shockermolar

My guess is that he had no idea that with dual citizenship Myson would need a Russian passport to LEAVE the country. He probably just assumed that once he had the US passport he could take him wherever whenever. After all this kid didn't know what an SSN was.

There's an entire sub-genre of erotic fiction about it. For real.

Assuming that you have either the cash or the collateral to bond out, or if you can get a PR. But I can't imagine that she has the wherewithal for any of those without assistance from Colt. I had a drag out argument with my 20 year old son about this yesterday. I dropped $100 on an outfit (slacks, dress shirt, tie, vest, socks) for him to wear to a wedding this weekend with the understanding that he would buy dress shoes since he's outgrown the ones he wore to his graduation. He went out and bought some randoms Sperrys. I told him to go buy DRESS shoes not freaking deck shoes. He returned them and came back with $200 Adidas Ultraboosts. I yelled at him some more and he finally went and bought some nice suede chukkas. The kid owns 15 pair of overpriced specialty athletic shoes but can't figure out that they aren't appropriate for a WEDDING.

That's not how social services work in the US. Simply being a US citizen doesn't automatically qualify Richie for anything. TANF, WIC, CHIP, Medicaid, SSI, subsidized housing and HeadStart all have eligibility and poverty guidelines related to receiving aid. Olga is not simply walking into the US and having food, health care, housing or child care thrown at her just because her baby is American. That's the myth of the "anchor baby" and it's why the term is a pejorative.

It's an HVAC company that he owns or co-owns. You can google it. Pics of him and the flowerheadband wife and all the babies are all over the site.

I got curious, so I looked. You can hold dual citizenship Russia/US. However, both countries require a passport from that country to enter or exit it. So basically in order for Steven to take the baby out of Russia the baby needs a Russian passport, and for the baby to enter the US he needs a US passport. It takes 4 to 6 weeks to get a US passport, plus whatever additional time for the rest of the paperwork since they are in Russia. To get a Russian passport for a baby can apparently take months depending on where you are in Russia. Steven's not leaving with that baby, and likely Olga isn't going to be able to leave as soon as her visa is approved, assuming Steven actually started the process like he said, since they haven't started the process to get the baby's passport yet.

Smartest thing Larissa’s ever done. That dynamic is never going to change.

He sure likes the tv time for the one man HVAC company he apparently owns based on his pic on the website. Either that or he only wears logo’d gear.

Absolutely. There's a reason that hospitals literally have hand sanitizer dispensers on the walls of every patient room and why there are specific products that can attach hand sanitizer bottles to the handles of strollers, car seats and baby carriers. As for "most babies are fine" that's not the case. Babies only have limited immunity from disease, although breastfeeding lengthens that, which is why childhood immunizations are vital. In the US, per CDC guidelines, newborns will receive a Hep B while at the hospital and a follow-up at their 4 week visit. They won't get anything else until their 8 week in most cases. And frankly, even then there are a metric ton of things that new human can catch that are not (or were not, or are not yet) preventable by immunization. My infant son caught RSV. RSV is a ridiculously common virus that pretty much everyone has or gets and that generally results in a cold. In infants it is a big problem and can even be fatal. In my son it resulted in damage to the bronchioles in his left lung, a childhood of dependency on nebulizer treatments, prescription inhalers, multiple trips to the ER for pneumonia and pleurisy, near constant bouts with respiratory infections, and my own ability to detect stridor or wheezing the instant they set in. The number one way to prevent your baby from catching RSV is for people to wash their damn hands before they touch a baby. It's the single, simplest and most effective way to prevent giving a disease that may have little to no impact on an adult to a baby that has to live with the consequences of it the rest of their lives.

Breastfeeding is on demand pretty much. And if the on demand consumer isn't around you express it by hand if necessary, otherwise your breasts hurt like a motherfucker and milk dribbles, trickles, leaks or even spews. Newborns are notorious for nursing in short spurts and then falling asleep. Lactation consultants give you pointers in the hospital on the best way to keep the latch intact and the suckle going so that the breast doesn't become a pacifier. I'm kind of thinking that Russian hospital may not have had a lactation consultant on staff given that they barely seemed to have a nurse. But at a basic level when that baby cries you latch it on and hope you can get him to swallow an ounce or so before he nods off and you have to chuck him under the chin to get his little mouth going again or before you have to switch breasts. An average feeding for a newborn is 2 to 3 ounces. To put that into perspective, a shot glass is around an ounce and half to 2 ounces.

EXACTLY. The minute he said she needed to "show" him her appreciation and not just tell him I looked over to Mr. Shockermolar and was like, yup he's pissed because she's not DTF. And given the surgical incision, nursing newborn, sore nipples and likely still some lochia what kind of it horrible excuse for humanity would actually say that knowing he was on camera? And all the nonsense about the baby not coming first? WTF? For Olga that baby will not only come before YOU for the rest of his life, he's come before HER. That's parenting in a nutshell. And my hatred of him skyrocketed even more. No STEVEN you aren't running errands for Olga asshat, you're taking care of your newborn son. Even my 20 year old son, during the pharmacy scene, was all "What is up with this guy? That's like $20USD. It's MEDICINE for your BABY. Gah!"

Actually I think what we have is a hell of a lot of producer driven drama that leads up to the scenes you are hinging your argument on. Hitting someone doesn't solve anything and it's not acceptable here, in the US, culturally or legally. Maybe in Russia (Anfisa) and Mexico (Fernanda) it is. I don't know. But I'm not going to pearl clutch over their reactions after being set up by producers in very specific ways with no indication that without that motivation they would behave in the same way on the reg, because they are women and thus I should treat them as potentially equally abusive as a man. Particularly when the men involved are theoretically adults that walked their asses into those situations and are perfectly capable at any damn point of sending these women away legally and permanently if they actually are abusive when the cameras are off. Within the scenarios you present, Fernanda and Anfisa held zero power - not physically, not financially, not geographically and not legally. Kalani is just a bitch and I've been saying the whole time that Ansuelo should go home and be happy he dodged that bullet. But I absolutely am going to point out that Steven verbally berated, gaslit, and screamed obscenities at a woman who literally just had her abdomen cut open to access her uterus, which was then also cut open to remove a living human being out of it, who then had - at a minimum - 100s of stitches or staples through 3 tissue layers and 2 major bodily organs, and all of that only after hours of active labor with contractions and cervical and vaginal pressure and likely significant hematomas from ultimately needless pushing. I cringe to think that Steven is all Olga has to depend on and honestly think she'd be better off alone because at least then she'd have some damn quiet and a little sleep before she had to nurse again. So maybe he's not physically abusive and maybe he will never be, but odds don't seem great that he's gonna level off with time. He's showing who he is, and she should take a good long look and think about whether or not that's what she wants for her baby and for herself. And frankly they ALL should. But I'm not scared for Jorge or Jonathan - they have the power in those relationships that will always allow them the control over Anfisa and Fernanda. Steven has made it clear that to be in his life you have to be under his thumb - no one tells him what to do, it's HIS son, right? He says it often enough. Olga should take that seriously.

I have to say, during the bike scene my 20 year old son turned to me and said with absolute disgust, "She let that boy nut in her. And he WANTED to. They both all kinds of wrong!"

SERIOUSLY!! I've been saying that all along. And I also didn't get any hate vibes for her off the sister and mom. I feel like the mom was one step away from folding her up in a big hug and telling her, "oh honey, go home and wait a little bit." Definitely Jonathan was throwing the shade about her multiple marriages and her age when she married his dad and had him, but she gave SOLID advice - don't get married - from a place of experience. And then Fernanda's TH about they don't like her age and she can't change her age to make them like her, and I'm thinking HELL YES you can change your age, all you need it a little time. And if dipshit loved her, he'll still love her when she isn't straight out of high school.

He really, really does suck. At first I was thinking points to him because at least he was telling that blonde "I can't do this" but then I thought, wait... why is he not just saying a firm no and moving away from her. Of course, there's likely some production shenanigans in all of that, but still. Dude takes her to Myrtle Beach to cheer her up and take her out to show her some fun and then proceeds to get drunk - that last drink "double shot" even the bartender looked like he was loathe to pour it.

Honestly this all boils down to be 19. 19 year girls are walking bundles of drama. 19 year old girls are relying on their amygdala, which is what causes "drama" and haven't completely formed their frontal cortex, which basically controls the way we handle the drama the amygdala experiences. She's 19, she's already mad that he's drunk, he apparently has some past history of drinking too much (shocker) at clubs, she's already told him he needs to stop drinking, and she walks up to a strange woman grinding on him She explodes. Because she's 19. Maybe she also would at 25 or 30 - who's to say at this point. But maybe he could wait until she's not an adolescent to marry him and then he'd know for sure.

I actually cringed at this scene, looked over at Mr. Shockermolar and said, "I think I'm scared for her - he's so completely checked out and when he looks at her all I see is seething rage that she's questioning him." I mean, honestly WHAT DID HE THING was going to happen? To what degree did he actually outright lie to her I wonder and how much of it was her deluding herself about what he actually is. Also DUDE the little boy wants to be cuddled by his grandpa (not his mom who looked absolutely panicked when he was crying) and not you. Oh, and by the way all of you adults, you left a toddler asleep and strapped into a car seat all alone for a solid 10 minutes. WTF?

For that matter, if they'd done ANYTHING to make her welcome she would have been thrilled. Dude - a human being just flew here from another CONTINENT to be with you and you throw her in an AC-less car, schlep her around LV, take her to a somehow both barren AND messy town-home, make no discernible room for her or her belongings in the bathroom, closet or bedroom, and foist your mom and your cats on her without any buffer. I would also not have been in the mood for beef stew or under the sheets cats. Eh - this was pretty much how we carted our kid around when he was around that size. They like being up high and seeing stuff. I did think it was beyond bizarre the way he totally yanked that poor baby away from his grandpa. Possessive much? And good lord - Leida is manic as fuck. I totally get Reina's deadpan "she can be annoying" TH. Annoying, yes, because she's got some kind of personality disorder that is seriously going untreated. Vivacious and vicious aren't that far apart. No wonder her family isn't keen on her getting to stay in the US with Alessa and away from them. Eric is a loser, but maybe she doesn't care as long as she gets away from her family that tries to keep her in check when she's out of whack. So, Fernanda and Jay. I have a 20 year old son (who is so much more mature than Jay or at least isn't such a loud-mouthed ass) and I cannot begin to fathom him being married right now. He's a full time college student and he works a variety of part time jobs to pay for gas and give me insurance money for his car. When Fernanda started crying while she was trying on clothes my heart hurt for her the same way it hurt when my pretty much insensitive son took to his bed for a week when he broke up with his GF last year. I swear, I looked at Mr. Shockermolar and was like, she is JUST a little girl. WTF is wrong with that man? And Jay - his extreme reaction to the cold weather is pretty much how my son acted when he was in San Francisco for the first time and realized that yes, nights are cold there even in the summer. My point is that those two aren't ready to get married to anyone. They're barely able to be adults. They're BABY adults.

I have a sneaking suspicion that Kolini and May May have really been raising that baby for 5 months.

I think there are some really obvious cultural differences being expressed between you and me in our posts. I have a dad, and in fact by most American standards am something of a daddy's girl. I am also a grown woman with grown children. My dad is still alive. He has always been very, very supportive of me, my decisions (both good and bad) and what I have done in my life. He has never been intrusive. He has never overtly guided my decision making or given me ultimatums. He has never threatened the father of my children, to whom I am not married. I have no expectation that he love me unconditionally - he's my parent, there are conditions implicit in being the child in a relationship. My partner though, is my equal. If anyone should love me unconditionally, it should be him. I did not say that Kalani is a loser. I think she's likely the exact product of her environment - a Mormon woman expected to maintain chastity because her body is literally considered a temple in her religion, who was raised by a father who was himself raised in an extremely traditional patriarchal society. I don't think that virginity is either essential or intended for the purpose of attracting a good husband. This is not a common concept in America, and it's not even the primary reason for Mormon chastity. Why Kalani specifically remained unmarried into her 20s (she's 30 now and met Asuelu some time before this was filmed, so likely 28ish) is unclear. This is a fairly late age for Mormon women to be single. I also don't think her particularly overweight for a Samoan woman. Many Polynesian cultures - including Samoa - have an historical association with large body size equaling status. This may or may not be the case with Kalani's family in particular, but there is a propensity for Samoans to be both larger in bone density, muscle mass and weight. This isn't likely to be considered an ideal of Western beauty, but it doesn't make her unattractive obviously.

No. Categorically no we do not all want a Daddy that's so hyper involved in our lives that he would threaten someone. Kalani is THIRTY years old. She wasn't a teenager that was preyed upon by a slick trickster, she made multiple trips to Samoa to engage in a relationship with a boy several years younger than herself in age and more than that in broader level world experience. She was aware of what she was doing. Maybe her dad should worry less about his daughter being disrespected and worry more about his daughter literally doing the polar opposite of the thing he apparently raised her not to do - date village boys from Samoa.

You murdered the shit out of that motherfucka. I replayed it twice cause I loved it so much! Also, he's not cold like that. Awh, CC. Too nice to kill or abandon the cute puppy Lori never actually wanted. Hell, Mandingo was basically the porn version of Mandingo! And I loved the actress, "Can I say can't instead of cain't?"

Not in Texas - landlords have full rights to both limit the number of occupants and specify punitive language for unauthorized occupants in the lease.

If it's true it wasn't sex or screwing around, it would have been him being a victim of sexual molestation or rape, straight up no exceptions. I don't think he's bragging about it, he's rationalizing it. Turning something that makes him a victim and turning himself into a conqueror. It could also explain his hyper, hetero sexuality. He wants it to be WELL known that he's a high functioning straight man that gives it women and it's always been that way.

Exactly - she's a kid. Emotional and entitled are pretty much the hallmarks of kids her age. I know, I have a couple of them right now. But I don't necessarily think that she was wrong about expecting the guy not have some other chick's PANTIES in the house he just moved into specifically to set up their home as a married couple. I mean, fuck dude, take a hot second and get rid of your trophies. And, am I the only one thinking that drawer had some other goodies in it - I was thinking sex toys given his horndog obsession with her boooooooobies.