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I don't think anyone here is saying Todd should come up off Kandi's back, but that Kandi herself had a funky attitude about it. I question why Kandi is getting married when she seems to think Todd is after her money, as evidenced by said funky attitude (Git yo' own money & buy yo own house witcho own money etc). The way the pre-nup is laid out and Kandi's attitude towards it implies she thinks Todd's after her money and won't be there too long, and he better git his own with his own little money. If you feel that way about somebody, why marry them? (same with Kordell marrying Porsha, but not trusting her with his money) I hate to agree with Mama Joyce but Kandi needs/needed to marry somebody on her own financial level. If you can't find nobody on your financial level to marry, then don't marry. She seems to be hesitating on having kids now, so what's the harm in not marrying?

All of this just leads me to ask: Why did Kandi want to get married in the first place? She doesn't want to share with Todd, feels he needs to get to stepping once she's finished with him, if she dies at at any point he gets nothing etc, she can kick him to the curb if he gets sick, has stated if he wants ownership of a house he better go buy one with his own money, etc. If everything is to be so separate, why get married? Why not just live together? Is she feeling like Kenya, that she's getting up in years and staring at 40 and needs a HUZZbin at any cost? I'm going to have to agree with Mama Joyce in a way: Kandi needs to marry somebody on her financial level or above her financial level. KANDI is the one who feels that Todd is after her money. We can blame the lawyer but the lawyer didn't make Kandi say that if Todd wanted a house he better go buy his own house with his own money. We can blame the lawyer but the lawyer didn't make Kandi say that Todd was just balking at the pre-nup on camera to show he was under duress. That was all on Kandi. I can only hope that Todd is smarter than Porsha and stacks his coins for a rainy day because when Kandi gets tired of Todd and kicks him to the curb, she's going to make what Kordell did to Porsha seem like a dream. Kandi doesn't want a husband, she wants a live action Bedroom Kandi toy and when she's tired of the toy she's going to toss it to the side, like Kordell tossed his Barbie to the side. You notice neither Kandi nor Kordell was all that enthusiastic about having kids with their partner b/c neither one of them wants/wanted to be tied for life to their toy. I think Kandi COULD marry somebody on her financial level or age but as she says, those dudes don't want her. I don't think they don't want her because of her money or age, I think a man on Kandi's financial level doesn't want to deal with her or her mom's BS and at the financial level they're at, they don't have to.

And that's why she's going to end up like her little buddy Phaedra, with a HUZZbin in name only. I heard Riley's dad was married to somebody else when he fathered her so the only place the OLG could run him to would be back to his wife.

If Kandi thinks she's going to handle Todd like Phaedra handled Apollo, Kandi will end up with a huzzbin who detests, despises & is ready to leave her...just like Apollo. Sadly, I can see Kandi crying about Todd always being gone for work. Well, when you tell a man that he's just there to service you at your pleasure & he will be getting zero out of the deal, don't cry when your man feels he needs to work to stack up coins for the day you decide you no longer need his services. I would also like to add that Kandi doesn't know how to conduct herself as a wife because she wasn't provided an example of how to be a wife when she was growing up. Kandi's not ready to be married to anyone, possibly ever. Unless she is willing to put her husband first, her marriage will not last very long. Kandi has never, IMO of what's been shown on the show, stuck up for her husband and had his back. Kandi doesn't want a husband, she wants a huzzbin. Mama Joyce will be so happy when (not if) Kandi's marriage fails.

Wasn't it stated that if they divorced Kandi would get half his stuff and he would get nothing out of the joint productions they put on?

Well, regardless of Kandi claiming Todd waited 2 days before the wedding to get a lawyer for the pre-nup, I think Kandi purposely sprung that version of the pre-nup on Todd on the last minute expecting him to sign and if he balked (which he did) then that would prove he's an opportunist trying to get her money. KANDI is the one who thinks Todd is a golddigging opportunist. Joyce is just the one who verbalizes it. KANDI is the one who feels that Todd is only after her money, that's why she was telling her friends he's just saying this stuff on camera for evidence and he just needs to go get his own money and stay away from hers. Joyce is acting crazy because she knows that Kandi feels that Todd is only with her for the money and she can't understand why Kandi would stick around for that. Kandi wants Todd to be a human Bedroom Kandi toy, and once she uses him, she will toss him to the side with nothing. Mama Joyce ain't the problem: Kandi is. Kandi claimed she wanted kids asap but last night she was like "I don't know." That's because she doesn't want to get stuck with Todd for life and if she has a child with him, he would be able to claim spousal/child support. I don't see this marriage lasting more than 2 years, tops. Because Kandi doesn't want a husband, she wants a HUZZbin. She damn sho' doesn't want to be a wife. My advice to Todd is to be that opportunist that both Kandi and Joyce thinks he is. Use Kandi and her connections to stack up coins and his own connections. That way, when Kandi tosses you to the side like Kordell did to Porsha, you won't be left with nothing like Porsha.

Tan is probably short for Tanisha or something like that.

Joyce did run up on the wrong one, indeed. Joyce didn't want no New York ass whupping. She jumped back real quick when Sharon tried to snatch her. Joyce needed a peer to snatch her wig and Sharon is the one to get the job done. Kandi's not going to do it, Todd can't do it and Carmon gets slapped down about respecting somebody's mother when she does it. Sharon can approach her woman to woman and be like "Who gon' check me? You?" I mean, really? You gone tell somebody's mother "you shole did" badmouth their child and they're supposed to sit there? Naw! She'd be the first one fighting Sharon if Sharon treated Kandi the way she treats Todd. But Todd & Kandi, get ready for a lifetime of Joyce whining that they spend more time with Sharon, and when the baby comes that Sharon gets to spend more time with the new baby than she does. It's nice that Tan has such high self esteem about her looks. If anyone is an opportunist, it's Kandi for showcasing her family's dysfunction.

This is my theory/speculation on Joyce/Titus/Kandi/Sisters: Titus was Husband #2 or Husband #3. (I don't think Titus was the father of Kandi's brother) Titus didn't like the Sisters all up in his house drinking and smoking and carrying on. Sometimes a man just wants to come home and "just be" in his house without extra people there all the time. For example, see: Kordell, Porsha, Porsha's siblings, Mama Diane and eating pizza on white furniture in Kordell's master bedroom. Titus is/was a pastor. Pastors get just as much panties thrown at them as any rock/rap star. Sisters "heard in the street" that Sister So N So was having an affair with/throwing herself at Titus. Or maybe they saw it for themselves. Sisters runteldat to Joyce Joyce & Titus fight Joyce & Titus divorce Joyce & Sisters vs. Titus when he tried to come see Kandi Joyce hides gifts, cards etc. from Titus to Kandi. She doesn't hide that child support check, though. Joyce/Sisters claim to have a restraining order on Titus. Or perhaps the restraining order are Joyce & the Sister's brothers (or Joyce's new man). Titus doesn't want to deal with Evil Mama & Evil Sisters (or new man), so he stops coming around. Still pays child support though. Titus takes up with New Woman & has new set of kids. Joyce is not happy with this and fills Kandi's head about how Titus didn't want her. Maybe even pockets some of the child support checks as Joyce Support Checks and makes Kandi believe Titus isn't even paying child support. That's just my speculation. I think both Joyce & Titus are telling the truth as they see it. Joyce & Em were so nasty & so rude to Titus that he washed his hands of the situation and Kandi was not worth it to Titus to deal with Joyce/Sisters.

Kandi played Todd with that passive aggressive move. At this point, it's more Kandi than Joyce. Just as Todd "learned the game" from his daddy, Kandi learned the game from her momma: Joyce Game: 1) Have problem with Titus 2) Runteldat to Bertha & Nora 3) Bertha & Nora get all up in Titus' grill 4) Titus fights back 5) Joyce plays victim Kandi Game: 1) Have problem with Joyce 2) Runteldat to Todd/Carmon 3) Todd/Carmon confront Joyce 4) Joyce fights back 5) Kandi plays victim If Kandi really didn't want any confrontations between Todd & Joyce she wouldn't have run back to Todd to tell him what Joyce said or try to pretend she didn't want him to say anything about. Kandi lacked courage to tell her mom "You know what? That's not cool what you said and I don't want to hear it anymore." Instead, she runs and tells Todd, knowing he'd be justifiably upset and would confront Joyce. Kandi gets Todd to do the dirty work (also with Carmon) while her hands stay clean. I hope Mama Sharon snatches Joyce up next week.

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