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I think it’s too easy to shift the entire blame for Emily’s shortcomings on her parents. Emily has at least two siblings who are successful and independent. Have you never known a family where one or more children turned into responsible, successful humans and one child refused to conform? They were all brought up by the same parents and in the same household, yet they turned out very differently. On the flip side there are people who become successful in life, even though they grew up neglected and in abusive households, should their parents get credit for raising such a great person? Emily’s parents enabled her to go to college. Emily made the decision that a degree wasn’t as important as partying. Some people are just not ambitious and will always go the path of least resistance and have no problem letting other people bail them out.

Emily’s father is an architect and owns his own firm. There is no way he can just take Kobe into his company. Kobe has only the equivalent of a high school degree and did not go to college. Even if he were a civil engineer in Cameroon (which I highly doubt), his qualification would not transfer to to the USA. How is Kobe going to take over an architect firm without being an actual, US-accredited architect? This is no different than Bini taking over his father-in-laws cardiology practice. I have started, grown and successfully sold three businesses in the US and the idea of taking on a partner and somehow both partners now make a living is naive. Emily’s father has a business that provides a seemingly comfortable living for him and his family. How is taking Kobe into that business creating enough revenue to now provide income for two families instead of one? That only works if the new partner brings something to the table: investment in the form of skills and/or money that enable the business to expand and grow. Kobe has neither money, nor qualifications that would make the architect firm grow so it can provide for two partners/owners instead of one.

Kobe is a civil engineer like Jeniffer is an architect: They are not. Maybe it’s something he wanted to do at some time, maybe he worked as an assistant for a civil engineer, but he is not a civil engineer. I lived and worked in a West-African country for several years and would be very surprised to learn that in Cameroon you can become a civil engineer without a college degree. Melania Trump pretended to have a degree in architecture and design; and it wasn’t until she became First Lady that somebody decided to check into that. Kobe is simply counting on people believing him and being unable to check his claim. I understand that people don’t like Emily, I don’t either, but I don’t understand the love for Kobe. He hasn’t done anything yet to show that he really is a good guy. So, he was excited to meet his son, that doesn’t really prove anything. Seeing that people claim that he was a successful business man in Cameroon, did he spend any of his money to support his son over the last 17 months, or was he perfectly fine with letting Emily’s parents do that? Kobe and Emily were equally irresponsible in having unprotected sex. He comes to the US and his plan for providing for himself and his family is that Emily’s father should take him into his business? Why should Emily’s father just take Kobe into his business at this point? Maybe the business simply doesn’t create enough revenue to provide comfortably for two families and Emily’s father would have to share his income with Kobe. Bringing Kobe into the business will not automatically double the revenue, so whatever income that business provides for Emily’s parents would have to be split…. Also, like many of us, Emily’s father is probably not convinced that the relationship between Emily and Kobe is going to last. I don’t blame him that he isn’t willing to make Kobe a partner under those circumstances. Emily’s father probably spent decades building up his business and isn’t willing to jeopardize it until he is assured that Kobe and Emily stay together.

You can leave the country while waiting for the green card, but only with an “Advance Parole Document” So, in reality it is difficult to leave the country while waiting, because getting the Advance Parole Document also takes time and is a hassle. I was born in Germany and was living in the US with an Investor Visa. When I married my American husband I didn’t apply for a green card for several years because my father was seriously ill at that time and I needed to be able to travel back to Germany on short notice. With a pending green card application, getting on the next flight would have been impossible.

I think he said it was $750,000 or $800,000 if I remember correctly and that turned into “almost a million” and now “a million” .

Did Mahala actually say that her husband will be turned on? All I heard was, that Brian is uncomfortable with Miona being scantily dressed. I may have missed it if she said it as I usually don’t pay close attention to the show anymore.

Jibri thinks he needs just “one hit song” and he will be able to provide for Miona. That sounds like every broke gambler who just needs one run of luck to be in the clear. I already feel sorry for Jibri’s and KS party girl’s (Emily?) parents.

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The Prenup is becoming a 90-Day staple, the preview shows that Gino too wants a prenup. What assets does unemployed Gino have that he needs to protect? Memphis said at some point that she wants Hamza to contribute 50/50. If that includes him contributing financially, she will have a very hard time claiming a future house as her asset and not a marital asset. Future assets can be protected by a prenup / postnup, but they have to be specific: The wife knows that she will inherit grandma’s house, the husband has a trust fund and it will pay out in the future, there is a family business that one spouse will inherit. Things like that can be kept separate with a prenup. Some future house that Memphis wants to buy while married to Hamza, will be much harder to classify as solely her asset. Marriage is a serious commitment and a prenup is a good tool to protect certain assets. It is not a way to try to ensure that if there is a divorce, one spouse gets everything and the other spouse walks away empty handed. I really hope that the preview of Mahogany and Ben kissing, is going to turn out to be a kiss goodbye. Mahogany has lied to him, strung him along and took money from him. However, she still gets a pass from me because she is only 22. Ben is 52 and should know better. He really creeps me out, there is something predatory about a 52-year old pursuing a 22-year old. If Mahogany were 50 and Ben 80, it wouldn’t be a big deal for me, but currently Mahogany is barely out of her teens. Kimberly called that caterwauling a “private concert” ?

Even then the US spouse has to sign the affidavit of support. I came to the US with an investment visa and and a few years later, when I first applied for a green card, my husband had to sign that he would be financially responsible for 10 years if I applied for any public assistance during the 10 year period.

Ben should call his attempt at poetry "The Trainwreck", instead of "The Runaway Train". It would be a more accurate description of their relationship

Jasmine shared intimate photos with Gino and for him to show them to anybody is a breach of trust. His excuse? He wanted to show his ex "Look how hot my girlfriend is". I would find that questionable if a teenage boy did it, for a 52 year old man it is unacceptable. I loved when Jasmine called him a depressing old man. Lastly, Gino would do better to just shave that last bit of hair off. Being completely bald usually looks better than hanging on to some scraggly fluff. Ben has now entered stalking territory. He is 53 and he is pursuing a 22 year old woman. Mahogany texted him to not come to Peru - he went anyway. She didn't pick him up at the airport - he thinks she loves him, but is scared. She doesn't reply to any of his many messages or his Runaway Train Poem - he drives to her hometown. He talks about their love for each other, how they planned a life and a family together and that he will fight for this love. Ben, dude, you have never even facetimed with her. As far as God's plans matching Ben's wishes exactly are concerned, I have my doubts. I find Memphis very puzzling. She overcame a difficult childhood, put herself through college and is now a Nurse Practitioner, which suggests that she is an intelligent, ambitious woman. This successful woman travels to Tunisia to marry a younger man who she never before met in person and who seems to have no job, no marketable skills and who doesn't speak english. I think Hamza is handsome, but surely that can not be enough to get married on the spot? Then, on the way to the embassy she brings up a 90D favorite: The Prenup. Prenuptial Agreements are generally not a bad idea. When done right, they are a good way to protect certain assets in case of divorce. What they are not, is way to keep everything for yourself and your spouse leaves empty-handed. A proper prenup is a complex contract, it has to be fair, both parties have to disclose all their assets and liabilities, neither party signs under duress and both parties have proper legal representation to understand what they are signing. Judges can throw prenups out if they don't meet all those criteria. Memphis telling Hamza, via translator app, that he has to sign the prenup or she will not marry him makes whatever he signs invalid. A prenup also doesn't get anybody out of being financially responsible for the foreign spouse for 10 years. That is a contract between the US spouse and the US government. In the cab she tells him that when they are married "everything will be 50:50". What will be 50:50? Financial contributions to the household? How? He isn't going to be able to work for quite a while. They are going to evenly split household chores? He is a 22 year old man from a culture where household and child care are strictly a woman's domain. He isn't just going to jump into gear and start cooking dinner, clean the toilets and do the laundry. I just don't understand how Memphis envisions this is going to work.

Yes, lately I've been really turned off by the whole 90D universe. Too much scripted BS, like production pressuring Gino's Ex to contact Jasmine, the cast members just seem to be interested in promoting their Only Fans and social media "careers" and now it turns out that being a convicted violent felon isn't a hindrance to appear on the show either.

Does anybody else think that Corey paid Jenny to say that her time with him was "magical" ?

I just hope that Alina is willing to give Steven a "second" chance because she has an ulterior motive (eventually coming to the US) and not because she actually loves him. He has no filter and no impulse control, he blurts out any thought that enters his head and seems unable to control his impulses: jumping in the pool fully dressed when they were on their way out, responding to any random woman who sends him boob pics, commenting on Kenny's looks, Evelin's clothing etc. I think that the worst part of his personality is his willingness to overlook his own faults: “I am not a saint unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying." as he quoted Nelson Mandela yesterday. Is he trying? Or is he perfectly fine with doing whatever he wants to and expecting everybody to forgive him because nobody is perfect. He is probably also a hypocrite who judges others much harsher than he judges himself. He shouldn't have married Alina. If he wants to have threesomes he should have stayed single and he could have lived out his sexual fantasies. Instead he now insists that they have to find a way for him to express his urges so he doesn't have to supress them. Alina, that means he will have a threesome, because Steven can not possibly be expected to not act on his urges. You can either agree to be a part of a threesome, or you give can him permission to have a threesome without you, but a threesome he will have. So Ari was still married when she got pregnant by Bini and it was really hard on her to make the phone call to her husband, who she always thought she would eventually go back to? Has it crossed her mind that the phone call might have been harder on Leandro than on her? How any woman could choose Bini instead of Leandro is beyond me. Both are good looking, one has no education, his only skills are dancing and playing butt-drum and he doesn't appear to be more than moderately intelligent; the other is educated, working on his PhD and has a bright future. Ari is an idiot. Her reaction to the sisters was also over the top. Ari isn't the first person who has in-laws they don't love. Normal people keep the contact to a polite minimum and deal with it.