bit of a jerk. I don't like Christen, but he spent a lot of time acting like a typical "mean girl" along with Amanda and Alexis. Mocking her over scallops got old pretty quickly. Amanda: yes, Robby is probably gay, but if she wants to stay on this show, then she better accept his roses. I don't see any other men chasing after her. Taylor: good for her for standing up for herself! Derek was pretty disrespectful. Did anyone catch what Taylor said right before Derek said "F**k you" in response? Hopefully, Derek's language was a one-time thing, but in my experience, it usually is not. Taylor will find out either way. Kristina: I can't believe someone as strong as Kristina would fall for Dean's bulls*t. He is playing two girls. He's not really into either one. If he felt strongly about either girl, then he would've made his mind up already. Dean is clearly playing the field and isn't being honest with either girl. Danielle: The amazing conversations must be happening off screen because she is as dim as a lightbulb on camera. She is absolutely stunning (at least with all of the makeup), but she speaks like a middle schooler. I honestly think Danielle is a better match for Dean than Kristina. They are both immature and love to giggle while speaking.

LMAO! If that's true, then Taylor sure is business savvy!

Just as it is unnecessary for someone with dark skin to lighten their skin color, it is unnecessary for someone with pale skin to darken their skin color. Lacy looked perfectly fine as is. The issue was her desperation. She would have more success in dating if she would just relax. Taylor is really cruel. She seemed quite pleased in her ITM's about Lacy's misery over Diggy. I can't believe she is supposed to be a mental health counselor!

Ever since Raven told Nick about beating up her ex boyfriend with a stiletto, I have had a hard time seeing her as "easy going." Lol. There is a lot of rage underneath that sweet exterior.

My thoughts on this episode: 1) Danielle L and Dean are perfect for each other: they both giggle and speak like middle schoolers. 2) Dean is a total jerk. I can't believe he thought that stupid half-birthday was a good idea with Kristina around. Kristina should thank her lucky stars that Dean is showing is true colors. 3) Raven: can someone please explain to me what the big deal is about Raven? She's not ugly; she's just odd looking. I can't figure out why Raven is more popular than Kristina.

I completely agree! It's so important that people learn to live on their own especially if their spouse suddenly dies. It's dangerous for one person to be completely dependent on their spouse.

Honestly, it doesn't matter whether someone has had zero past relationships or a dozen relationships. What matters is the maturity level of the person. It's easy to forget that most people experience their first relationships during their teens or early 20s, which is a time when many people are very immature and narcissistic. This why many of us associate the "first relationship" with silly mistakes and general relationship blunders. People during this life stage are learning about who they are as a person, how to navigate life and what they want out of life. It becomes difficult to focus on other people when you are still learning the basics about living as an adult. Eric is a late bloomer. He is 29, which is an age when people typically get serious about life and what they want. He has had time to grow and focus on developing himself as a person. He has had the opportunity to live out his "selfish" years, so now he can focus on being a good boyfriend or husband. I don't think he and Rachael are a good match romantically, but I think he would make a good husband for someone else.

I partially agree with you in the sense that Eric is not ready to be married. He has a lot of growing up to do in general. He is not a bad guy, but he just comes across as being a teenager rather than as a grown man. However, I don't think his inexperience in love is necessarily a bad thing. The quantity of past relationships doesn't necessarily indicate that a person has learned anything except how to end a relationship. More past relationships bring about more baggage and insecurity issues. Eric (at least on camera) treats Rachel with respect and is affectionate. He seems genuine and it's obvious that he is attracted to her. If he acted more like an adult, then he would be perfect for her. Relationships are not rocket science. You simply need to treat your significant other with respect and kindness, show affection, listen and be honest. These skills can be acquired by a person's early 20s (if a person chooses to develop these qualities at all). If someone has had at least one good friend during their childhood/teenage years, then they will have had ample practice at developing these skills. Dating merely shows whether you've learned to act like a decent human being. Having a bad parent doesn't necessarily mean you are not marriage material. Speaking as someone who has had a terrible father, I can say that it hasn't stopped me from finding a good boyfriend and enjoying a good relationship. The most important thing Rachel should consider is whether Eric has worked through his painful relationship with his mother. If he hasn't worked through his issues, then it is likely that these problems will spill over into any relationship he has.

Rachel definitely was forced to keep Lee. It would certainly explain the breakdown she had. I'm curious: what would the consequence be if Rachel decided to have Lee leave? The show is all about drama so she could lay a good smackdown on him just like she did with DeMario. Other notes about this episode: 1) Dean: so very adorable, but his childhood story just broke my heart. 2) Peter: still very attractive, but doesn't seem like the sharpest tool in the shed based on the spelling bee. His use of the word "hood" in his rap made me cringe, but Rachel seemed cool with it. There's probably an inside joke or something. 3) Lee: he's such a scumbag 4) Eric: not a bad guy, but he is definitely not ready for marriage or dating for that matter. He comes across as 16 even though he's 29. 5) Iggy: he is an immature drama queen who seems to have a knight-in-shining-armor complex. 6)Bryce: I know he's a firefighter, but if there is ever another Lord of the Rings type of movie, then he needs to be cast as an elf.

I think Rachel really liked him and was genuinely hurt that he deceived her. Being made a fool on television is especially humiliating. DeMario seemed a bit too tongue tied for this to be scripted, though I'm sure there was some editing.

I don't think Bonner is a skilled dancer at all. He's good enough to pass for the average person who has to ballroom dance for a special occasion or just for fun, but he is definitely not nearly as talented as the other contestants. That being said, I definitely see a genuine physical attraction between Sharna and Bonner. I'm sure Sharna is taking advantage of this like you said, to hopefully last a bit longer this season since it is unlikely they will stick around because of Bonner's fanbase (do his fans watch the show? Does he have fans?) or his minimal dancing ability. However, she was clearly blushing in the first episode when they first met. It's pretty difficult to "fake" blushing seeing as how blushing is an automatic response from the body. It's clear to me that they are very much into each other. As for "hand-gate," his hand was dangling in front of her crotch, but he didn't grab that area. To me it didn't look intentional. He was focusing on Nick and Peta's score and simply didn't pay much attention to his hands. Sharna has rehearsed with him for countless hours, so she knows him better than we do. If she isn't offended by what happened and says Bonner is a gentleman, then I believe her.

His problem lies with his definition of a "strong woman." Strong does not mean you are a drama queen who loves to argue for the sake of arguing. A strong woman is loving, speaks up about her needs and cares about her partner's needs. Huahaha, is correct in saying that Rachel is a perfect example of a strong woman. Nick is terrible at choosing partners. If I were him, I would just have his parents set him up with a nice woman.

If I were Nick, I would not have picked either one for the following reasons: 1) Raven--> she is fun and easygoing. Honestly, if she were a bit older, then I think she would be great for Nick. He really seems to enjoy being around her. Laughter goes a long way during marriage. However, she is significantly younger than Nick, which is concerning. 2) Vanessa--> can you say "drama queen?" Her emotions are all over the place. I feel exhausted just watching her on tv, so I can't imagine what it would be like to deal with her in person. She may be 29, but she has a lot of growing up to do. She actually comes across as being less mature than Raven at times. Nevertheless, I hope he and Vanessa get married and have a lasting marriage so that we don't have to hear anymore whining from either of them again.

Exactly! Nick simply had a stronger connection with other women. That's it. There isn't a deeper meaning. While Danielle L was easily in the top 5 in terms of looks, her intellect was severely lacking. Wow....Taylor was a hot mess. I can't believe she's a mental health counselor. Johns Hopkins must be so embarrassed right now. I really think there should be a minimum age requirement to be a mental health counselor. 23 is just too young. Taylor went directly into graduate school from undergrad, so she hasn't acquired any real world experience. She really needs to focus on growing up right now and worry about marriage later. She has no business counseling others when she can't even handle Corrine.