For all the criticism Dany receives, of all the “leaders” in the show/books she seems the most open to not only listening to opposing views, but implementing them. I haven’t seen that in Stannis, Cersei or even Ned Stark. How many people would not only sit at the table with a member of the family that murdered their father and had a hand in their being exiled, but then place that very person as one of their closest advisors?
For all intents and purposes, Dany is just a teenage girl. But it’s BECAUSE she’s a teenage girl in a world where the young and the women are dismissed, overpowered and disposed of so easily and frequently, that she has to put on this massive front like she’s the biggest most fearless mofo in the world. There is absolutely no room as a teenage girl in this world to show one crack of weakness. It’s why she has to make these big speeches and public displays of strength. It’s a massive front and NO ONE knows this more than Dany. It’s why she’s so willing to seek advice from anyone. Anyone desperate enough to seek advice from their handmaiden as to how to run a city, is obviously conceding that they’re unsure. She’s also a teenage girl who’s had one message pumped into her head since birth, and that’s, that she’s the rightful ruler of Westeros. On that, and on ending slavery she’s unwilling to compromise. But I see no signs that she’s unwilling to compromise in a host of other areas.
Dany’s transition from idealistic teenage girl to being more political and thoughtful in ruling is going to take some time, but it’s not impossible. Especially now that she has an advisor that’s worth something. And she was wise enough and compromising enough to allow him in, even though he is a Lannister.
Even in her “Break the Wheel” speech, the very first family she mentioned as just “another spoke” were the Targaryeans. She included HER OWN family in this. Dany has the greatest of intentions to create a just and equal society, she just doesn’t know exactly how to do that yet. But, WHO in this show/books, besides Tyrion (and that’s questionable) has made the right decision every single time? No one. Which is why I’ve never understood why people criticize her more harshly.