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6 minutes ago, libgirl2 said:
My dad used to cry when we would visit the graves of his parents, my dad used to cry when he went to the nursing home to see my mom who had dementia, he cried when my son was born. He used to say he was soft. Some men do cry. My husband does. It isn't rare and there is nothing wrong or nefarious about it.
Did I say it was wrong and nefarious? All I said was my husband doesn't cry, (neither did my father or either of my brothers. )I don't think there's anything wrong or nefarious about them either, neither do I think they're cold and unfeeling. For that matter I rarely cry. I'm just saying many people in our generation were told not to cry when we were children and we got used to stifling it.
So guys like Gerry who sob when they have to say goodbye to someone they've known a few days, are maybe not quite as common in our age group.
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1 hour ago, Realitystarr said:
I always doubted him from the beginning with the way his wife died suddenly after moving to their dream home and this Hollywood reporter story backs it all up.
It's funny so many older women watching this show still fell for his fake persona when it was so obvious with the constant crying, no man especially of that generation cries that much unless they're pouring it on to manipuate.
I agree. He's exactly my husband's age and I've only seen my husband cry (that is tear up for a second) over a death in the family.
There are many small things that only someone of his generation would see. The pictures of young Gerry show a slightly nerdy looking guy who is very out of style for the times.
His romantic story in People, when the show first began, says he was interested in Toni's friend, but when he realized he didn't have a chance with the friend he turned to Toni who was "a nice little gal."
Somewhere over the years Gerry got a little more confidence and a little better looking compared to his peers, and I think he started believing he was all that and could now get the beautiful ones.
All this makes me wonder just how hard a time the show might have had with casting this age group. They had to throw out all the fat bald guys, ones with bad knees who couldn't do the 'dates.' They may have had very few applicants because the attractive men I know in this age group would think doing this show would be beneath them. It's just not that manly to stand around in a suit holding roses, what would their buddies say?
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I don't think less of Katurah for her moment of water panic, in fact it reminded me of when Cirie had one and worked through it. Katurah has said she took lessons and learned to swim expressly for Survivor, but that sort of swimming experience will never compete with the experience of people who grew up around the ocean and are used to vey deep water. I liked that she refused Jeff's offer of being boated back to shore and jumped in with the gang to swim back.
But then I love Katurah and want to be her best friend and go to lunch. She makes me laugh. I'm going to miss the weekly Wylie Coyote vs Bruce minute.
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Wow that article is really kind of sickening. Reading the beginning, I just laughed. When the show started my husband asked what Gerry did for a living and I said, "Owns a restaurant, probably a Dairy Queen," Well that would have been better than a Mr. Quick burger joint in 1985. But the job stuff is just funny, the treatment of that poor Carolyn who gave up a good career for him is seriously awful.
The worst part is the fat shaming over ten pounds:
Quote“I’m not taking you to the reunion looking like that,” Carolyn recalls him saying as he pointed to her body. She’d put on 10 pounds — from stress, she says — but certainly wasn’t fat.
I have noticed his fat phobia throughout, cutting all the slightly overweight women on the first night and then gradually narrowing it down to the very skinniest. His wife looked like she was maybe 30 pounds over ideal and now I'm thinking her life might have been hell.
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At any age, people know they're going to spend more time running errands, going to appointments or jobs, eating dinner, watching TV or reading, and going to bed, than they're going to spend traveling, riding jet skies, and having wild sex. They're smart to pick the person they enjoy the homey things with over the vacation spouse. Not saying which woman is which, we might be surprised.
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11 hours ago, JH Lipton said:
Dee has done what you're supposed to on Survivor: find an alliance and keep it tight. She may be a little smug but she deserves to be. "A woman has to work twice as hard to get half as much appreciation." I think the fact that she is "conventionally attractive" works against her too.
I've heard that all my life and while I'm sure it might be true in certain fields, I don't think it's ever been true in Survivor.
Erika won her season without doing much of anything except be lucky, with an hour glass to smash making her the challenge winner after others had worked hard to actually win. Meanwhile Xander carried his tribe on his back to the merge, collected an idol and an advantage, was never voted against, and won two immunity challenges, including the very last one. He didn't get a single vote and Erika won. If Erika worked twice as hard as he did I missed it.
I also don't think being conventionally attractive hurt, Natalie, Amber, Jenna, Parvati, Dani, etc.
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First episode, when Drew and Austin aligned, Drew said something that meant "I have the brains and you have the brawn." It was very insulting, but Austin's big smile didn't waver. So last night when he solved that puzzle I was so happy for him and later he said to someone, "I'm a little bit smart." Hah! Loved it.
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Darn show, making me like Bruce for a while. I thought I was fresh out of villains, but then Dee stepped up as the queen of shadenfreude, now I would love to see that giant smile fade during a blindside.
I'm happy Katurah and Jake made it through another vote and Kellie is boiling mad.
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1 hour ago, Jeanne222 said:
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I have to ask, what does that little white square mean?
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1 hour ago, mishap said:
I don't feel bad for them -- they signed up for this.
Thanks for the reminders, I do get caught up and start worrying about broken hearts when they not only signed up for it they must have watched past seasons and know how the final two always think they're the ones. By this point in the show they've also seen a dozen other women get rejected and the finalists don't seem to have lost any sleep over them. For all we know the real psychological damage might be in the earliest rejects who now think they're so invisible they weren't even worth a conversation.
As for Treeza's job. I think he did know she worked in stocks, he didn't ask her what she did, he just said tell me about your job and she went right into how she got started in the field and how great she was at it. I think it's those details he wanted.
I think he probably talked to Treeza all night, but I don't think Leslie would have let him go without pushing hard for a chance to show her sexy skills. After all, that seems to be how she sees herself, as the sexy dancer. She wasn't already talking like Beevis and Butthead for nothing.
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23 minutes ago, Armchair Critic said:
What in the body suit hell was Theresa wearing at the Fantasy Suite? A one piece isn’t practical for sexy times either.
I think it was two pieces, but it seemed like a leotard cut in half. Very odd to me. It's not the first time Treeza has dressed way too young for her age. Last week when they aired a scene in their bedroom, (I think it was the 'we all have gas' bit) she was standing there in very short white shorts and a skin tight beige tank top making it clear she had implants.
Maybe I'm just jealous. but no matter how slim your legs are, it looked wrong somehow. Maybe when the other women were talking about how tiny her clothes were it wasn't just the size but the style that bother them.
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16 minutes ago, Angeltoes said:
Has anybody done DNA? There are Facebook pages dedicated to people doing this with amazing results. It happened in our family. My brother's son had been placed for adoption. We found him when our sister did her DNA.
No I don't think anyone has, but I sure wish someone would. So happy for your family and your nephew!
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I'm a little worried for them. I hope Gerry is gentle with Teresa, and Leslie is gentle with Gerry.
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15 minutes ago, peachmangosteen said:
I feel like we're missing some vital info in the Kendra story about her dad. Like, why didn't he ever try to contact her? I don't know but that story was just off.
Adoptions seem to be changing the rules all the time, but I have a friend who gave her baby up for adoption long ago, and after that all the files were sealed until the baby was grown and wanted to find her bio-mom.
In other words, the child has to initiate the action and all the bio-parents can do is put their names and addresses on a list saying that they would welcome contact. Many years have passed and not a word from the daughter to all our grief. (I have reason to think my brother was the father and if so, that young lady is the last of our line from my childless family.)
25 minutes ago, bunnyface said:They shoulda just let him have the sandwich.
Heck yeah! If I've learned anything from Survivor it's that fit (low body fat) young men experience the hunger much more intensely than those fluffy young women. A few young guys have had to quit for just that reason.
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14 minutes ago, Lady Calypso said:
I really loved seeing Julie outlast several people to be against Bruce; that challenge looked TOUGH.
Yes! I was surprised and impressed, she's always seemed like a middle-aged Marcia Brady to me, there's just a prissiness to her looks, but there's some true grit under all that.
There's a warm fuzzy little scene in my mind of Kendra and her bio-dad meeting for the first time. Both of them making huge exaggerated body movements and extreme facial expressions, belching over their beers, eating with their mouths open, and that instant recognition of familiarity and love.
I wanted a big deli-sub for Austin so much. I kept telling him to hold out for the cheeseburger they usually have, but I'm glad he didn't listen to me.
Great blindside of Kellie. I don't expect we'll ever get another one as satisfying as Eduardo because his began with that big self-satisfied grin on his face. Plus he had been smug throughout the season. It takes a long game to build a blindside that good.
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I didn't mind Barbara dying as much as I minded little Cynthia Miller being attacked and then sent off to oblivion because she was no longer as tough and hardy as they like their midwives to be.
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22 hours ago, 12catcrazy said:
Free tech schools aren't going to solve this problem because my guess is that most of the folks who go into sex work have more issues than just not making enough money.
I agree that free occupational training won't solve the problem for everyone, just, as I said, reduce the need a little. There were two in this episode who said their dream was to get enough together to become a hairdresser or med tech. I'll never vote for it to be legal.
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Whoa, that was more horrible than I've bargained for with this show. Bring back the escalating feuds. Enough with the mentally ill people.
Do you think maybe Angela's men keep leaving her because she spends every night drinking on the sofa with other men?
James's family annoyed me even more. "Oh dad was so wonderful! He had such a charming personality. He just lived to take care of his family." "James took good care of us. He just needed rides to work so I could use the truck. How could Angela let her household go like that?"
Well she let everything go like that, because your wonderful husband was using her money to spoil your kids.
Dead beats one and all, but Angela had serious mental problems. James should have been more careful about who he chose to rip off and take advantage of.
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2 hours ago, archer1267 said:
I get that it's meant as a compliment, but the word sometimes seems patronizing to me.
It often is patronizing. In saying how special this group of women is, the show and the women themselves are implying that the rest of us are a bunch of duds.
Leslie offended me when she got out of the limo with a walker then threw it aside and took off her nightgown to show her little short dress underneath. Then she said something braggy about not being your typical old person.
I walk with a cane and from time to time have to use a walker, I have throw pillows all over the sofa, and I even belong to a book club. So sue me.
I have a good time doing what I enjoy and I'm not about to force myself to play pickle ball (not that there's anything wrong with that) just so I can tell everyone I'm not one of those typical (gag) old people.
Re:Joan
Here I was thinking the good thing about this Bachelor was we didn't have a bunch of young people hoping to become influencers.
Almost every season of The Bachelor has some sort of talent show and one person who is so so scared... who then breaks through and nails it! It's one of the most obvious examples of producer manipulation. I remember in James's season the young girl he chose (can't remember her name) was so frightened when they all had to do some modelling, then she came strutting out and won. She was already a professional model!
I'm starting to wonder if Joan's whole presentation was planned from start to finish including the sick daughter business.
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5 hours ago, Hip-to-be-Square said:5 hours ago, Hip-to-be-Square said:
What's with all of the ladies and their gracious thanks to Gerry for breaking up with them? Good for them for taking the high road and learning from "the journey", but just once I'd like to hear a lady say, "I learned nothing from you, I hate you- and we can't still be friends!" 😅.
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Thank you! Way back in my dating days I learned to say a flat, "No," to the "Can we still be friends?" question. It's insulting that after months of I love yous and intimate relations they think you're going to want to go to the mall with them and girl-watch while eating pizza.
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Everything about the Gilgo Beach murders was so sad and horrific I couldn't sleep last night.
Those poor desperate girls and Andrea sitting there nodding as the friend said they were simply providing a service, as if the beautiful, successful journalist thought it was a perfectly fine career choice.
I hate that our society has decided to reduce the stigma of sex work when what we should do is reduce the need for such demeaning, dangerous work in order for young women to pay the rent and support their children! We should have free tech schools in every town so girls can stay home until they have their hairdresser or med tech degree and can properly support themselves.
I also hate that the police don't treat their murders with the same concern as any woman's. Still it was to their credit that they could sort out all the men in Manhattan and find the killer.
His wife gave me the creeps.
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36 minutes ago, Quickbeam said:
Everyone needs to decide how much work they want to put into looking young. Many of us now have other priorities.
My best friend in childhood finally died from the anorexia which had haunted her life. I’m not willing to die for a size 2 dress.
So absolutely true. I know women who have made keeping their high school weight their life's work and it always ends badly, if not in poor health then in the ultimate realization that thin doesn't equal young and no amount of exercise, diet or cosmetic surgery is going to make a 70 year-old look 40.
After a while we have to choose between looking old and looking weird and I picked old, because it's cheaper, less bother and not painful.
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2 hours ago, aqusdealer said:
I also think he will pick Theresa as his #1, but not for the usual reasons. I don't think he's looking for marriage but a relationship companion. He "loves" Theresa IMO for two reasons. One, he loved her consideration and laying on of her hands while all nervous about driving. My wife does this to me and it's amazingly therapeutic in a very basic human way. Two, he loves petite women. Why? Just a guess really but I keep thinking that whenever I see him look at her. Kathy even said something like "you could put five of her shirts in a small bag."
I agree. I think that "laying on of hands," weighs heavily in her favor. Gerry's mentioned it a few times. To me that's a sad thing about this quick courtship. The other women may be just as comforting and affectionate, but they weren't there the one time he was truly frightened.
For what it's worth, I would never touch someone's arm while they were in a difficult driving situation. I've had someone grab the steering while while I was at high speed and I would flinch if anyone's hand came near me at a time like that.
I also agree that her size is a big positive with him. My husband is tall and he and I both thought it was odd that Gerry said when he hugged Theresa it felt like "the perfect fit." What looked like a good fit to us was Gerry and tall Faith because he didn't have to collapse his chest and bend down to hug her. But he may want a woman he can pick-up and carry.
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30 minutes ago, debbie311 said:
Joan seemed very matter of fact, said that now she was looking forward to getting out there and meeting someone. Maybe she truly didn't really feel "it" for Gerry.
I agree. Joan is 12 years younger and several points better looking than Gerry and last night she was very clearly advertising with her remark than she was not only ready for a love interest she was actively hunting. She'll get the calls she's hoping for, as will most of the others. I think they all were sending that message, to some extent. Nobody said they had learned to be happy single or anything close to that.
I'm still worrying about the grandchildren. How do you explain that the man they met decided he didn't like grandma? Their grandma! The greatest woman on earth next to Mommy!
I think they should be told that Grandma turned him down because she didn't want to move far away from them. That, they would understand.
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S45.E10: How Am I the Mobster?
in Survivor
He was kind. Everyone else was caught up in their own little world and he seems to be the only one who noticed Katurah wasn't just shaking from muscle strain, but was going through something serious. Even after it was clear she needed help he had to tell Emily to give her a hand.
We complain about Jeff a lot but he really does love the game and invests himself in all the players in a way you seldom see in other hosts.