Had to make an account just to say all this because I can't get over it.
The thing I do not understand about April is her complete inability to empathize with Jackson. She was in a rough place when her son died and I can see why she left like she did, but I do not understand her now. She is healed, according to her, so why can't she see that while it was the right choice for her, it hurt Jackson. He never got a chance to grieve the way he wanted, even when he accepted her leaving in the beginning. Why doesn't she reach out, apologize that her grief, while absolutely necessary, made her a bad wife, and move on? Why must she insist that his needs, even in the present time, are inferior to her past feeling? I feel like if at any point in their arguments she would have just said she was sorry, Jackson would have relented on wanting a divorce.
Another thing I find weird is that they've mentioned his dad walking out on him as a child but April doesn't really get that. She's left him twice (once to stay with Arizona and Callie and then all those times to Jordan) and hasn't felt remorse or considered what it is like for him to constantly be left behind. How has it not crossed her mind at all that leaving a man who has been left will hurt? And how has she not considered and asked about his feelings about losing a son and missing out on a chance to be a father when he has no relationship with his father. That is something you think about when you love someone. You consider them, you know their vulnerabilities, and you think about them even when they don't tell you.