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22 minutes ago, Browncoat said:
One of my best relationships was all about the sex. We liked each other, of course, and got along (and did do other things besides the sex), but we both went into it knowing that it was not going to be a long-term thing. And no one's heart was broken when it ended.
I’m jealous. Before I got married, I had a boyfriend, and never slept with him. At work, I met my husband. After marriage, I went to visit my girlfriend in the ole neighborhood, and my old boyfriend was there. He wanted me to see his new apartment. He never married. Well, I could have easily hopped into bed with him, but I didn’t. I just couldn’t do it. I thought of my husband, and didn’t. But, it was very tempting, I tell you. I must have lots of will power. Or, I’m a dope. The ole boyfriend died a few months ago. We went together thru our teen years, from 14 to 19. Young love. It was like in the movie Greese. When he got out of the Army, he liked to sit in the Bar and drink. Not marry. I then met my husband. It worked out much better in the long run. My husband was stable, he wasn’t.
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Just now, ebk57 said:
Um... it's actually not that difficult. And 9.99 times out of 10, really fun.
Damn .. you mean I missed something? Maybe I can find an old geezer to see the difference to what I have now, lol.
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My one daughter bought me a small water fountain for my patio. All around it I put all colors of impatiens. They last until November. When I lie on my swing, I decompress with he sound of water flowing. It’s so pretty. I think she got it on HSN or QVC at the time. I’ll try to take a picture, if I can find out how. Have to buy some impatiens tomorrow. I also bought two cherry tomato plants, which will last all summer. When I had a house, I had a very big garden with 30 tomato plants, plus every other vegetable. No more, as I now have a condo and a broken back.
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7 hours ago, shapeshifter said:
If by "go with" you mean marry, in my case: because every guy I was crazy about was always crazy about someone else.
And I had 2 kids (one was his).
So. No. It doesn't make sense.
But it happened a lot, and maybe still does.Of the men my age in the U.S., 50K died in Vietnam and another 50K committed suicide when they returned. So I figured my prince charming was gone, and if I wanted to be married, I'd have to not be so picky.
This is probably an irrelevant statistic, but it was a common excuse at the time, and not entirely unrelated to my experiences.I’m re- reading. When I said go with”, I mean keeping company and marrying. What I actually mean is, how does any woman sleep and have sex with someone they don’t love. I could barely kiss a guy after a date if the chemistry was not there, never mind having sex with them. I’ve never had sex with someone or even kissed them if the feeling wasn’t there. Maybe I’m the minority. Well, maybe if I was drunk, but I never drank. lol. I don’t feel like I missed anything. I know one man that way in my life. Did I miss something? I look at some men and think yuk, no way. I’d have to be dead drunk, lol.
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32 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:
It was love at first sight.
I was working in my mom's design studio and she handed me her credit card and the keys to her car and asked me to go to the Shell station and have it filled up. This was back in the days when we didn't have to pump our own gas.
So of course, I went to the Mobil station and I met this super cute, long haired guy with the type of brown eyes you can just drown in. He was washing my windshield and our eyes locked and that was it. We fell in love. He asked for my number so I gave him my business card and by the time I got back to the office (two blocks away) he had already called. We talked that night on the phone for like two hours and it was as if I had known him all my life, even though we grew up in different towns. He had to go because he had band practice.
I was living with my in-between guy at the time (he was the guy I always went back to after other relationships broke up) MY IBG and I were not in love, just roommates with benefits at that point. Within a few days, I was living with my husband. It turned out that the gas station he was working at was his dad's and his parents owned houses all over the town he grew up in. We live in one of them now. Five months later, we were married.
That was 44 years ago last week and we're still crazy about each other.
Yep, when it’s real love, there’s a pull there when you first lock eyes. I read somewhere that the eyes dialate when someone loves what they see when first they meet.
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1 hour ago, annzeepark914 said:
Well...as JT Macc used to say, I think it's time we moved on. I miss that guy. Did we burn him out? 😊 The crappy sandals arrived (from the fake QVC-Clark ad that my sis & I ordered). She got a refund. I haven't heard anything from my MasterCard. I think somebody made these shoes in his basement workshop.
Whaaat?They were phony? My daughter ordered me the Sketcher slip ons the other night for Mother’s Day from QVC. I’m waiting for them. Hope they are ok. Where did you order from?
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4 minutes ago, shapeshifter said:
I felt the same way.
But now I see it was coming from this place:
That hadn't occurred to me.
I lived it my whole life, and it ain’t pretty. My Father was a good Man and deserved better. He never got recognition, and it broke my heart.
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2 minutes ago, bluegirl147 said:
As far as settling goes I think some people just want to be in a relationship and they take whatever opportunity presents itself. I have a relative that has never not been in a relationship since she was 14. She isn't that attractive and not the nicest personality and she always cheats on her husbands so I was always puzzled by her always having a man in her life until another relative said look at the men who have been in her life. And then I realized oh yeah she was settling for those men. I would rather be alone than be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.
Yes, I meant settling like my Mother. She settled with a man she didn’t love. She was miserable her whole life. Actually, I couldn’t sleep with and have sex with someone I didn’t care for. I guess some people do. Not saying it’s wrong, but just not for me. I’m sure lots of times it is necessary for some people. I would never judge, as I don’t know the situation or the people. It’s not my business anyhow.
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5 minutes ago, Baltimore Betty said:
I do think it is interesting that every husband on this show has been under a microscope, talked about their finances, rumors about cheating, shady business dealings, etc...but not Paulie other than he is not divorced yet, not one side eye from anyone which I find interesting.
Did I hear he works for the state of NJ? Did I see a Bentley in his driveway? He has no shortage of money, owns what seems like an expensive house, what does he do for the state?
Who knows. Plus, why not get an engagement ring? She’s cooking, cleaning, taking care of him. Why not have a nice big Diamond on her finger? She deserves something.
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20 minutes ago, GHScorpiosRule said:
it's not the same for everyone. Some meet their perfect partner; some settle. There are other cultures-like mine-my parents' marriage was arranged. But married 56 years and are very happy together.
I don't think it's fair to ask why does one settle or question others' experiences because it differs from their own.
It’s not meant to be mean. We are just talking. They are true stories .. not meant to hurt anyone. Good for you. My parents were matched and my Mother was miserable. It’s the truth, so I’m not going to sugarcoat it. It was what it was.
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9 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:
You guys all know my story.
@peacheslatour .. let’s hear it again. It was so cute. 😍
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8 minutes ago, shapeshifter said:
If by "go with" you mean marry, in my case: because every guy I was crazy about was always crazy about someone else.
And I had 2 kids (one was his).
So. No. It doesn't make sense.
But it happened a lot, and maybe still does.Of the men my age in the U.S., 50K died in Vietnam and another 50K committed suicide when they returned. So I figured my prince charming was gone, and if I wanted to be married, I'd have to not be so picky.
This is probably an irrelevant statistic, but it was a common excuse at the time, and not entirely unrelated to my experiences.Yeah .. in my case, in the sixties, men were coming home from the service and getting jobs. Some were finishing college. There was a big influx of men everywhere it seemed. The City was hopping with singles. So many girls I worked with met their husbands there.
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On 5/7/2024 at 8:50 AM, bluegirl147 said:
Where I live men are mostly the antithesis of what I look for in a man. They have vastly different interests and different beliefs regarding most things. When I did online dating the men were almost all from a neighboring state closer to a bigger metropolitan area. My own mother would tell me I was being too picky. I would tell her the men around here are not what I want and she would say then you should change what you want. By that point I had an adult son and had been married already (my husband had died a year earlier) and was not looking to find another husband so no I was not going to settle for someone just because he lived in my zip code. I wonder how many men are told to settle. I find it insulting women are told to settle. It's basically telling her she doesn't deserve to get what she wants.
I don’t get settling. How can a woman go with a guy they are not crazy about? At 20 yrs old, I had gone with only four nice men. All nice guys, but I couldn’t kiss them. It just wasn’t there. But, the second I met my husband, there was instant attraction. I was smitten, but did not kiss him on the first date. I shook his hand and thanked him. He laughed. My Mother left a boyfriend in Europe. She was matched with my Father who was a good looking wonderful man. But, she never loved my Father. It was heartbreaking to hear. It wasn’t fair to him. A marriage of convenience.
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18 hours ago, ECM1231 said:
I have one tiny peony bush in the very front of my house. I'll have to check for ants when it blooms. I'm not much of a gardener and have never cut down any blooms. They're a gorgeous flower, though.
I was a late bloomer and didn't really date in high school. Immediately after graduation I met my first serious boyfriend through my mom, in a way. My mom met the mother of this guy at the hairdresser's, and they got to talking and shared photos of their children. They determined that we should meet. He was a year ahead of me and so had graduated the year before from a neighboring school. A bigger coincidence is that his younger sister was in my sister's grade, and they were friends of sorts. I didn't know her, though.
Long story short....we met, and it was love (lust?) at 1st sight. We dated all through college. I attended school upstate, and he was working and not attending college. We got engaged over Christmas break my junior year, had an engagement party in January, booked a venue for the following April and broke up by end of May. Shortest engagement ever. LOL It never would have worked, b/c in hindsight he was such a momma's boy, and he wasn't too happy about my plans to attend graduate school, which I had to do if I wanted to teach.
Since I didn't really casually date, and went from not dating in h.s., to being in a serious relationship right away and getting engaged, I really struggled afterwards b/c I didn't want to just casually date guys. I was only 20 years old, so it may have seemed premature to want to settle down, but I was ready.
I didn't meet my spouse until 5 years later and we met in a bar. Well, a bit fancier than a bar. This was early 80s and there was a dress code. You could only wear designer jeans, and not regular old Levi's. 🤣 Neither of us are what you'd call "drinkers', and he didn't dance. After we met, we never went to another bar again. We married after 10 months, and it's been 41 years now.
My oldest daughter met her husband at a bar McCorleys on Sunrise Highway. She was tired, so didn’t feel like goin out. I coaxed her, as her girlfriend wanted to fix her up for 8 months to a friend of hers. She went, and met her future husband there that night. He called her the very next day, and they are married 30 yrs with 3 kids. I love a fix-up. You never know. McSorleys, sorry, misspelled. It’s still there.
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17 hours ago, ECM1231 said:
I have one tiny peony bush in the very front of my house. I'll have to check for ants when it blooms. I'm not much of a gardener and have never cut down any blooms. They're a gorgeous flower, though.
I was a late bloomer and didn't really date in high school. Immediately after graduation I met my first serious boyfriend through my mom, in a way. My mom met the mother of this guy at the hairdresser's, and they got to talking and shared photos of their children. They determined that we should meet. He was a year ahead of me and so had graduated the year before from a neighboring school. A bigger coincidence is that his younger sister was in my sister's grade, and they were friends of sorts. I didn't know her, though.
Long story short....we met, and it was love (lust?) at 1st sight. We dated all through college. I attended school upstate, and he was working and not attending college. We got engaged over Christmas break my junior year, had an engagement party in January, booked a venue for the following April and broke up by end of May. Shortest engagement ever. LOL It never would have worked, b/c in hindsight he was such a momma's boy, and he wasn't too happy about my plans to attend graduate school, which I had to do if I wanted to teach.
Since I didn't really casually date, and went from not dating in h.s., to being in a serious relationship right away and getting engaged, I really struggled afterwards b/c I didn't want to just casually date guys. I was only 20 years old, so it may have seemed premature to want to settle down, but I was ready.
I didn't meet my spouse until 5 years later and we met in a bar. Well, a bit fancier than a bar. This was early 80s and there was a dress code. You could only wear designer jeans, and not regular old Levi's. 🤣 Neither of us are what you'd call "drinkers', and he didn't dance. After we met, we never went to another bar again. We married after 10 months, and it's been 41 years now.
Lovely story. Let’s have more. I already told mine. We met at a dance at the Electric/Gas Company, when his first words to me were “You have too much powder on your nose”, then I replied “take gas”. Love at first sight. I was 20, he was 24. Married over 50 years.
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51 minutes ago, Hedgehog2022 said:
They've been separated for 10 years and still no divorce?? The only thing I can think of that is keeping him from divorcing his wife is his Catholic upbringing. Other than that there really is no reason why he wouldn't get a divorce. Again Dolores is with a guy who has commitment issues. Seems to be a real problem for her. Maybe she should go to therapy and get to the root problem she has with having love relationships with men who are emotionally unavailable.
Could it be he doesn’t want to upset his aging Mother by getting a divorce? Just a thought.
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27 minutes ago, ZettaK said:
Bravo shouldn't film so soon after last season's reunion when the women (and the men) were not in good terms. It was not supposed to be like this initially. The show was to be on pause. The relationships became even worse because of filming.
Teresa invited the Gorgas to filmed events (we saw them in the background) from the beginning, but Bravo was not interested in them. Melissa emailed producers, and even Andy Cohen, and she told them about the family feud. She even communicated with Danielle Staub who hated Teresa to achieve her purpose on getting on the show.
I live near the Hamptons. I hear the Gorgas are out there often. Melissa even opened her store in Huntington. That’s a long ride from Jersey to Long Island. Actually, I don’t believe everything they both say and do. What is his business anyway? I really think they are dirt poor, but pretend.
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3 minutes ago, annzeepark914 said:
I worked for a Congressman back in the 70's, when DC was known to have too many females. Lots of eligible men on the hill and they could have their pick. It wasn't until after two moves (back to NYS, then to NC), then leaving a career job in a non-profit (where any men I'd meet were all married), I got a job in state govt. First day on the job I met my Mr Right (his first day as well as he used to be with a corporation in LA). I was told that I was too fussy, too picky. Yeah, I was & I endured lonely years. But I'm glad I didn't settle.
Fate. If it’s meant to be, it will happen. Anywhere, anytime. You have to be at a nice place where there are nice people. Not some dive where undesirables hang out.
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On 5/5/2024 at 4:13 PM, peacheslatour said:
It can be done but it often happens when you're least expecting it.
YES. When least expected, he comes your way. He expects nothing, treats you good, and you fall in love. It’s happened millions of times. Or not.
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Maybe Paulie doesn’t want a divorce for some reason. Remember Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn? He never got divorced and they were together for years.
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1 hour ago, snarts said:
While I agree this is how the rift may have started, I firmly believe the root of the issue is Joey Gorga. He was coddled his entire life and fully expects everyone, especially his older sister, to continue to share their successes, $, celebrity, etc. with him.
He resented how close Teresa was with their parents yet did very little to improve his relationship with them. He played the middle between Melissa (& her entire family) and the Giudices and quickly found that the constant drama kept their place on RHONJ so he didn't have to get real job.
I remember Joe was always jealous that his Father paid more attention to Teresa’s Joe than him. He’s like man/woman. Too sensitive for a guy.
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Btw, Even tho Melissa and Joe love the Hamptons, I doubt they could afford a house there. Seems they can hardly afford the houses they are living in now. They keep going from house to house. Who knows what goes on. They have no storyline now.
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Just now, kristen111 said:
@njbchlover Thank you for all that. I watched from the beginning,then stopped for awhile when Tre went to jail, then continued when she came back. I do remember, tho that Melissa and Joe went to Bravo several times trying to get on the show. Andy took a liking to them, especially the way Joe talked , and put hem on. To this day, he still loves them. I wouldn’t be surprised if Melissa and Joe move to the Hamptons, as they frequent there. Melissa opened a store in Huntington, L.I. I heard it wasn’t doing too well. Yes, Melissa is a camera hog.
Geeze .. these millionaire woman piling candy into a bag. WTF?
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20 minutes ago, njbchlover said:
Oh, there are sooooo many things. If you watched past seasons, you get an inkling into the crazy family dynamic that is the Gorga clan.
Personally, I think that before housewives fame, Teresa and Melissa were very much almost the same person-both headstrong, both a little selfish and spoiled and both very competitive. Teresa and her brother were very close, spent a lot of time together and he listened to everything that Teresa said, with her being the older sibling. After he met and married Melissa, probably not so much, so Teresa blames Melissa for that. Teresa is/was very jealous of the fact that Melissa "took Joe away" from her and her parents.
Teresa starts doing the RHONJ, and supposedly, Melissa wanted in, but Teresa supposedly blocked it for a few years - not wanting to share her spotlight. Rumor is that Melissa and Joe went behind Teresa's back somehow and got on the show and Teresa was never told until right before filming Melissa and Joe's first season.
Since then, it's been a battle of wills, and the eventual fall out from that.
Melissa does come across as a nice person, but I think she's better at hiding who she really is than Teresa is. Melissa can be manipulative and she also is very camera aware and likes being the center of attention.
I think that's most of their issues, in a
52 minutes ago, njbchlover said:Oh, there are sooooo many things. If you watched past seasons, you get an inkling into the crazy family dynamic that is the Gorga clan.
Personally, I think that before housewives fame, Teresa and Melissa were very much almost the same person-both headstrong, both a little selfish and spoiled and both very competitive. Teresa and her brother were very close, spent a lot of time together and he listened to everything that Teresa said, with her being the older sibling. After he met and married Melissa, probably not so much, so Teresa blames Melissa for that. Teresa is/was very jealous of the fact that Melissa "took Joe away" from her and her parents.
Teresa starts doing the RHONJ, and supposedly, Melissa wanted in, but Teresa supposedly blocked it for a few years - not wanting to share her spotlight. Rumor is that Melissa and Joe went behind Teresa's back somehow and got on the show and Teresa was never told until right before filming Melissa and Joe's first season.
Since then, it's been a battle of wills, and the eventual fall out from that.
Melissa does come across as a nice person, but I think she's better at hiding who she really is than Teresa is. Melissa can be manipulative and she also is very camera aware and likes being the center of attention.
I think that's most of their issues, in a nutshell.
nutshell.
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S14.E01: Birthday Bombshell
in The Real Housewives Of New Jersey
Did we ever learn his last name? It’s surely taking a long time for that divorce.