rejnel March 10, 2021 Share March 10, 2021 Quote An amends is not an apology. When I made 9th step amends I had to 1. say I was in a spiritual program that asked me to correct my past mistakes. 2. State my offense. 3. Apologize. 4. Ask if there was anything I could do to make it better. 5. Ask if there was anything I had forgotten. 100%! This show gets a lot of things right about recovery and the recovery community, but the way they use "amends" drives me crazy. As you say, it's not just "I'm sorry." The vocabulary is "make an amends," which is to say it's an action you take. Not just "I owe you an amends, sorry." Since money was a theme of these two episodes (money borrowed, money for law school), I'll take a moment to mention that Bonnie and Christy have better furniture and much better clothes than I do, and I'm solidly middle class! I don't mind because if I'm watching TV, I'd rather see people dressed nicely, but realistically I don't know how they're paying for all those outfits and that nice bed, fancy bedding, etc. Link to comment
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