PoorerThanDead

Hahahahahahahaha, this is hilarious. I completely forgot he said that.

I agree! I clicked on it, and I was like, whaaaaaat?!? This is so cool, actual evidence and all, and it was so exciting, like listening to some secret testimony,

So, I’m not sure if this is a real thing or not, but just something I wanted to throw out there that I was wondering about. Does it seem like men get cut more slack than women for being floaters and not playing that much of a game? In this case specifically, I am thinking about Christine vs. Cody. I know Christine doesn’t have that pleasant of a personality and Cody does. As far as game play, they seem about even though. They both got lucky by basically being able to have these alliances just fall into their laps. And from watching last episode, I thought it was interesting to see just how much Derrick made the strategic decisions and Cody just went along with them. Derrick took a shower, changed his mind, informed Cody of his new position, and Cody just immediately fell in line with it, without really too much discussion or debate-- other than the fact that he “literally” just shat his pants, that is. So, I don’t know, if this is just my reading too much into things, but it seems like women, even when they’re in alliances, don’t get as much credit as men for their “game play.” On Big Brother it’s a little different, because of course Cody, is very personable and easy to like and Christine seems a bit grating, so I don’t really want her to win either. Also, I don’t really have a problem with floating as a strategy, I think it’s as good as any other and can actually be hard to maintain. I guess I might just be thinking about other instances, like on Survivor, where women who were in alliances but didn’t “lead” the alliance get called out for doing nothing, especially by the jury, but they actually did quite a bit of behind the scenes stuff. It just seems like they don’t get any respect, but men in a similar situation do get a little?

Just thinking some more about this Dante thing, which got me laughing, I’m pretty sure that the contestants on BIP have got more than just a couple of the levels/circles of Inferno covered.

Hah! I’m pretty sure it hurts my self-esteem just watching it.

As someone who also struggles with insecurity, I could see it being the type of thing where you purposefully try to put yourself out there despite having low self-esteem. It’s one of those pop psychology, positivity things like: “You shouldn’t let this stop you, you are as good as anyone else, go out there and live your life, put yourself in uncomfortable situations in order to grow.” Doesn’t mean you don’t still have low self-esteem. You do, you’re just trying to overcome it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. (Not saying I personally would ever do it, because I also so, so wouldn't.) To be fair, I think she was literally speechless for like, those 10 seconds. She didn’t specify how long. That might very well be “literally” the longest she’s ever gone without regaling the world and the viewers and the raccoons with her antics.

“Bachelor in Paradise: Abandon All Hope, Ye Who Enter Here” Airing Mondays at 8/7pm Central.

Yay! (And may I add that I love your avatar/icon thingy.)

I might just be old-fashioned, or whatnot, but I do remember learning from all the Jane Austen I read as I was growing up that one must never lead someone on. Making sport with someone’s heart is a most ungentlemanly/womanly thing to do. As Mr. Darcy says to Elizabeth Bennet, “You are too generous to trifle with me.” So, since I base my entire core value system on everything Jane Austen (and occasionally Gandhi), I have to conclude that Andi’s actions in regards to Nick were not what I personally would consider admirable. I don’t even believe that simply because the producers of a TV show pressure you to do something, that you can innocently say, “Who me? But..but…it was them,” and caper off guilt-free into the sunset with a clear, unstained, untarnished, un-bleachable soul. I know the producers want the Bach. to lead everyone on as much as possible for our viewing pleasure and entertainment value. But, one must allow, it’s still fucked up. I think it is entirely possible to achieve drama and suspense about whom the Bach. will choose through the misdirection of editing and cleverly disingenuous talking heads. There is no need for trifling. There is no need for things such as, “everything will be alright, you should be confident, I know you’re guarded and skeptical, but open up yourself completely to me, etc.” In fact, I’m pretty sure that even without all this leading on, there will still be sufficient suitors falling in love and getting their hearts broken to entertain us all, so have faith, America! Also, I agree with this and thought it very well-stated: On another note, even though I didn’t particularly like Nick during this season, I do kind of wonder whether all the guys who were judging his intentions for being on the show have now had a change of heart and/or have apologized to Nick. Because I think that clearly he was in love with Andi. And they didn’t see it at all. They completely misread him. Probably because he is weird and introverted and doesn’t express his emotions to the guys in the same way that most of these guys do. (Which tying it all back together, brings to mind a certain Ms. Bennet and a certain Mr. Darcy, and all the hilarious and exceedingly mortifying pitfalls that accompany prejudging based on personality type or temperament. Indeed, ya’ll.)

Lol!

That’s pretty hilarious, since Wishbone is so clearly not a human name. (Though it might not be a bad rap name) I can just imagine your son’s face, “Well done! I’m so proud of you Wishbooo…. I mean…[son’s name]” I'm so confused by this question. If someone actually knows the contestant and has some insight beyond what we see on TV and in the media, of course we want to know! Additionally, Chris has come across, whether through editing or acting or whatever, as precisely one of those less than ten guys, so if someone knows differently, that would be relevant. So, for anyone wondering, here is what this New York Times article had to say about the matter: “The Associated Press Stylebook earlier this year reversed its advice to abbreviate microphone as mike. As the stylebook's editors told the American Copy Editors Society in April, the A.P.'s broadcast division was unhappy with mike, and so the entry was revised to recommend mic instead. Some of the copy editors voiced objections to the A.P.'s amended edict, on the grounds that mic could confuse readers who might be tempted to pronounce it as "mick." The Washington Post's Bill Walsh pressed the stylebook editors on the verb form: is a person mic'ed or miked? The A.P. style gurus allowed that the verb could be miked, even if the noun is mic.” So, basically, proper usage hasn’t been established, or in other words, no one knows. Seems like either spelling is acceptable.

As someone mentioned previously, if there were only 2 blondes out of 18(or whatever the number was, I don’t actually recall, sorry), and the rest were brunettes, and someone said “they’re picking all the blondes,” it would be odd. Andrew’s supposed statement just shows an inordinate emphasis on race. Which doesn’t mean someone is racist per se. I mean, sometimes we may place inordinate emphasis on race in our minds, because as humans, we have a natural tendency to place things and people into neat little categories. It makes the variety and complexity in the world easier to understand, and we don’t have to think as hard. However, no matter how many dumb, unsubstantiated thoughts go through your head, the douchy part is leaning over to share it with someone else. It is like you assume they will know what your implication is. Wink, wink, nudge, nudge, of course, you’re also a white guy, so, I'm sure you’ll understand what I’m implying when I say, she picked the 2 black guys. You don’t need to share these speculations with someone you don’t know, it just makes you look like a douche. Whether or not he really made the statement, I’m not sure. I am also finding it hard to choose the douchier of the two between Andrew and JJ. But, I tend to think it would be just too weird of a thing for JJ to completely make up, although he probably misheard it in part, and didn’t mind stirring the pot to create some pants-troversy. Obviously, if she really had a specific, particular attraction to black guys, don’t you think they would have included, maybe more than 2? I’m not sure how much involvement our Bachelorette has in who is chosen, but I have to believe that the producers would at least try for the majority of guys being someone the Bachelorette will find attractive, so that they can have their occasional “successes.” Probably more likely, she isn’t opposed to dating black guys. And she liked both Ron and Marquel better than some of the others left. Maybe they were actually just better guys than the ones who went home? In my opinion, Andrew mixing up Ron’s and Marquel’s names is just a harmless gaffe, as both of them were just being discussed. On top of everything else, it did turn out pretty awkwardly for poor Andrew though, heh. Couldn’t have been a worse opportunity to make that kind of slip up. He was probably thinking, “Don’t say anything racist, don’t say anything racist…” “Now, when Ron here said...” Silence “Ohhhhhhhhh, shit :0”

Just collecting these as supporting evidence to shoot down the “theory” that women aren’t able to form alliances because they can’t seem to work together without fighting, but supposedly men can. Not that this is a theory that I hear on this awesome forum, but just one that I hear out there in the ether all the time about how women can’t get along, yadda, yadda, ad infinitum. Men seem to have just as much difficulty staying cohesive, what with power struggles, wounded egos, slights and insults, and so on. Probably even more so when there are members of the opposite sex around to posture for. When men do it, they are usually afforded a little more respect though, and don’t have their disagreements and fights reduced to them being described as “catty.” Meow.

Well put. Now, it's just a matter of time before Nigel will start lecturing us on how we are all just jealous for not voting for Jessica.

Haha, this is an awesome title! And so wonderfully apropos concerning last week's events as well.