AUJulia

Unpopular opinion time. I have a 29 year old daughter on the verge of getting engaged and a 34 year old son who’s about to celebrate his 8th wedding anniversary. My daughter isn’t our property but her very modern boyfriend has told her he’ll show respect to us by “asking for our blessing” to get engaged. My son spoke to his father in law too. Neither of them has/had any expectation that my husband/daughter in law’s dad would try to exercise veto power. Instead, they both understand that you’re joining a family and it’s never a bad idea to be polite. We didn’t owe our daughter anything after she turned 18 but we continued to help her with college, grad school and a move across the country. The “asking for a blessing” is like many actions indicated by good etiquette: the person on the receiving end is supposed to be pleasantly surprised that the other person was so kind, without being so gauche as to mention a failure if one occurs. (That’s why I still believe that any instruction on an invitation regarding gifts for yourself is tacky.) We wouldn’t demand that our daughter’s boyfriend talk to us pre-engagement, but since he knows we’re supportive, why not? It’s a milestone we’d love to be included in. He’s also aware that we’re planning to stick to tradition as parents of the bride and pay for the wedding. And that my daughter wants her dad to “give her away.” They’ll go on a honeymoon that tradition also dictates is paid for by his parents. And they’ll have wedding attire. Why bother with parts of tradition and toss out the one that you’ve decided casts doubts on what the bride’s dad thinks is his role in his daughter’s life? Not everything has to be about making sure you receive “respect” while you insist you don’t need to show some, too.

I’m the 1% and I’d chew my arm off before I acted like that. Same for all MY 1% friends.

Same for other Bravo shows lately.

The yacht booking people should’ve made sure the guests were aware that employees aren’t also sex workers.

Sooooo this episode was filmed in November, right? And Chase’s baby was born September 9? So he impregnated the mama in early December? If we pretend the engagement was real, it looks like the mountain getaway didn’t make him more committed to old Whitless. 😏

Someone I was close to was “working the steps” and we were in a session with his therapist when I expressed concern that I was not feeling confident that him getting sober and continuing to do the steps was going to end in him being a person I wanted to be around. I’ll never forget what the therapist said: “once he’s sober and doing everything he’s committed to do, you may discover that at his core he’s still an immature asshole.”

The look on his face with the cat carrier in the car 😂😂😂

Don’t forget, Adam has expressed a deep dislike for Georgia. Maybe that’s part of why he’s being so offended by both of them having the same ex. The boyfriend is from Salt Lake City. (No meaning, just felt like pointing that out.)

I’m unaware of any agency that will place a child with a morbidly obese person.

I don’t think kids are in their future. She seems physically unable to have any and I SERIOUSLY doubt she’ll be permitted to adopt, given her size.

Ryan’s doppelgänger

Kept waiting for Glenn to ask Jenna whether she’d had a serious counseling session with Madison. A good boss starts there. Ask why she’s staying up so late. Ask why she doesn’t finish one task before switching to another (Jenna knows Madison can’t finish the work within 30 minutes of the guests going to bed and she knows she (Jenna) is constantly interrupting Madison in the middle of tasks). Being snide and condescending isn’t being a good boss.

I’m not skinny (not Whitless-level fat, though) and I’ve been to Paris 3 or 4 times and can attest that Parisians and other visitors think fat Americans are disgusting. No one would fawn over her. I bet she got some very ugly stares and comments. I HOPE she got some for that absurd beret.

My recollection of older seasons is weak (I had young kids and no DVR) but didn’t they have to eat gross stuff at least once a season? Could the new schoolers do THAT, Jeff?

It illustrates why family therapists advise against divorced parents dating while their kids are still minors. Not worth the risks (which include predators wanting access to children as well as the loss of another beloved adult plus the drain on parental attention) and, having lived past the age when my kids all turned 18, I can attest that it really isn’t that long to wait to make sure your kids get the best you can give them.