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I've always thought this about Maddie. I think the difference is that, for some reason, the actress manages to act like a normal teenager. Like I feel you could insert her into any high school and she'd be fine. Her emotions make sense; her actions make sense. I don't know who's writing her but kudos to them and kudos to Madison Lintz.

Me before the show drops on Netflix to Husband: "Do you want to watch Queer Eye with me?" "Why would I want to watch a makeover show? I have no interest in that." *Husband is in room while I finish the last 10 minutes of Tom's episode* *Husband spends weekend with me binging the rest of the episodes and goes back and watches the first 40 minutes of Tom's episode by himself.

As others have noted, this is super common. It's the whole "recall is harder than recognition" with language. My family immigrated here from Poland when I was 4. I speak to my parents in English, and they respond in Polish. I can understand everything they say, but it would like take me about 5 minutes to form one sentence in Polish.

I need a GIF of Jake and Charles' "loophole" like STAT.

For me it was The Perks of Being a Wallflower. Read it at a time in my life when I got ostracized out of friend group and was generally vulnerable. Made me feel a lot better. Also it showed me that being an introvert is okay.

My husband and I started watching this show recently and finally finished every episode. We like Joanna and Chip but to me her style is getting really tiresome and repetitive. The thing that drives me the most crazy is how OBSESSED with white she is. It's always way, way too much white. If you have white moulding, you need to do a color for the walls and probably the cabinets too. Her designs especially in the kitchen and bathrooms end up looking like insane asylums. That one client who was like "I hate white cabinets." And then the cabinets were like....ivory? Seriously? Then in the last episode of this season when her design assistant suggested those wood open cabinets, Joanna's like "No...I like white." ON AN ALREADY WHITE WALL. One of the houses we liked the most was that small cape for the young woman and her foster/adopted child. We actually loved that green paint color in the living room. I liked how originally the bedroom was supposed to be green too but Joanna couldn't handle that much color. Her other problem is she is SO focused on making rooms for young kids but doesn't think about when they get older. Like that hatchway in the last episode between the two kids' rooms or built specifically for that room bunk beds. Like - those are going to be useless and stupid in 10 years. I read the article upwards and not surprised to see the shotgun house is being used as a rental. We HATED that house and could not honestly believe a couple with THREE large dogs were going to live there. Are you kidding me? Especially with the loft balcony thing and those awful stairs? I was getting twitchy just watching the episode thinking about how pet-unfriendly it was. I also hate how she only uses metal railings for stairs, never wood. One thing I really despised as well was the bacon wall in the master bedroom at PawPaw's house. Thought it was hideous. Just straight up looked like bacon. We think Chip is funny though so YMMV.

My husband and I recently watched The Family Fang with Kidman and her "American" accent was REALLY distracting in that too. At times it feels like she throws a bit of Australian in there, which I could probably forgive - god knows I can't do an accent to save my life and of course you are going to slip sometimes, but then other times, it's like this weird American accent where she's just doing her best impression of what she thinks an American sounds like and failing miserably. Hard to describe. I'm not even that picky about accents. I'm not expecting, like, Hugh Laurie levels here, but better than this. At least Emma Watson in Perks of Being a Wallflower. The odd part is I don't remember Nicole Kidman being this horrible at an American accent in some of her older movies. Hell, she was in Cold Mountain and that is my favorite movie, and I don't remember at ALL having an issue with her (southern!) accent. Maybe it's easier for her to do a more "accenty" American-accent than one that is plain? In any case, it's distracting. I don't love her in this role either. Celeste is supposed to be a bit withdrawn and "off," but... Maybe it's so shortly after seeing Family Fang, but not super into her as an actress lately. I actually had the thought that I wish Reese Witherspoon had been cast in her role in Family Fang! I am loving Reese though. I hope she gets an Emmy or at least an Emmy nod for this.

I've finished this trilogy a while ago and am curious what you thought about it. I love, love, love that time period. It's one of my favorites to read about (and watch). I enjoyed these books a lot but felt like there was something I couldn't put my finger on that was missing that would have taken it to OMG LOVE OBSESSED. Like I just wanted her writing style to be a teensy bit different or something. Do you know what I mean? No. Welp.

ari333, that sucks. I feel like it's a hard thing to explain because on the surface nothing is "really wrong." But that's sort of my point with my family. Why create problems where there isn't? It's part of the reason I get along better with my mom and my brother. Like I know my mom wishes I still went to church or visited more often or whatnot, but she realized that bugging me about it actually gets the exact opposite reaction. It took me a while to get here though believe me. I used to think I was doing something wrong. And then I thought about it and said: "What? What am I doing wrong?" My dad used to get really mad when we were arguing and I would start crying and he would yell at me to stop crying. Back then I would sort of be like: well, I should be able to argue without crying. But looking back on it, there is no reason to shame me for crying. It's a normal reaction. You should read the book "Quiet" by Susan Cain. It's not a self-help book but after I read it, it really helped me understand why I am the way I am and that my reaction to things is normal and that I don't have to apologize for it. This part of your post resonated with me: I've been with my now-husband for 12 years (high school sweethearts). Something that drives me batshit when I think about it too hard is that my dad thinks my husband has brainwashed me. As someone who considers herself a feminist, whose husband is a feminist...I mean, I guess it's the epitome of why our relationship is the way it is (father and me). Because he doesn't know me at all. You mean I changed as a person and my beliefs have changed since I was 15 after going to college and law school? Gee, that's really weird. I didn't know I was supposed to have the exact same point of view as I did when I was 15. He just blames it on my husband because we've been together that whole time. Which AGAIN, is so fucking insane because it's saying that I can't make up my mind as a human, as a woman, and am influenced by what the male in my life thinks. If you knew anything about me, then....

I used to beat myself over and over thinking I was doing something wrong with my family but I've stopped. My family was fine growing up, nothing bad. I was really close with my brother when I was younger but that drifted apart for a number of reasons. Nothing really serious, it was mostly the same reasons friends drift apart. My family just has this weird issue of like, acting like we should all be best friends and constantly be together and anything less than that means "I hate them" or something. It's actually odd. I'm at the point where I only regularly message my mom or call her because she doesn't do that. I don't have as much to talk to about with my brother but I will text him too. My sister and my dad are very similar and I'm at the point where I'm like whatever. My sister was the type growing up where (I'm in the middle, she's 3 years older, and I'm 3 years older than my brother) we would do family outings, even in high school, but she was too good for that and would stay home. She had a serious car accident right before I left for college (her bf was drunk and high off his ass) but after giving my parents' panic attacks for a year because she would lie to them about seeing him, she had a "come to Jesus moment" and went completely in the other direction. Like she is obsessed with my parents. Which is fine, it's her right, I don't really care, but she acts like such a snot to me for not being like that. I'm in my late 20s so sorry, it's not normal for me to want to live at home still. She will text me on my parents' birthdays saying "it's mom's birthday, you know." Yes, I know. She's not doing it to be helpful. And I always say to my husband, "do you think she texts everyone else on my birthday and says 'it's Brittabot's birthday you know." My dad always used to make me cry and upset for essentially being an introvert. Last time is when I basically said fuck it. I was out with him and my mom and everything was fine. No one was arguing, a good time was being had. Literally out of nowhere he started arguing/yelling at me about why I don't invite him over our house ever. He literally can't understand that we don't really invite ANYONE ever. We are private people who like having the house to ourselves. When we do have people over occasionally, it's our friends. I just gave up after that. It's like why are you picking an argument over nothing? On that same note, I can never even go out to lunch or shopping with my mom by herself because my dad will always come. Even times when I assumed it would just be the two of us, somehow he's always there. I used to feel bad about it but now I'm like what am I doing wrong? I'm just living my life, not hurting anyone. I think the problem is I'm way more independent and introverted than my 2 siblings and he can't understand it.

Thanks guys. Was spiraling yesterday and then when I was leaving work, my husband sent me a long text that essentially went as such: "Took her to PARK, walked around for a while, she was acting like a butthead. Finally got back into car and she lets out a huge fart. Drove to different part of park and she let out a huge log." Felt a lot better after that. At least she's gotten two out and now we can just take it slow. Talking with other people, we realized she is taking her sweet ass time going because she is not getting to be outside/walking now with the injury. So she's like HA, I'll prove you, I just won't poop until I absolutely to."

This isn't about me but my husband. He has been looking for a new, better job for literally a year. For the first 9 months, he legit got like no interviews except 1 phone interview. Then in the past couple months, he had, at 2 separate places, two interviews each. That is, he got 2nd interviews at both places. The first one kept dragging it out, he would call for updates, they didn't have one, etc, literally for 4 months. Then they finally sent him that standard letter you send to all applicants that he wasn't qualified. Which was just bullshit because um you don't interview someone twice that's not qualified. The second one really kills us though. She had contacted him for an interview like 3 hours after he submitted his resume. Was pretty quick to set up the 2nd interview and always very responsive with email. He felt like he hit it off with her SO WELL. Like the way he was talking I could tell he got along so well with her. His interview was January 5 - radio silence. He sent one email after two weeks asking if there was an update. More radio silence. I just don't get this at this point. How does this happen twice with the radio silence? It can't be that he's not qualified because HE'S GOTTEN SECOND INTERVIEWS TWICE. And if someone else gets the job, WHY CAN'T THEY EVER TELL HIM THAT. JUST FUCKING RESPOND TO HIM. I don't know what more to do at this point. An entire year. Thought we would finally get out of it with that 2nd place but... I don't know. I don't understand anymore what he can do. He graduated college in 2009, so i.e. the worst time. Then I later went to law school and so he basically had to work wherever he got a job. He didn't really have the luxury of waiting for an ideal position. But now he's pigeonholed and people that graduated after him are stepping over him. I don't know what to do anymore.

Hey guys. Our english bulldog had TPLO surgery on her left leg last Thursday (one week ago). It's a surgery for repairing a torn ACL. Following the vet's instructions to keep her confined, we set up a small pen in the living room with a no-slip rug and a few blankets and that was probably the best thing we could have done. For the first 2 weeks we have been instructed go out side 4 times a day, 4-5 minutes at a time basically just for bathroom use. We have been really good about keeping her in the pen otherwise. My husband carries her outside (about 60 pounds) so she doesn't have to use the stairs to the backyard. My only concern is her lack of pooping. Surgery was Wednesday, took her home Thursday. She still hadn't pooped by Tuesday. Peeing completely normally, eating normally (ravenous in fact). She is on a bunch of pills. I did call the Vet on Tuesday and they suggested bringing her in. I made an appt. with our regular vet instead of surgeon (distance-wise and it was snowing). Before that my husband tried bringing her somewhere (to a park) because she is the type that would always poop on walks. He let her walk around for like 10-15 min (on a leash of course with a towel sling) and she did poop. So I called the vet and canceled the appointment. We tried that again the next day and she didn't go. I keep being terrified we set her back by trying to get her to poop. Like when we did that yesterday, she kept trying to jump and play in the snow. He kept her restrained and on a tight leash as much as possible but you know how some dogs just will not calm down once they are in that state of mind. I don't think we could have walked more than 10 min and the distance wasn't really that long but now I'm afraid we set her back. I was just trying to get her to poop! Even little stuff I am afraid I set her back. I will take her cone off when she's eating and like occasionally she will jump back a bit while doing that because of the noise. She was very sleepy the first few days but now is definitely "up" a lot more. She keeps hitting the side of the pen with the cone like she wants to knock it down. (She doesn't). I think I just keep blaming myself and being paranoid. I know I am doing the right thing mostly but I just kick myself like when we tried to get her to poop and it seemed (in my imagination maybe?) that the leg was "more" sore than before. But like I said, we keep her in the pen at all times except bathroom. Should I be worried she's not pooping more? She is on raw, so I know they poop less. She doesn't even try to go. I think I'm more traumatized and worried about this than her...I freak out about every little thing. Which I know is crazy, but I feel crazy. Like logically, I know that "mistakes" aren't the same thing as doing something horrible and no one is perfect and all we were doing was trying to get her to poop, but I just kick myself over every little thing. I was kicking myself for days when she tore her ACL, thinking "if only we stopped her from getting the zoomies right before bed when it happened. If only we took her out on a leash that night, even though we have a fence and would have never done that...." Ugh. I'm crazy.

Ha, as a mommy to an English Bulldog, that is like 90% of people's response. "They have a lot of health problems, you know." No, I don't know and now that you told me, I will go return her after having her for 4 years and her being the love of my life. Thanks for your help!!! *rage face* Every dog has some kind of problem and as their parents we accept them. Also, MY ENGLISH BULLDOG IS ACTUALLY VERY HEALTHY, THANKS VERY MUCH.

Connecticut has pretty strict rules for teaching in a public school. She would need to be certified, which at the very least would require going through a fast-track program for certification. I can't see her doing that; she doesn't care about people other than herself enough to do that.