Real Eyes

I don’t hate Chantel’s family. I don’t hate the host, but she is not good at getting information from the couples.

I didn’t find him to be mean. Just obnoxious. He said he couldn’t wait to have sex. Not mean. He said he wanted to return to Jamaica as he wasn’t respected. Not mean. What was all this mean behavior?

I had two vaginal births and then a C-section. The first takes about six weeks to recover, the second twelve. But I could walk from the day I left hospital, which was a couple days after I gave birth, so I was a little perplexed that Melanie couldn’t move.

From what I saw, he’s not a mean drunk, just obnoxious. But I have been around drunks that beat their wives, so my definition is on another extreme.

Moldovan is Romanian. Oops, just noticed someone already pointed this out. Sorry.

The r is rolled in Russian, but how much depends on the region. I don’t know about Romanian, but in Russian, most wives would use a diminutive, such as Andrusha.

I don’t think Anfisa was ever a prostitute.

On Nicole and Azan - Don't care. Anfisa adn Jorge - Again, don't care. I don't think Anfisa is any better than Jorge. But the turnaround from 2 seasons ago, when she was destroying phones, keying his car, physically attacking him, etc., is just too dramatic, and one side or the other is unreal. Pao and Russ - I thought Pao was delusional for most of last season - she will never be a model - too old, not tall, too curvy. However, this season, I get where she is coming from. I don't think TLC showed all visits to her grandmother. I think she did not have time to grieve her miscarriage, and she has not really processed the loss of her grandmother. I think she is feeling very alone. That is understandable. I think she is a person who lives her emotions, and, in a sense, they've been suppressed with Russ, who is Mr. Stoic, Mr. Dependable, but not Mr. Romantic or Mr. Understanding. I think that is also why she retains her friendship with Juan. She needs someone to whom she can spill her emotions. Molly - Luis is a grifter, and she fell for him hook, line and sinker. I think she so wanted a husband, she fell for the con. Yes, she should have thought of her children as well, but Olivia was practically an adult, and her younger daughter could have adjusted. Personally, I would never bring any man into my children's lives while they were under 18 (I'm all "Dr Laura" here!), but I don't think it is as irresponsible as some here have portrayed. Family Chantel/Pedro - Personally, I think this story line is manufactured. Assuming the fight was real, no, River did not really start it. Pedro should not have tried to change seating with Chantel. What he should have done is said, "Look, we're here for a conciliatory dinner, not an argument." His action seemed, to Chantel, to be again putting his sister before his wife. (My daughter pointed that out to her brother - sisters first!) River swung an IKEA fixture at Pedro in reaction to words. Immature, but harmless. Pedro reacted by starting a physical confrontation. That should never have occurred in front of his wife's parents. No matter what her parents think of him, they are his wife's parents, and he should respect them as his wife's parents. It doesn't mean he has to like them, but he does need to respect them. His behaviour was abysmal. River did not purposely hit Nicole. She jumped on him, and he took her, and his mother, down. Mother Chantel grabbed Nicole's weave as they fell. Winter was attempting to break up the fight. Pedro's kicking the table before he left was extremely bad manners, and I worry about whether his temper will land on Chantel at some point. Physical violence is never the answer, not even in the face of provocation.

On Chantel-It is a mistake to discuss her marital issues with her family. She needs to vent, but it will affect her family’s view of Pedro. However, I believe this storyline is fake.

Why? Anfisa told Jorge she married him for money. So of course he believes money will solve their issues.

It doesn’t matter. That is what Chantel’s parents wanted, and that’s what they got. Anfisa would be able to stay in any event.

I read somewhere that Jorge was arrested in Arizona for possession and trafficking of pot. On his lying-I don’t think he is a sociopath. I think he is immature and a coward. For him, it’s a way to avoid both conflict and responsibility. I also know someone who saw Jorge IRL. Was told he needs to lose weight, but is otherwise quite handsome in person, far more so than on television.

She doesn’t argue with him. That’s the difference. No princess would be living in a one bedroom apartment and studying on her bed while her husband games at the apartment’s only desk. Nor would a princess have lived without a sofa for two years.

Sorry this is a previous post reposted I was going to post that Nicole and Azan may be required to maintain a relationship status until this season is complete.

But she never says it directly. I was almost identical to Chantel in approaches when I was young. It’s obvious she is a conflict avoider. But I didn’t have a selfish husband, and his family weren’t leeches. So I can see what the issues are, and I am fairly certain she doesn’t argue with Pedro about things that bother her, just as she doesn’t confront her family.

If she had no issues with conflict with Pedro, he wouldn’t have thousands of dollars in gaming equipment, nor would he be sending $300 a month to his mother.

Chantel had no money. The prenup covered her potential inheritance from her parents’ business. I think Chantel is someone who doesn’t like conflict and doesn’t want to disappoint anyone. So she lets her family steamroll her and eats her husband’s bad behaviour. So no, I disagree with you on all points. She said they rarely see her family because of conflict, so it seems she did choose her husband over her family. Pity he didn’t do the same for her.

If you’re not willing to share, I think it demonstrates a lack of trust. My husband doesn’t go into my phone though he knows my password. He updates my PC but doesn’t use it. I know his passwords but don’t access his devices. We have no secrets, and never have in 33 years of marriage. Neither of us has access to our kids’ devices, though we pay for them.

But it’s not their marriage and Chantel is unhappy about Pedro’s actions.

It’s not normal when your own family has less than your family abroad do. I am married to an immigrant. He rarely sent money to his mother and sister. Now that his mother has passed and his sister lives on a pension, he does send money but always asks me first, and it’s not monthly-his choice, not mine. I disagree. In a true partnership, they would disclose everything and decide how their money is spent jointly. This is a red flag toward divorce. Chantel didn’t want a prenup. It was foisted on her by her parents.

She’s raised other children who seem to be normal. Children are born with certain personalities. They aren’t shaped into what we want.

Depends on the child. My children didn’t have iPads or phones until seventh grade. They did have an x-box. But my youngest was very quiet and would give yes or no answers. He’s 18 now and still quiet. Our children had set routines as toddlers. Children need consistency and like routine.

I think that would depend on his education.

I think his first language is Spanish. IIRC, his mother doesn’t speak English. Chantel said they don’t see her family often because of the tension.

Luis can’t legally work until he gets a green card. Remember, he took off. I think he came back when he realized no Molly, no green card.