While I understand what you're trying to say, I don't think they ever claimed to be the weed wacking, kill their own deer, lay concrete for their own pool type of people. Moreover, in most metro areas, most people don't do everything around their house. Right or wrong (in your opinion), they have only claimed to do their best to make a better life for themselves and those important to them. Achievement isn't defined by whether they carry their kids up a flight of stairs, it's whether their kids graduate college some day and become a productive member of society. And a side note, no offense to anyone, but I would suppose the books referenced above aren't exactly a bible of reality TV behind the scenes. I think Kate would sell books detailing the shapes of her bowel movements if she thought they would sell.