Virtually Me

Sorry, paying her to marry him is not plausible the way it was told. I'm not saying that it never happens, but, this scenario is implausible because there's no explanation re how the money got to her. I haven't heard anything convincing about it. I need more details than it just happened. ICE watches for this kind of stuff, and it is pretty obvious if done via bank transfer. She's never met his family and, frankly, she's not worth $6,000 for a nikah. That's just me.

I can't see how. In October, she was still begging for a sponsor. They were turned down the first time because they sent in the application without the fee. I heard that he got a sponsor in November, but, there would be something weird going on if he was approved so quickly, unless they went on what was in the August application. I'm skeptical . . .

You're welcome :-) They weren't in Tunis, they were in Doha, Qatar. He doesn't need to be concerned about his reputation there. Frankly, the reputation of a foreign, non-Arab, non-Muslim woman who is willing to stay with a man she doesn't know is already questionable in this culture. I'm not saying that everyone is as pure as the driven snow; they're not. Yet, a modest local girl is valued higher than that of a foreign non-Muslim woman. That's not because non-Muslim women are disliked for being non-Muslim. It has more to do with the way they are perceived (mostly from movies and TV shows) to be morally loose. Local people tend to be more conservative. Their families are involved in making marriage decisions. They will protect the "honor" of the woman, if possible, and they will know her rights under the marriage contract. A foreign non-Muslim woman is most likely not thinking like this. She's unaware of these things and he is unlikely to educate her. That doesn't mean he doesn't care about her, but, I've seen so many of these couplings crash and burn, I am not romantic about them. These are generalizations, of course, but, they are also generally true, even in more liberal countries.

I didn't get the impression that she stayed in a hotel, but, at his place. Hotels in Muslim countries often ask for proof of marriage. According to Dani, they did the deed in Doha. Her sister, Sarah, has also claimed that Dani was credit card scammed by a foreign guy. It's always some ex that is doing her in because she has such a knack for making a love match. Applying for the visa is the easier part. AOS is much harder.

Aw, you bet me to it. Yea, Dani's a grandma. I'm on record not believing this. It's not plausible. Yea, talk about a set up.

Odd. The posts are out of order . . . ??

In Tunisia, you go to jail for not paying your bills. It's probably a habit with him, a way to save face. I still think he'll be OOT ASAP. I don't see them staying together any longer than necessary for him to get his GC; their goals values seem to be in opposition to each other. Mohamed sees himself as someone with a future beyond Ohio. I could be wrong, but, I'll stand on that.

Something I noticed is that after they were paid for the show last week, the landlord from the recent eviction was paid. I think that says a lot about someone's fiscal credibility. Danielle said that Mohamed makes her a better person. Could be. I'm not as down on him as so many are. He's practical and thinks long term. I like that. A lot of people go on about how there's no display of love between them. I have no idea what their private life is like (except when Dani's ranting), but, a mature adult has every right to expect their spouse to behave responsibly. Love is all well and good, but, this person has access to your finances, your secrets, authority over life and death if you're incapacitated. IMHO, Mohamed is more realistic about marriage and more mature about what it really involves than Dani is. She just wants to jump his bones and have him pay off her debts. I'll catch some flack for this lol. It's ok; it's the lawyer in me talking.

I don't disagree that it is a mystery as to how she paid for her tickets and his, but, it's simply not plausible that his family paid her to marry him. Someone would have to show me how they got the money to her before I can believe it. That they might be able to raise it is slightly plausible, but, how they could get it to her, especially without ICE finding out, is far less plausible. I'm open to evidence; I just haven't seen any.

New here, long time lurker, first time poster. I've really enjoyed reading this forum and wanted to join in. I had to comment on this rumor about Mohamed's family paying Dani to marry him. With all due respect, I don't believe it for a minute. For one thing, she didn't meet his family. She met Mohamed in Doha, not Tunis. Second, it would make more sense for them to pay her if they had a nikah (Islamic marriage contract), which requires a dowry, and there is no evidence of that having happened. Third, if his family is poor, it's doubtful that they could get that kind of money to her. North African and ME countries strictly limit the amount of money that can be taken out of the country. Poor people rarely have bank accounts anyway. It sounds like evil eye gossip to me. I'm Palestinian (married to a Moroccan) and I immigrated to the US myself. Now, I work for an immigration law firm. If this had been the case, ICE would know about it. Just sayin'. Also, there are Muslim countries that are strict about PDA, but, not all are. I've been to all of them, and Morocco is one I've spent a lot of time in since childhood. Moderate PDA is not a problem in most of the cities. The only time we were told to stop was when we are bussing at a national monument. Anyway, hello, everyone!