Jusagirlintheworld

Foster adoption is free. My bet is that they go that route.

OMG. I am laughing so hard at the "Pete's flesh Pistol." So, did the weird manual say oral is ok? I don't even know what the book was. I wasn't watching back then. I would be the oral master if I weren't allowed to use birth control. Anytime my hubby asked for my "sandwich," I would offer him that alternative.

I feel a bit uncomfortable talking about Jill and Derrick's sex life, but they opened the door, so here goes. Does their religion allow women to, er, "accomodate" their husbands in ways other than traditional sex? For instance, they have to wait 40 days after birthing a boy. Does that mean that other forms of intimacy are prohibited? There are ways for a married couple to be intimate that don't risk pregnancy. If I were not allowed to use birth control, I would definitely be favoring those forms of intimacy so I could space out my children. Is that even allowed? Ok, I have to bleach my brain now.

I'm only halfway through. Jill and Derrick said they would allow their children to go to a university. Woohoo! Good for them!

This explains a lot.

Hi, I've been lurking for a while, but this is the first time I've posted. This forum has really opened my eyes to the fundamentalist world, especially the posts by GEML and Marigold. My biggest question about fundamentalists is: How do these ladies handle their large families? How is it even humanly possible on a day-to-day basis? Especially in the beginning when their kids are too young to be "buddies?" The "buddy system" is only an option when the oldest children are old enough to be buddies. It worked for Michelle because she had space between her oldest children and the rest. Jill and Jessa are having children right out of the gate. Assume Jill has a child every two years after her eldest is born. (Eg., 2015 = baby 1; 2017= baby 2; 2019 = baby 3; and 2021 = baby 4) By 2021, she would have four children ages six and under. Yikes! Think about that for a moment: The six year old would be too young to be a buddy to his younger siblings. He couldn't take homeschool lessons on the computer yet. He would need Mom to spend time teaching him how to read and the concepts of addition and subtraction. The four year old couldn't take homeschool lessons either. He would need Mom to teach him his colors and shapes. He would also be running around getting into everything, like four year olds do. (All those dirty clothes need to be washed!) Although potty trained, he would still have accidents at times. (More laundry!) The two-year old would be in his "no" stage . . climbing, throwing cheerios around, still requiring lots of help from Mom.. He would spill food and drinks often (more laundry and clean-up!) He may be potty-training. (Even more laundry!). He would put everything in his mouth and get sick constantly. Every stomach virus he contracts would spread to all of the children, requiring Mom to stay awake for days with one sick child after another! The baby would wake up all night long. Mom would nurse every hour and change diapers at least that often. (Nursing is exhausting for women!) Leaking diapers and blowouts would produce even more laundry! How on earth can a mom attend to her children and still clean the house, do the laundry, cook the meals, and service her headship? All without Dad's help?!? And all that with a joyful countenance? It seems that there wouldn't be enough hours in the day. I have a friend who has three children under five. (Two were planned and one was a surprise). She is supermom and one of the most capable women I know. She stays at home. Her husband shares in the childcare and household responsibilities. She has family who helps her, too. Still, her house is a mess, her car is a mess, and she is utterly sleep-deprived. (No judgment! Mine would be, too!) When the winter viruses hit, she is awake taking care of sick children for days on end. How do these fundamentalist ladies do the impossible? What is their secret?