^^This. It is a logical worry but Sansa should have gone about it differently. She came here to help you, not conquer you. The attitude is not necessary.She gave dany no choice but to respond as any king or queen would.
I fell like people expect the queen with all the actually power in this war (soldiers, dragons, dragonglass) to walk on egg shells while everyone else can be as openly rude and ungrateful as they want. And if dany pushes back just a little its like "look see i told she was a horrible monster, she shouldnt be queen"