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There's been speculation that a lot of the scenes are contrived. How about this one. Ashley and Jay painstakingly install video cameras throughout the house because of fears of violence or invasion of their privacy due to racist and inappropriate comments on their website. Shortly thereafter, someone comes to the front door and menacingly pounds and shouts. Ashley and Jay wave their arms and race about, saying "whoever could be at the door??!" Never once do they look at their monitor.

THANK YOU. Everyone is panicking thinking Steven can just buy a ticket and carry Richie onboard. Not going to happen so everyone can calm down. Steven can spout all he wants about "what's best for MY SON," but just because he thinks it doesn't make it so. He's trying to play on Olga's ignorance about the visa/passport process. Yet he doesn't even know what an "SS number...???" is. I don't give orders to my husband about his downtime. We spent lots of time together, and once a year he travels with a group of friends. If he wanted to go out for a drink with a friend, I would never command him not to. I find it interesting that Leida said she had "accepted" everything and now she is DONE! What is her term of acceptance? I guess it means she didn't hightail it back to Jakarta by now. She needs to learn that acceptance does not mean she can say "I don't like it!" It doesn't mean that she lives in the pigsty and complains everyday, but since she stays she is a saint. Eric tells her she is his main priority while he sobs in his talking head that he had to grow Tasha up, as it were, and she needed to be kicked out of the nest. What a pathetic, whipped mess he is. And that haircut he got does very little to offset his baked-bean teeth. Ugh. Kalani, Kalani, Kalani. You are so wise as you explain to Mumsie that Asuelu doesn't understand that in this country, children cost money and everything is more expensive. Perhaps you should have thought about that before Asuelu forced his seed on you and "got you pregnant." Her giant eyes leaking sorrowful tears look straight out of a Disney movie, don't they? And now she faces more strain as she has to tell her sister that she's having #2. Colt's friends seemed so perfect for him, didn't they? It's as if Central Casting sought out the nerdiest, oddest couple they could find. I know that Colt's ride truly doesn't have a/c because his back was soaked as they walked (or attempted to walk) to the restaurant. Larissa is puzzling to me because she smiles at everything. He's looking to send you packing? Grin. You're pissed that he didn't notice your 2-hour makeup techniques? smile.

See, I don't buy that she wants to be a doctor AT ALL. From what Dr. Google has told me, medical training in Indonesia consists of four years of "schooling," (not necessarily medical school as we know it here) and a year of clinical clerkship. So, it's possible Leida took four years of courses and could potentially be a "general practitioner" there. (I shudder at the thought of her treating any patients). IF she really did want to become a doctor here, she's probably looking at prerequisites (med schools require at least a full year of chemistry, physics, biology...) and then 4 years of medical school, internship, residency and possibly a fellowship. She doesn't have the wherewithal to do a fraction of that. For one, she's stupid. For two, she couldn't even pass a med school interview with that attitude. Her goal is to be on TV and become some sort of internet sensation. That's about as likely as it is that Eric might take a shower, buy real furniture and put some savings in the bank.

Not necessarily. They could have bought the car new eons ago and just decided hey, as long as Mommy Deb can drive Colt to work, it's fine by them. And it probably did come with a/c (they all do nowadays); likely it broke at some point and they are cheap and didn't want to fix it. I think cheap and tightfisted win over "broke" in their case.

Boundaries are set by parents- not by their mail-order, immature, rude green-card seeking "fiancées." And boundary-setting doesn't involve saying "I want you out! Now! I'm done with you! I'm in charge now!" And "trashing a place" involves breaking things, ruining carpet, putting holes in walls and the like. Not leaving your clothes all over the place. My 3 kids are all grown adults, and as teens they left their clothes lying around. I didn't call it "trashing the place." I called it sloppy. They are all neat now. Lastly, Leida doesn't have a right to go into Tasha's room. Messy or not. Close the door. Intervention is required if there is rotting food, or ants. I saw neither.

This is a generalization none of us can make. Tasha appears to be working and was able to pay her half of the rent- until Eric "excused" her from it- I would guess so that he looks to Leida as if he is making a move towards getting her out. I have no faith at all that Eric gave her a deadline. He's too wishy-washy to have had a concrete conversation with a timeline. And although at 19, OP, you had been in the military for two years, that's the exception rather than the rule. We don't know if Tasha may be in school or where she works, but it's presumptuous to make a blanket statement that she "needs to go." Eric is letting Leida steamroll him into mistreating his daughter. Telling her to "take her shit and get out..." over SPEAKERPHONE with small children in earshot is beyond despicable. As for his gallant bid for dad-of-the-year ("you can't turn me against my kids! I love my kids!") and his talk of "giving up parental rights"- they aren't rights, buddy; they're obligations. So come down off your self-righteous pedestal and shut the F up. I hope she harps on you the rest of your livelong days about how she's NOT HAPPY and you grind yourself down into heart failure trying to please her.

Colt mentioned during the apartment hunt that his and Mom's lease was up soon. So it seems Debbie and Colt are tenants, not condo owners.

And that, sadly, is the story of their relationship in a nutshell. Kalani's constant worrying about "trusting" Asuelu, about his "putting MY baby in danger," her insistence that her family watch him, as if he is a psychopath who might lose his shit (and then insists on telling him all the time that he's "on watch" and not trusted)- will never, ever end. I am not sure who gave her the title of parent/fiancee/most-responsible of the year, but she ain't any of that. And? Her uptalk? "I'm thinking? That maybe? I don't really want to marry Asuelu?"... reflects the fact that she has no clue what being an adult is all about... and I didn't even mention the fact that she quit her job right before starting to pursue bringing Asuelu here- and that she needs her mother and sister full time to raise her son even though she isn't working. She's nothing but a very unlikable, hot mess.

Because her horrific family will find a reason to chew him up and spit him out over it, like everything else he says or does.

Colt's face when Debbie talked about moving out was the first true emotion I've seen him display since episode 1. I swear his lip even quivered a bit. I was also a little taken aback that Debbie is 66. That is not old!! Who knows what she can afford, but an apartment for a single person in that area should be within her social security/disability/retirement budget. She is a mom whose only purpose in life is to mother, even if her dear little boy is 30+ years old. And what mom, ever, says "we've been together for 33 years"? It's downright creepy. Leida is certainly suffering the consequences of the price she paid to gain entry into the US. Who knew it would be this bad? It's hilarious that she thinks that by saying "I want what I want and I want it now!!" will garner results. I give Eric credit for pointing out that feelings and reality are not the same thing. He just can't quite knuckle down yet and say "ok, I have discretionary income every month of $400 after paying *some* of the bills [the ones he "selects" to pay], I have a whopping $800 in savings, which are all going to your flowers, so that leaves me diddly-squat to pay for what you want NOW." Jon's mom needs to stop taking everything he does so personally. Cut the apron strings, CiCi. He's a grownup, albeit a massively immature one. How many times must we hear you weakly say how hard this all is to "process" ? All you need to do is show up and act like a decent human being. Stop acting as if going to a bridal shop for a few hours on a Saturday required massive amounts of gumption and courage. Stop telling us how you certainly didn't expect to be looking at dresses with your future daughter in law. And stop talking about age-appropriateness in a wedding gown. She is not a child bride- she's young but she isn't twelve.

Olga, for one, doesn't constantly complain about what Steven is not doing for her. And honestly, the first few weeks post-partum are not the time to "work on relationships" or try to pussyfoot around their partners' feelings. Perhaps she isn't going out of her way to be a loving spouse/partner, but I would have to give her a pass as a new mother who is recovering from surgery and breastfeeding. I've been there; it's a level of exhaustion, hormonal turmoil and a sense of being overwhelmed unlike no other. I don't see either one of them as being overly considerate or loving. But Steven is the only one of the two who is complaining and demanding much more of his partner than she can possibly give at this point in time.

Wow, really? I find Olga's self-constraint while Steven is grilling her ("have you EVER thanked me for EVERYTHING I'VE DONE FOR YOU?") admirable and notat all dull. She is exhausted (yes, they both are), trying to learn parenting (yes, they both are), and she doesn't have a moment to be "kind and loving" because he is constantly running his mouth about how she puts the baby first (which she should), and about how HIS feelings are hurt. New dads are sure to feel displaced, especially in the early months as babies require nearly 24/7 direct attention and moms are tired/recovering (in this case from a major surgical procedure); still, any guy with a brain in his head would realize that this is all new and stressful. Steven doesn't consider her feelings, at all.

I agree that Jon is a grownup and Mom shouldn't lose sleep over his seemingly uncharacteristic decision to settle down. But still... he set the stage by first not being adult about it all and letting her know he was getting married before the news hit facebook; and secondly by admitting that he needed and sought her approval. He still behaves like a little boy who needs Mom to validate him. (Hence, his comment that "If I'd told her ahead of time she would have said no.") I have a 33 year old son and he sometimes calls and tells us he has an idea that we think is hare-brained. But he certainly doesn't ask our permission; nor does he need it.

I'm beginning to wonder if the "relationship" between Eric and Leida is strictly a business transaction: he gets her here via the K-1 visa, she can go back to medical school (haha)/get Instagram-famous; and her dad will then support them with all of his supposed millions. I just can't see that her parents would be so passive about the living arrangements and conditions if there wasn't some sort of ulterior plan. Mom and Dad agree to let her and Allessandro go with Eric in exchange for her citizenship; they foot the bill. There appears to be zero attraction between the two- I have only seen one instance of physical contact at all, which was when she threw herself at him at the airport when she arrived. I re-watched Kalani's segment last night and the more I watch her, the more she not only irritates me, but angers me. She fancies herself as the shining example of parenting who is in a position to oversee, criticize and mock her fiance regarding everything he does- with the baby and otherwise. I didn't see much that was alarming- I'm pretty sure that at 6 months or so we carried our babies on our shoulders. It wasn't as if he wasn't holding on. Their heads are pretty stable at that point. And who is she to criticize- after screaming at him in the car while driving on an interstate, swinging her head back to look at them for long periods of time, and eating snacks at the same time? And on a pettier note, she needs? to work? on the uptalk? everything is a question? Maybe because, as her brother Nick points out, she can't make a decision about anything? Ashley's comment that "we are seriously lacking in communication" was interesting. Ya think? You mean getting the big D twice a day does not a relationship make? I think I learned something there. And her TH in which she said, "I can't be checking his phone all the time, wondering who he's talking to. I'm over that." Well, I think I know why you have had two engagements that didn't end happily. She's a ball of insecurity and will surely sabotage whatever "relationship" it is they have. I am not in the camp with those who think Jon's mother was awful. He had a defiant, pissed off look from the beginning, and I'm sorry but not telling your family about your engagement before it hits social media is not acceptable. On the one hand he wants her approval ("If I had told her ahead of time she would have said no!") and on the other, he makes snarky, rebellious comments ("no, YOU need to do the math right." "Can you give us marital advice? You've been married a few times.") His entire demeanor and attitude reeked of adolescent acting out behavior. He and Fernanda are very close in emotional age so maybe they'll work out just fine.

Or, it's just not a priority. Some people just drive their car around and don't look at it as a status symbol; or don't feel the need to replace a perfectly functioning vehicle for a higher payment, more expensive insurance... and an older car isn't as big a deal if it gets scratched. So I think to use "cheap" as a negative word- maybe could be considered "frugal," meaning one has different financial priorities.

Leida failed in that she chose a lazy, slovenly guy who can't take care of himself much less a wife and a young stepchild. And don't forget that he already has an underage child he is at least in part responsible for. I think Leida is suffering the consequences of her own poor decision making for the sake of getting to the USA. I don't have any sympathy for her. She had to clean the messy place? She is misdirecting her anger. She needs to look at that waste of space she intends to marry.

I think Eric made a show of saying "she didn't pay the utility bill LAST MONTH" as if he had cut her a huge break and she should have gotten out by then. Who knows when he discussed her leaving- his M.O. seems to be that everything will just happen magically on its own and Tasha should just "know" she had to leave. Who knows what Tasha's job is, but it is going to realistically take time to find a place, collect the security/first month's rent, pack, etc. I didn't hear that this agreement transpired months ago. And if it had- Tasha seems pretty level-minded and was very clear that her name was on the lease. She doesn't have to go just because Dad decided to drag a family in there.

I've got to disagree here. The time between Leida arriving and her showdown with Tasha was maybe 8-10 days (of "touring" the US with Leida's poor family, the Pennsylvania "cabin", many hours on the road)- which doesn't give a lot of time for a teenager to save money for a down payment, sign a lease, and move. At best, if she had found a place she'd likely have to wait until the first of the following month and move her stuff. And never, ever is it ok for the "new spouse" or "almost spouse" to play bad cop and act as a primary parent. And this case was extreme. They had just met! Leida didn't even have the decency to respond to Tasha's very considerate greeting of her and her child. Tasha was beyond polite and appropriate. Leida was a pouting, grudging bitch from the get-go. And maybe the second sentence out of her mouth was "did you make a mess on purpose?" Really? Eric- or any parent- should lay down the ground rules when a new spouse comes into the picture that his kids are NOT hers and the parenting should be left to him. Not that he has acted in any way as a responsible, decent parent. I have a lot of respect for Tasha- even if she does wear a tail.

Colt's description of how he planned to propose ("I want to tell her she's the love of my life; I want to be with her forever..." ) turned into a sloppy, dad-jeans, grunting drop to the floor, and a "wanna get married?" Larissa was all in- because the ring was pretty. Why did she put it on her right hand? And in no scenario, ever, would I wake up my mother in law with CAMERAS rolling, to show her the ring that she had already seen. Kalani was so awful driving - not only to her fiance but endangering her child by looking into the back seat for inordinately long stretches- I was just seething. She talks to Asuelu like he's an imbecile "buckle your seat belt. Are you buckled? Do you need help? " - but seems to think that by calling him "baby" every sentence that it makes it okay. And I am sure that screaming about "TAKING A F&*$ING BABY OUT OF THE F&*%CKING CARSEAT" was a good way to calm poor upset Oliver. Steven is an A-1 jerk. I don't care how bad his childhood was, he needs to learn he can't just steamroller his way into any situation and demand it be the way he wishes. I remember quite well how painful it is to move after a C-section and just because Steven wants to "get home now," doesn't make Olga getting up, dressing and packing her things happen in a split second. He is an immature, selfish dick and I am only hoping that Olga tells him to take a long walk on a short pier, and soon. The minute that baby cries in the middle of the night, he will lose it. Eric looks drunk half the time. The family was basically telling him he sucked and that he was a really poor husband candidate for Lieda and he looked like he was about to fall asleep. Does he not care, or is he impaired? David Poor was just about as inept to take on a new bride, but at least he lied and looked earnest about trying to provide. This guy looks like he really couldn't care less.

In the US (I'm a medical provider and have worked for years in teaching institutions), it may certainly help a college grad get into medical school if his parent or parents are physicians, but there isn't a "moving up the ladder" regarding subspecialties-meaning just because Dad is a neurosurgeon doesn't guarantee Junior will be. Med students have to decide which specialty they choose by their 4th year so they can apply for residency. A general practitioner may be "lower" in terms of potential income, but it doesn't necessarily mean that they are less privileged than a brain surgeon. And specialties like neurosurgery, heart surgery and plastic surgery are very competitive and thus much harder to get into as residents. My belief is that Lieda isn't really a physician in a position to practice at all. She said, "I attended medical training." In this country, medical school gets you an MD degree but no ability to practice medicine at that point. Perhaps in Indonesia she could be a general practitioner, but not here. I also noticed that she said, "I want to work in the medical field." Not really the language a practicing doctor would say. I know of many docs who were surgeons in foreign countries (already went through residency/fellowship there) who had to repeat entire US residencies (4-7 years) before practicing here. I think Lieda is dreaming, misinformed, or both.

wait a minute; then how is she your grandmother if your uncle is her only child?

She did the same thing when the poor guy got emotional and broke down on the beach. She kind of sat there and looked a little uncomfortable. In her TH she said, "it breaks my heart to see Asuelu cry," but I didn't see much emotion at all. I mean, at least take his hand or something. When our family members lived in desert Arizona, it was so hot out during the day that you could not go in the pool; you had to wait until the sun went down. Otherwise you'd sear your feet on the pool decking. It was miserable. There are companies out there whose sole purpose is to refill pools because the water in them evaporates so quickly in the dry heat.

Not to mention that after asking, wheedling and outright begging for them, wouldn't you feel like it wasn't a very meaningful gift? "Oh, all RIGHT already; here are the flowers! Now shut up!"

Did they identify themselves as Christians? I'm not sure why Christians as a general group are lumped into the hateful/gun-totin'/racist territory.

Am I the only one who thinks Leida is generally full of shit? Really, a doctor/actress/model? Come on. She sold him a lemon, and her family is happy that maybe they can dump her entitled, sorry butt in America. The only tough part is the adorable son (who uncomplainingly ate the entire "breakfast burrito," which looked more like eggs and sausage to me). I do think Colt has a lot of Aspergers tendencies; he's very literal ("she wanted to see the Vegas sign; I showed her the Vegas sign. I did the right thing." ) The mommy issue is disturbing and Mother doesn't seem to have a clue as to how totally incestuous the entire thing seems ("we've been together a long time now...") I would love to know how Father fit into the whole dynamic. Seems not many of the contestants have jobs this season. Skater kid didn't really say did he? I just heard that he dropped out of High School and flops at friends' houses when Granny (who had the most giant denim jacket I've ever seen) can't tolerate him anymore. Kalani? No mention that I recall of a job. Ashley? Hmm. Not sure how she finances her two children (where are they??) and her self-defense classes, not to mention trips to Jamaica.