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I just watched the final ep tonight and sobbed all the way through it. I thought it was fucking brilliant. To me, the best horror is metaphorical and, yes, redemptive. This poor goddamn family suffered so deeply, but finally realized in the end that their love for each other - despite all the dysfunction - was more powerful than anything else they could encounter. I didn't find it sentimental - I found it genuine. This is art. 5 stars.
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Honestly, I lived in Colorado for 26 years and now live in SoCal, so I've been surrounded by stoners and they will tout it as being healthy. It's alleged (heavy emphasis on alleged) to prevent certain types of cancer, such as testicular cancer. Any validity to that? No clue! But if I had a joint for every time someone told me that? Well, I'd have a shit-ton of joints. Plus, they believe it treats anxiety, depression, regulates blood sugar.
I live in Northern California so I know from stoners - ha. I really don't care about what's alleged - I care about the research. That said, there's not nearly enough evidence-based, peer-reviewed research for a variety of reasons, including the fact that it's still classified as a schedule-1 drug (so dumb). But there is strong evidence to support its beneficial impact on anxiety, depression, insomnia, MS symptoms, AIDS symptoms, and most importantly, chronic pain. I think the science is slowly getting there. Here's a good summary on where we are with the scant science so far: http://time.com/3931863/medical-marijuana-benefits/.
As for Bonnie, I imagine she would have a shit ton of anxiety just from dealing with Nathan and Maddie. I kind of think Bonnie is a phony, though. What kind of peace, love and understanding gal marries a guy like Nathan?
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5 minutes ago, Winston9-DT3 said:
I personally was surprised a health nut was smoking pot due simply to that it's inhaling smoke, period. I agree it's healthiER than alcohol but it's not healthier than not smoking anything. I guess showing Bonnie nibbling a pot brownie takes too much groundwork, though.
Good point - they could have shown her vaping!
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Y'all are going to laugh at me for bringing up a blink-and-you-miss-it comment from pages back, but I wanted to comment on this because it's kind of topical right now:
QuoteIt even penetrated Bonnie's Indica haze (for the record, a lot of hippies think pot is actually healthy) for a few minutes.
I don't think "healthy" is quite the right word but marijuana is definitely not "unhealthy." You can - and many people do - abuse it to the point where you're lazy as hell and live in a constant haze. But it has many proven medical benefits and is way more "healthy" than alcohol or any substance people use to relax and disengage.
And to get back on topic:
QuoteI have absolutely no experience with this, but would it do lasting damage to Ziggy if Jane told him that his father had been "mean" or "a bully" to her, which is why she has no contact with him, to keep her and Ziggy safe? As has been said, Ziggy already thinks his father is Darth Vader, so how much worse can it get? That way Jane would tell him the truth in an age-appropriate way, and he wouldn't feel like she's keeping something from him.
I really wish Jane would consult an expert about this. There have to be therapists out there who specialize in treating women that this has happened to. Ziggy is a smart, intuitive kid and I'd hate for Jane to get this wrong. I'm by no means an expert, but if I were Jane I think I'd probably say something as close to truth as possible - that she only met "dad" once and he wasn't very nice so she never saw him again. And then when Ziggy is older and able to understand, tell him the truth as gently as possible, making sure to assure him that what happened has no bearing on him whatsoever, that he's a great kid, and that she loves him more than anything.
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Nepotism isn't exclusive to the ladies, Alexander has a famous acting parent as well.
Yeah, it's really kind of a bogus argument at this point. Plenty of famous actors have kids who want to act. Your legacy can only take you so far - at some point you have to do the work. As others have mentioned, Alexander Skarsgard and Laura Dern have famous parents, and yet they've earned their status as talented actors.
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Kristen S would never work. She has a career because of who her parents are.
Perhaps, but nepotism won't lead you to be the first woman ever to win the French version of the Oscar. You gotta do that work yourself. But we're getting off topic. I think Shailene is doing a fine job, but it's fun to imagine what KS would bring to the table.
On that note, although I think Nicole is compelling as Celeste, I've found myself wondering what another actress could bring to that role, particularly one who can do a consistent American accent! The slipping is making me batty. It's like she's not even trying. Or maybe they just should have made her character Australian.
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Kristen Stewart might have been better. Tighter, angrier. But Shailene is adequate. Hopefully she learns.
I'm cool with Shailene but as a Kristen Stewart fan I LOVE this suggestion and am now picturing it. I've been intrigued by her ever since The Runaways. Then I saw her in Still Alice and Clouds of Sils Maria and finally realized how talented she is. She would knock that jittery, hidden depths thing that Shailene has to do in this out of the park.
QuoteI dig some of the music and camera work. It does add a tension to the show the book lacked. But I hate almost all the music and I haven't recognized one song. It is all ugly and discordant.
I think we may be experiencing David E. Kelly’s pop sensibilities, which would make sense seeing as how it’s his show. The music often skews a little baby boomer for my taste (Otis Redding, Big Brother & the Holding Company, Martha Wainwright), but so far I have heard a lot of more modern stuff I like, too (PJ Harvey, Sufjan Stevens, B-52s, Death in Vegas.)
QuoteI've been a bit appalled at some of the insensitive comments on this board, especially given how many posters have shared how Celeste's story relates to their own experiences or those of their loved ones. I appreciate everyone who's willing to share and try to help others understand.
I have too, but I've been trying to chalk it down to ignorance about the realities of domestic abuse rather than insensitivity or victim blaming.
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3 hours ago, iMonrey said:
If I live to be 1000 I will never be able to get inside the head of someone like Celeste who stays with a violent abuser. I know it's a deep, complicated psychological issue and blah blah blah but I just don't care. It's all very complex and fascinating and yet - I just don't get it. I never will. I don't really have any sympathy for her.
It's more than just a "deep, complicated psychological" issue, though. Many, many women don't leave their abusers because they are literally afraid the guy will kill them if they do. And often, that's precisely what happens. Here's one staggering statistic: up to 75% of abused women who are murdered are killed AFTER they leave their abuser. https://www.theguardian.com/money/us-money-blog/2014/oct/20/domestic-private-violence-women-men-abuse-hbo-ray-rice
As for Renata, I'm going to blame the over-the-top behavior on the way the character is written (perhaps intentionally) and not Laura Dern. LD is a fantastic, nuanced actor with a lot of range so I have to believe this is what the writers/directors want from that portrayal.
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I just don't really see why women are so attracted to him. Can anyone fill me in?
Ding ding ding! You found one! Me and my bestie both find Nick attractive. I think he's sensitive, sincere and funny. Also I prefer sweet, quirky, offbeat guys to jocks and such. And I find him pretty to look at. Really I think it just comes down to what you're into.
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I don't know, I said it all along that I felt like I should like Vanessa, but couldn't figure out what was missing. She is smart, pretty, articulate, just so many great things, and yet I found her boring.
I had the same issue. For the longest time I couldn't figure out why I wasn't warming to Vanessa. I finally realized it's because she's a total control freak, and I cannot handle control freaks. They are absolutely exhausting. I feel very fortunate that I never inadvertently wound up in a relationship with one because I would have been miserable. Nick - women can be strong, sassy and confident without being totally controlling. In fact, we're out there in spades, Nick!
I also just wanted to give a shout out to Nick's dad. What a mensch. It's so refreshing to see a dad on this show who's not just fucking steeped in toxic masculinity and bravado. He's sweet and articulate and not afraid to show his emotions, and he raised his son to be the same way. Yay for sensitive men!
Finally, that whole segment with the four men meeting Rachel at the end was possibly even more cringe-inducing than Nick and Vanessa. I wanted to crawl under my sofa. And we get a racist comment almost immediately? Ew.
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3 hours ago, Madding crowd said:
Nick seems to be an odd combination of introvert and sex addict.
Ha! It's true. He's sexy and awkward at the same time. And when he gets nervous he kinds starts babbling. I get the feeling he's still not sure this is actually happening. It's very entertaining.
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Do most of you find the leads attractive, or are you attracted to the aura of "The Bachelor?"
Nick is the only male lead I've ever found attractive. I'll watch the show regardless (I have issues), but it's more fun for me this year because Nick happens to float my boat. As for the women, I've always found Andi stunning, even with her Grumpy Cat tendencies. I didn't like her by the end of her season, but I still think she's so so pretty. The rest of the women just haven't been my "type" I guess.
QuoteNick slept with Kaitlyn and Shawn multiple times during filming
Ha! That explains so much!
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4 minutes ago, Padma said:
I'm not sure about the choices he's been given, but I hope he at least comes out of this a fan favorite.
Yeah, since this show is designed for wild speculation, I'll wildly speculate that Nick won't wind up marrying the woman he chooses at the end. They'll date for a while, break up, and then he'll find the right person outside of this franchise. I'll keep an open mind, but right now none of them seem to particularly be his type. He'll probably fall in love for a while anyway, though, because that's just what he does. It's part of what I like about him, actually.
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Cool article from Bustle about this season of the Bachelor starting off as very sex-positive, thanks to Nick!
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Sensitive New Age Guy (SNAG) Nick as an object of fascination, to say nothing of desire, on the part of the producers and the B’ettes remains a mystery. He’s worked out, grown his extremely passe tough-guy beard and the camera shots and editing are palpably desperate in their attempts to portray this resolutely Beta male as the Ultimate Hunk Of Masculinity. Whatever we might have thought of Brad, Jesse or even Ben they were blokes’ blokes and the red blood coursing through their veins was nearly audible. Or was that the nonstop cymbal crescendos as punched in by the audio engineers?
Ha! Rainsong, you never cease to amuse. And terrify! I read things like this and I'm reminded of how happy I am in my little Bay Area bubble where so-called "blokes' blokes" with loudly swooshing red blood are the exception, not the norm. I am happily married to a SNAG.
QuoteI'm just still picking my jaw up off the ground at the notion that a woman thought the way to make a lovely first impression on a man was to first tell him she "has balls" and then reach up and PULL SOMETHING OUT OF HER NOSE.
Uh, yeah, not how I would play that either. But hey, at least we got our first openly bisexual contestant (at least as far as I can recall)!
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I love Nick and I'm so psyched that he's the Bachelor. I'm like James Gunn and Kathy Griffin - I've always liked him. I think he's clever and genuine and sexy. So far only Rachel and Vanessa (although who the hell hates flowers??) seemed to really suit him, but we'll see. Excited for the season!
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I am torn on Paula getting into law school. From my point of view law school and being a lawyer kind of sucks so I want her to realize that having a baby is so much better.
Paula's already had children. It's completely understandable and admirable thathe she's ready to try something new.
In other news, did anyone else recognize that bridge from the Buffy episode "Once More with Feeling"?
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I just wanna weigh in that I think Chris Harrison is the biggest freaking creeper on the planet. Mr. "I left my wife and am dating a former bachelorette". Barf. I just find him so completely gross. And that whole intro where he's tapping his glass for Jorge really rubs me the wrong way for some reason. /rant over
I have a longstanding, completely indefensible crush on Chris Harrison. I think it's because I suspect that he's smart and snarky in real life (and this is backed up by some podcasts I've heard him on). That said, I LOATHE that intro with Jorge. It made me cringe every time I saw it. It's so offensive! "Fetch my champagne, inferior brown person!" But I don't blame CH for that. I think we can fault the director/producer.
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Finally watched this episode of After Paradise and wow, the fact that Jared is obsessed with Rob Thomas speaks volumes. It's like being obsessed with the color beige.
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I watch a lot of dark stuff. I love horror movies, I love thrillers, I love whodunits. But that doesn't mean they don't get to me sometimes. As an animal lover, one of my biggest complaints about horror films is that writers/directors often kill off animals as a cheap way to upset the audience and show us how high the stakes are - how evil the villains are. So yeah, I was really, really touched to see the kitty at the end. Like, crying-my-face-off-for-the-next-hour touched. I feel like it was earned, and I don't feel like it was cheap. A bit heavy in terms of the symbolism? Sure, I'll give you that. But John Turturro really sold his character to me. I believed everything he did, including all the back and forth with the cat.
For many of us 2016 has been a crap year, and every once in a while I like my dark matter to have a small ray of hope. Kudos to a wonderful, flawed, thought-provoking, well-acted series.
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Caila. Sweetie. That is no way to confront the obsessed mean girl in love with the guy you are dating. Here's how you handle an Ashley:
(1) Lean into her space. Way in. Look her in the eyes with laser-like intensity.
(2) In a low, even tone, say words to the effect of this: Listen, you little bitch. Jared and I are together, and you are going to stay the fuck away from him and from me or I swear to God you are going to regret it. Oh, and when I say together? I mean TOGETHER. So go peddle your crazy virgin ass to some other guy, because you are NEVER going to be with Jared. Nod your head if I am making myself clear. Good.
(3) Return directly to Jared and seduce him as publicly as possible.
If it were me, I wouldn't confront the obsessed mean girl at all. That just gives her power. I'd go to Jared (which would never happen because "ew", but for the sake of making a point) and say, "Listen, this girl is obsessed with you and you need to decide what you want more: to date me or to get an hourly ego blowjob from her? If it's the former, shut her down for good or we are done."
QuoteI guess we won't know until the other show airs. Until then, it's Schroedinger's marriage.
Ohmigod. You just won this thread. Maybe you should homeschool the twins.
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Re Ashley:
QuoteShe reminds me of someone who maybe was really nerdy when she was younger and doesn't know how to handle being hot. She still has this awkward vibe about her, down to obsessing over Jared the way a 13 year old fangirl obsesses over a celebrity. If she were to play around with different guys (which doesn't need to be sexual at all) she might find out more about herself and relationships which is clearly an area in which she's very inexperienced.
There is something deeply damaged about this girl. It's like she's bought into every Disney princess story before they started trying to be at least somewhat feminist. And her self-esteem is in the toilet. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are (and I happen to think she is beautiful), no one is going to want to date such a needy, clingy, insecure mess. She needs some serious therapy.
QuoteSociety has tried so hard to convince us that if you really love someone, all others basically disappear and you can't possibly ever be attracted to someone else. And if you do find yourself attracted to someone else, that's a sign that you're not really in love or fully invested or whatever in your actual relationship. Which is an insanely stupid attitude. You do not have to confess every little crush you have on someone else. If you have the sort of relationship where you can acknowledge these things, and no one freaks out, great. But if not, just keep it to yourself, and don't fool yourself into thinking that occasionally lusting after someone else means you're not really into your partner, and that it is therefore a Big Deal that must be addressed or even pursued. Ugh.
So. Much. Word. I think one reason I watch the Bachelor and all the spinoffs is because for me they're all like some weird throw back to a much more traditional time, which I find sociologically fascinating. It's so different from my life and marriage. My husband and I admit our crushes to each other all the time and it's seriously no big deal and IMO totally normal.
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This is who I think Daniel looks like. (I can't copy and paste a picture in here.)
WHAAAT?? You just compared one of the hottest guys to grace my TV screen (Tennant) with one of the most physically distasteful (Daniel). Gah! I don't think they could be farther apart in the looks category!
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This was my first season of "Are You the One?" and I was sort of shocked by how much I liked it. It was ridiculously entertaining. Will we get a reunion show? Do any of these couples ever stay together? I imagine it's like the Bachelor franchise in that long term couples are pretty rare.
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Amanda is nuts for thinking it is okay to make out with someone on TV on a regular basis when you have 2 children at home you claim to love so much.
I guess it's a good thing I don't have kids because I kinda don't see what the big deal is (although I find the whole Josh/Amanda thing gross). What *would* disturb me is to see anyone with kids (or without kids, for that matter) acting violent on camera.
QuoteYep, I liked him from the start. I thought it was just me and @wings707, a few others. I never thought he was a good match for Kaitlyn, But Andi and Nick could have been a good match.
I've been here all along, too! I always liked Nick and was very annoyed by the poor edit he was getting, so this redemption arc of sorts is making me very happy.
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S16.E01: Auditions 1
in So You Think You Can Dance
What the shit was that? The new format for "auditions" is so contrived I could barely get through it. If everyone is freaking out and crying right from the start there's no journey for the audience to go on. It felt so incredibly phoney. Considering skipping the auditions and just joining again with academy week.