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I try to avoid posting about the political shows entirely. I think my warnings were all from The View. Lol I genuinely get confused about what’s acceptable and not, so I mostly stick with general chat and Real Housewives forums. This board is my favorite place. I don’t use social media, so I’d be really bummed if I got banned.
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20 minutes ago, lasu said:
And regardless of his looks, his refusal to date a woman older than 25 despite being almost 50 is not awesome.
There are so many absolutely gorgeous women in Hollywood around Leo’s age too.
I’m suspicious of the character of men who routinely go after way younger women. Do they value women as human beings at all? I think so many of them end up in the news at some point for abusing women.
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Her face and body look more and more like Kim’s.
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Menstrual cramps. I’m normally okay each month, but my stomach hurts today. :(
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Sandoval's impression of Scheana's dancing in season 2 is so funny.
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I’m surprised Tom lasted so long with Ariana. She comes across pretty confident early on.
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5 minutes ago, Bastet said:
Of course; it's just lunch with a former co-worker, and your respective genders are irrelevant to that.
I suspect it will; you're still in the adjustment period, where the bad things seem worse than they are, and your biggest problems are a boss who isn't very responsive to emails and less interaction with others in general than you'd prefer. That's a lot easier to deal with than having a job where your biggest problem is a hostile work environment and outright harassment! Talk to her about her preferred communication method, saying you don't want to bombard her with unwanted emails but also don't want to miss anything during this training stage, and that will likely wind up being an issue easy to address and adapt. As time goes on, you'll get to know some co-workers via correspondence and meetings at first, and then in-person interaction and even socialization may follow.
Thank you for your input! I tend to see things like you unless I think a man and I are not on the same page about our friendship.
100% Despite my venting, I'm still so grateful for my new job. I'm sure all of this will just force me to get out more during nights and weekends and be grateful for the friendships I've kept from my last place. It means a lot that the few I was closest to still care about me as well. Sometimes, out of sight, out of mind.
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47 minutes ago, shapeshifter said:
I don't think any of us here has enough information to really advise you, but joining the gym for those reasons sounds like you are getting a handle on things.
But if this:gets to be a regular occurance, I hope you'll get some counseling. Zoom therapy is so convenient!
I'm definitely taking action to feel better.
I'm not crying every day or anything like that, but it has definitely happened more than once the last couple of weeks. I'm not someone who cries over just anything either. I think as much as I miss aspects of my old job, I may still be dealing with the trauma of certain things that went down there too. I worked with the beautiful souls I miss, but I was also bullied and harassed. It felt very yucky, and I didn't share any of it with my family or non-work friends. Some of the circumstances felt embarrassing. I felt many different emotions my last months there, the time between my jobs, and now.
A couple years ago I was very depressed, and despite the stuff I'm going through now, I'm happy to say it's nothing like my mental state from a couple years ago when I was in therapy for awhile. I'm doing mostly okay. :) Just adjusting to life changes I guess.
I'm hoping the more training I get and busier I am, the less time I will have to miss my old job.
1 hour ago, shapeshifter said:I retired in 2019 and then there was the pandemic and then I moved across the country. At least I still talk on the phone about once a month with a couple of my close former coworkers. Can you do the same or even have a lunch?
I have kept in touch with a few of them! I'm probably going to meet with a couple who are mutual friends next month. Another coworker suggested meeting up for lunch, but no set plans yet. He isn't friends with the other two, so I'm not sure if I should invite him to join that meet-up o not. Do you all think it's appropriate to meet with him just us? He's a sweet old man and is older than my parents. I'm not sure if his wife would see me as a kid the way he does or find it weird if we met up for lunch. I think that's part of why I feel an extra sad about the goodbyes. I worked with mostly men, so my friends there were not all ladies I could just reach out to whenever without worrying about it being weird.
1 hour ago, shapeshifter said:IThe first 7 years at my job with the mean boss, I used to get expense paid trips to major cities for conferences. Then they lost most of their endowment in the 2007–2008 financial crisis. That was the end of the trips. I worked there another 12 years with at most 3% cost of living increases.
My point(s)?
1: The good things about your old job might not have lasted anyway.Before I had that last job, I worked somewhere else for 4 years. I left because it didn't have a lot of the benefits of my next job, but I didn't have a mean boss there either.
But if I'd stayed at the nice boss job, I would have been there the year it unexpectedly closed down after 50 years when I turned 63 and had stage 4 cancer. I'd have been unemployable with no health insurance — and not, instead, living in a place with a terrible climate but with the best cancer treatment centers.So, point 2: There's always good and bad things that you cannot predict.
I hope you make a friend at the gym!
Such good points! Thank you so much for all your thoughtful advice. It means a lot how kind you all are. I felt bad just reading your post.
Me too!
39 minutes ago, ebk57 said:@RealHousewife, I know this probably won't help, but I've found that the first 2 to 3 months of a new job really make you miss the old job, no matter how much you think you didn't like it. Then, one day, it's all better. I hope this works out for you!!
So true! Thank you for reminding me of this. I initially missed the job I had prior to my last job as well! It was another place where I was good at the job and had lots of friends. I left because I wanted to make more money, and I was initially sad it couldn't have happened with the previous job. Once I was settled in, I wouldn't have traded my then new job for the old one even if they matched the pay or even paid a little more. I hope the same happens here.
31 minutes ago, peacheslatour said:That has been my experience as well. I would give it some more time. But seriously, don't go in the basement.🕷️
Haha good advice! Trust me, I won't. I'm a scaredy cat.
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4 minutes ago, ichbin said:
https://pagesix.com/2024/04/22/entertainment/mary-cosby-allegedly-calls-lisa-barlows-son-the-r-word-amid-rhoslc-production/
Who decided to bring Mary back? Why? Is it because she can be counted on do blurt things like this?Messed up, but I'm not surprised. The is not the first time Mary's said very hurtful things.
2 minutes ago, Salacious Kitty said:Hopefully, production showed Mary the door.
I sure hope so. It took Brandi harassing Caroline Manzo for Brandi to (hopefully) finally be showed the door.
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16 hours ago, aussieinsydney said:
She's 23?? He's 41...ewwwww.
Schwartz gushed over Lisa Vanderpump in an old episode I just watched where he is probably early 30s? Sounds like he doesn't discriminate either direction.
In al seriousness, he was a whole adult before his girlfriend was born. I don't think an 18-year gap is totally nuts when you're both older, but 23 is SO young. I like when I can learn from someone older and wiser, but I guess guys just want as young and beautiful as possible.
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2 hours ago, peacheslatour said:
That doesn't sound like a very healthy workplace. It reminds me of the build up in a horror movie actually, only instead of an old house it's an office. Don't go in the basement, whatever you do. I'm so sorry to hear this, I wish we all lived together sometimes so we could open a bottle of wine and vent to our heart's content.
Aw, you're so sweet. That would be lovely, wouldn't it?
1 hour ago, kristen111 said:You know the saying “ you don’t know what you have until you don’t have it anymore”? Any chance to get your old job back? There were lots of pluses that were good for you. I met my husband in a Company that had a zillion singles working there. We met at a Company dance, dated, then got married over fifty years ago. So many singles met that way. Can’t you look for another job in a bigger company? They usually have lots of things going on. Everyone is nervous. My husband was nervous to meet me, so he sent his Cousin over to ask if he could introduce us. Hell yeah .. I said absolutely yes. I thought thst was so cute of him. It worked. See? Everyone is nervous to a degree. Take some chances. Be brave. 😍
There is a lot of truth to that saying! The thing is, as good as putting my two weeks notice in felt, it was still kind of bittersweet at the time. I knew I'd miss certain aspects of the job (mostly the nice people I knew for several years). I also got to travel for work and loved seeing different parts of the country. I just didn't know the degree of how much I'd miss my old job. :( That's one reason I stayed for a while unhappy. I kept thinking it could go to how it used to be. I could probably go back there if I wanted to, but things just got too weird for me. It's still so early at my new place, I'm hoping things will get better. I am grateful they're pretty nice so far even though I feel like a little orphan. lol I hope I get more training, get better at my job, and get used to the culture. I have to find ways to socialize outside of work. Thank you for the encouragement. 😀
Just now, oliviabenson said:Hugs girl, hugs.
Thanks Olivia. 🤗
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I meant to post the update months ago. I was checked out, and everything about me was normal. My doctor said no perimenopause. It would really shock me if I went through menopause younger than everyone I know when I got my first period later than everyone I know (15). I don't know if there is a correlation between later menarche and menopause, but if I were to do the math about how long perimenopause lasts, my baby-making window would be only 25 years, compared to the current average of 40.
Regardless, I know clock is ticking as far as having kids, but I should still have several more years where it is possible. I've tried to cut back on my soy consumption as well. I know I can't do 50 mg of spironolactone without messing up more cycle, but as a vegetarian sometimes I forget to take it easy on soy. I realized when I have a lot of tofu, I get my period early. When I do not, everything is pretty normal.
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11 minutes ago, partofme said:
I actually did have a manager like this who never replied to emails. She was one of the nicest managers I ever had, the day to day was great but she wasn’t a very effective manager. My situation was a little different in that I didn’t need her to train me on anything though, I had been in the position before she became my manager and I understood the job better than she did. We got a lot of emails and I know she didn’t respond to my colleague’s emails either. This was pre Covid and I had to go into her office if I sent her an email that I needed her to reply to urgently. I did like reporting to her on a day to day basis as she was easy going, I always got whatever time I wanted off, if I needed to leave early or come in late it was never an issue, but she was ineffective as a manager in that she was always promising me promotions and stuff and there was no follow through.
I would think email etiquette would be a big part of most modern jobs. My supervisor is pretty nice so far, so if she is like your former manager, I can work with that. I just hope she understands if I'm not picking up as quickly as I could be. I wish they had me training under someone else. I've had supervisors who were very passionate about their jobs and helping everyone, and that is how I prefer it.
I will take someone nice and laidback and horrible with emails over someone who's quick responding but not so nice.
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I know I posted a lot about how bad things at my old job got, but I'm still adjusting to my new place. On one hand, I'm grateful to be someplace where I'm not harassed, paid fairly, no bullying, nothing all that bad. There are many positives. But some days I feel so alone and miss all the good of my old job and other previous jobs.
There were people I truly cared about at my last job, even loved. I miss them SO much. I'm a single woman with a small group of family and friends. I'm also shy and anxious, so I turn down a lot of social things when I'm invited even if I wish I could get myself out there. I didn't realize how much I relied on work for my social outlet. My body confidence has gotten better, but still a work in progress, so I'm leery of dating.
I spend my days in the office working alone for the most part. Every now and then my supervisor might stop by to help, but I wondered if I'm a nuisance to her because she doesn't respond to most of my emails.
I'm not getting the proper training from her at my new job. I've had mostly good supervisors/trainers throughout the years who were very happy to help me. There were usually others around to help out too if I needed anything.
At my new job, there aren't as many people with the company period, and we're all pretty spread apart in the building. I barely interact with another human, much less have any familiar faces or friends I could go to if I need something.
I guess it is a bittersweet feeling. I still have gratitude and am trying to be positive. I've joined a gym more for my mental health than for any fitness goals. But boy, I didn't expect to be crying due to loneliness.
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I like my new job so far, but my supervisor is the worst when it comes to responding to emails. She is the person in charge of training me, so it is frustrating.
Have any of you had this happen? I know she has other stuff on her plate, but it feels weird that she's so slow to respond or doesn't at all. Does she see my emails and just chooses to ignore them? I can't figure it out.
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2 hours ago, lasu said:
I wonder if having another baby hurt her chances of coming back?
I sure hope so.
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On 10/15/2023 at 7:09 AM, Sweet-tea said:
Tamra was rude to Andy. I'm surprised he let her talk to him that way. He just sat there chastened. Perhaps that is the same effect she has on the women.
I was surprised Andy just that took that too.
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On 10/5/2023 at 5:07 AM, Chatty Cake said:
Shannon looked terrible, the hair and the dress were not flattering. She looked unhappy and I don’t think she cared that she made the CPS comment when drunk. I think she was wrong but I was over Gina with the MY CHILDREN for dramatics. Shut up Gina, you put your precious children on this stupid show.
On 10/7/2023 at 3:58 PM, Quiet1 said:Gina and only Gina is at fault if her CHILDREN are hurt. Gina is the one who got the DUI. Gina is the one who put the family in the public eye by being on the show. Funny, Gina has no problem airing all the wrong deeds her children's father has done, yet she doesn't seem to care how that will hurt her CHILDREN! As long as it gives her a storyline.
Yet, Shannon needs to stop talking about Gina. We get it, she helped her a bit. But she's also hurt her a bit. Move on.
Thank you and thank you. I agree with Gina that Shannon repeatedly bringing up helping her wasn't very nice and what Shannon said when she was drunk was in poor taste. BUT, Shannon is not responsible for anything more! Shannon has issues of her own, but Gina joining a reality show and putting her family business on TV, her DUI, Matt's cheating and DV, none of that has to do with Shannon.
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45 minutes ago, Arynm said:
I am currently at Baha Mar and guess who I just ran into at the Rosewood bar looking fly in a white pantsuit. She is very tall and gorgeous in person. I thought she would be shorter. I got an undercover picture because I’m too chicken to actually approach her. Her insta says she’s here celebrating her birthday. It looked like she as with all girls. I was so excited!!!
How cool! I think Gina looks tall and super pretty on the show, so I can imagine that she stands out a lot in person. Thank you or sharing with us.
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On 4/15/2024 at 1:53 PM, Natalie68 said:
Started watching the season right as the pandemic started. Braunwyn's wedding vow renewal was remarkable in many ways. It was remarkable in that a few short months later, she came busting out of the closet (good for her!!!) and Shannon was SOOOOO fucking drunk it was embarrassing. Shannon is a goddam mess. My guess is that is what John saw day in and day out. He had the job of managing her at that wedding get away and it was ugly.
That was tough to watch. I really hope Shannon is doing okay. It seems like she leans on alcohol when she's down.
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On 9/21/2023 at 6:52 AM, Keywestclubkid said:
Erika would be on her dick 55 million reasons why
lol
I actually like Tamra for the most part when I listen to two Ts. It's so odd getting into RHOC AFTER listening to her podcast. She takes the shenanigans too far.
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On 9/14/2023 at 1:50 AM, dancingdreamer said:
I don't think I've loathed Tamra more than this episode. Jenn owes them nothing, not a tear, no yelling, if she goes quiet, that's up to her. I hated Vicki going on about Jenns relationship, when she didn't even know Ryan's name. For whatever reason, Tamra seems jealous of Jenn imho. But I wish she'd shut the F up!
Shannon was trying to tell Tamra and Vicki that was enough, and Heather was right. I've always loved Emily's curvaceous body, plus she's not ashamed to have fun in it. I know Shannon hates putting weight on, when you've been thin, and you put on 30 pounds, you hate yourself, it's hard to accept. Tamra lay off Jenn's fake purses, a good friend wouldn't care, you b***h
Tamra is no friend to Jenn. I think Ryan is someone who should stay single. I get the concerns, but enough is enough. First of all, I don't think Tamra has the close friendship with Jenn the way she did with Vicki to be so in her business. I could be wrong, but that's my impression from how she treats Jenn. Secondly, while Ryan is obviously a womanizer, I don't think he's Brooks bad. Brooks wasn't simply a player, he was creepy towards Vicki's own daughter and faked cancer. That's beyond being a fuck boy. I can see Ryan breaking Jenn's heart, but I don't think we've heard anything about him that suggests serious danger. Maybe Jenn is the type of person where cheating isn't the end of the world to her. Some people fall in love, and they can't picture their lives without the person who hurt them. I don't think cheating is anything I could get over, but I won't tell others how to live their lives.
On 9/17/2023 at 8:23 PM, Stats Queen said:I also like Jenn, she is articulate, admits her own shortcomings and doesn’t seem to judge others - I’m not necessarily a fan of some of her personal decisions - but I don’t know what I don’t know and it is now of my business. She is not mean to others.
On one hand I am surprised she didn’t realize what a naked Tamra is given Tamra’s nasty antics over the years. On the other hand, she had what she thought was a close personal relationship with Tamra and they Tamra betrays her on national TV - Tamra is awful.
It reminds me a bit of what Rinna pulled with Denise.
On 9/18/2023 at 12:22 PM, ZettaK said:Yes, it was about Emily's hair, it was not body shaming.
Oh, thank you for clarifying that! I was surprised because it sounded out of character for Heather to be so cruel. I thought the other thing was blown out of proportion by Emily too. I don't think it was a great idea for Heather to comment on her chest, but I can see Heather thinking she's being complimentary toward Emily having "nice, big boobs" or whatever. Emily was so insulted you would have thought Heather suggested she had grandma boobs or something.
On 9/17/2023 at 7:07 PM, ladle said:I... don't know how confident Emily is. And I don't mean that in a negative way. Many of us are not confident and body-positive when it comes to ourselves! But, like you say, she's lost a lot of weight -- which is totally her prerogative and fine! No bodies are bad bodies! However, it does suggest that she didn't love her body the way it was. Twice now she's also read fat-shaming microaggressions into statements that were not at all fat-shaming microaggressions: first, when Heather made the comment about the pastries being like Emily's luscious boobs, and then when Heather made the Snuffleaupagus comment -- which (see above) seemed to be about Emily's damaged nose (??) and not at all about her weight.
Heather may be many things, but I've never heard her make any negative comment about another housewife's size ever. I think even Heather is self-aware enough to know how terrible the optics of that would be.
Just saw this post and 100% agree about Heather. I admit, I am a Heather fan. I'm not always on her side. There have been instances I've thought she was hard on others (Shannon for one), but I like that she has a class about her and isn't ever vicious.
Regarding Emily and body positivity, I think you can absolutely be body positive and want to lose weight. I think being body positive doesn't mean you only love your body larger or smaller. It means we should all try to love ourselves as we are, even if we do want to get into better shape. My concern with Emily's weight loss is I read she used Ozempic and liposuction. I'm not necessarily 100% against either. I know some people really struggle losing weight with diet and exercise alone, but I am concerned about the safety of weight loss drugs and weight loss procedures. I obviously don't know details about Emily's health, nor am I doctor. But there are people who aren't the smallest who are healthy as can be. Full of energy, no diabetes, cholesterol, high blood pressure, no issues at all. I think if you're a healthy person who is active and eats healthy, you would love your body enough not to risk serious side effects just to be skinny.
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29 minutes ago, kristen111 said:
Lately, so many regular Posters have gone. Maybe under a different name? I could use some new recipes. I’m making the same things week after week.
Maybe they were disrespected or bullied, got disgusted, then left?
I also get bummed when regulars disappear. I always hope they're alright and just got busy. If you're someone whose posts I regularly like and get a new name for some reason, please message me to let me know! There was someone who did that awhile back (not revealing who it was), and I really appreciated that she considered me her virtual friend and said hello. I knew to keep an eye out for her posts. :)
Aw you're a sweetie and most people here are nice, but I've experienced when someone has been uh strong with me shall we say. It makes me sad if someone left because they felt unwelcome. I think sometimes people don't realize how harsh they can be and forget the person whose posts they're picking apart could very well be a kid, someone from a totally different generation, culture, etc. I guess it's asking a lot to make a forum feel like a safe space for everyone.
I just try to appreciate all the kind folks and not let the occasional not so kind person get to me. I don't know what people get from being mean to strangers on the internet. I guess they can't possibly be living happy lives, not that it's an excuse. When I'm sad I might vent here, but I'd never want to hurt anyone's feelings, not intentionally.
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I'm struggling more being single the older I get. My family is small. I love my sister but can only handle her in small doses due to her immaturity and temper. Most of my friends have their own partners/kids. Just gets so lonely.
I really want to find someone this year. Universe, please send me a kindhearted, respectful guy.
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in Vanderpump Rules
I love Leo as an actor, so I especially hope in his case it is just a superficial thing. However, it wouldn't surprise me if the reason we don't hear a peep is because he makes his girlfriends sign NDAs. Even if he is the nicest guy who refuses to date women over 25, it's just odd for there to be zero drama out there.
Do any of the Vanderpump Rules guys have normal dating habits? I'm watching early seasons, and Jax seems like he'll shag anyone.