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Thank you for your input! I tend to see things like you unless I think a man and I are not on the same page about our friendship. 100% Despite my venting, I'm still so grateful for my new job. I'm sure all of this will just force me to get out more during nights and weekends and be grateful for the friendships I've kept from my last place. It means a lot that the few I was closest to still care about me as well. Sometimes, out of sight, out of mind.

I'm definitely taking action to feel better. I'm not crying every day or anything like that, but it has definitely happened more than once the last couple of weeks. I'm not someone who cries over just anything either. I think as much as I miss aspects of my old job, I may still be dealing with the trauma of certain things that went down there too. I worked with the beautiful souls I miss, but I was also bullied and harassed. It felt very yucky, and I didn't share any of it with my family or non-work friends. Some of the circumstances felt embarrassing. I felt many different emotions my last months there, the time between my jobs, and now. A couple years ago I was very depressed, and despite the stuff I'm going through now, I'm happy to say it's nothing like my mental state from a couple years ago when I was in therapy for awhile. I'm doing mostly okay. :) Just adjusting to life changes I guess. I'm hoping the more training I get and busier I am, the less time I will have to miss my old job. I have kept in touch with a few of them! I'm probably going to meet with a couple who are mutual friends next month. Another coworker suggested meeting up for lunch, but no set plans yet. He isn't friends with the other two, so I'm not sure if I should invite him to join that meet-up o not. Do you all think it's appropriate to meet with him just us? He's a sweet old man and is older than my parents. I'm not sure if his wife would see me as a kid the way he does or find it weird if we met up for lunch. I think that's part of why I feel an extra sad about the goodbyes. I worked with mostly men, so my friends there were not all ladies I could just reach out to whenever without worrying about it being weird. Such good points! Thank you so much for all your thoughtful advice. It means a lot how kind you all are. I felt bad just reading your post. Me too! So true! Thank you for reminding me of this. I initially missed the job I had prior to my last job as well! It was another place where I was good at the job and had lots of friends. I left because I wanted to make more money, and I was initially sad it couldn't have happened with the previous job. Once I was settled in, I wouldn't have traded my then new job for the old one even if they matched the pay or even paid a little more. I hope the same happens here. Haha good advice! Trust me, I won't. I'm a scaredy cat.

Messed up, but I'm not surprised. The is not the first time Mary's said very hurtful things. I sure hope so. It took Brandi harassing Caroline Manzo for Brandi to (hopefully) finally be showed the door.

Schwartz gushed over Lisa Vanderpump in an old episode I just watched where he is probably early 30s? Sounds like he doesn't discriminate either direction. In al seriousness, he was a whole adult before hi girlfriend was born. I don't think an 18-year gap is totally nuts when you're both older, but 23 is SO young. I like when I can learn from someone older and wiser, but I guess guys just want as young and beautiful as possible.

Aw, you're so sweet. That would be lovely, wouldn't it? There is a lot of truth to that saying! The thing is, as good as putting my two weeks notice in felt, it was still kind of bittersweet at the time. I knew I'd miss certain aspects of the job (mostly the nice people I knew for several years). I also got to travel for work and loved seeing different parts of the country. I just didn't know the degree of how much I'd miss my old job. :( That's one reason I stayed for a while unhappy. I kept thinking it could go to how it used to be. I could probably go back there if I wanted to, but things just got too weird for me. It's still so early at my new place, I'm hoping things will get better. I am grateful they're pretty nice so far even though I feel like a little orphan. lol I hope I get more training, get better at my job, and get used to the culture. I have to find ways to socialize outside of work. Thank you for the encouragement. 😀 Thanks Olivia. 🤗

I meant to post the update months ago. I was checked out, and everything about me was normal. My doctor said no perimenopause. It would really shock me if I went through menopause younger than everyone I know when I got my first period later than everyone I know (15). I don't know if there is a correlation between later menarche and menopause, but if I were to do the math about how long perimenopause lasts, my baby-making window would be only 25 years, compared to the current average of 40. Regardless, I know clock is ticking as far as having kids, but I should still have several more years where it is possible. I've tried to cut back on my soy consumption as well. I know I can't do 50 mg of spironolactone without messing up more cycle, but as a vegetarian sometimes I forget to take it easy on soy. I realized when I have a lot of tofu, I get my period early. When I do not, everything is pretty normal.

I would think email etiquette would be a big part of most modern jobs. My supervisor is pretty nice so far, so if she is like your former manager, I can work with that. I just hope she understands if I'm not picking up as quickly as I could be. I wish they had me training under someone else. I've had supervisors who were very passionate about their jobs and helping everyone, and that is how I prefer it. I will take someone nice and laidback and horrible with emails over someone who's quick responding but not so nice.

I know I posted a lot about how bad things at my old job got, but I'm still adjusting to my new place. On one hand, I'm grateful to be someplace where I'm not harassed, paid fairly, no bullying, nothing all that bad. There are many positives. But some days I feel so alone and miss all the good of my old job and other previous jobs. There were people I truly cared about at my last job, even loved. I miss them SO much. I'm a single woman with a small group of family and friends. I'm also shy and anxious, so I turn down a lot of social things when I'm invited even if I wish I could get myself out there. I didn't realize how much I relied on work for my social outlet. My body confidence has gotten better, but still a work in progress, so I'm leery of dating. I spend my days in the office working alone for the most part. Every now and then my supervisor might stop by to help, but I wondered if I'm a nuisance to her because she doesn't respond to most of my emails. I'm not getting the proper training from her at my new job. I've had mostly good supervisors/trainers throughout the years who were very happy to help me. There were usually others around to help out too if I needed anything. At my new job, there aren't as many people with the company period, and we're all pretty spread apart in the building. I barely interact with another human, much less have any familiar faces or friends I could go to if I need something. I guess it is a bittersweet feeling. I still have gratitude and am trying to be positive. I've joined a gym more for my mental health than for any fitness goals. But boy, I didn't expect to be crying due to loneliness.

I like my new job so far, but my supervisor is the worst when it comes to responding to emails. She is the person in charge of training me, so it is frustrating. Have any of you had this happen? I know she has other stuff on her plate, but it feels weird that she's so slow to respond or doesn't at all. Does she see my emails and just chooses to ignore them? I can't figure it out.

I sure hope so.

I was surprised Andy just that took that too.

Thank you and thank you. I agree with Gina that Shannon repeatedly bringing up helping her wasn't very nice and what Shannon said when she was drunk was in poor taste. BUT, Shannon is not responsible for anything more! Shannon has issues of her own, but Gina joining a reality show and putting her family business on TV, her DUI, Matt's cheating and DV, none of that has to do with Shannon.

How cool! I think Gina looks tall and super pretty on the show, so I can imagine that she stands out a lot in person. Thank you or sharing with us.

That was tough to watch. I really hope Shannon is doing okay. It seems like she leans on alcohol when she's down.

lol I actually like Tamra for the most part when I listen to two Ts. It's so odd getting into RHOC AFTER listening to her podcast. She takes the shenanigans too far.

Tamra is no friend to Jenn. I think Ryan is someone who should stay single. I get the concerns, but enough is enough. First of all, I don't think Tamra has the close friendship with Jenn the way she did with Vicki to be so in her business. I could be wrong, but that's my impression from how she treats Jenn. Secondly, while Ryan is obviously a womanizer, I don't think he's Brooks bad. Brooks wasn't simply a player, he was creepy towards Vicki's own daughter and faked cancer. That's beyond being a fuck boy. I can see Ryan breaking Jenn's heart, but I don't think we've heard anything about him that suggests serious danger. Maybe Jenn is the type of person where cheating isn't the end of the world to her. Some people fall in love, and they can't picture their lives without the person who hurt them. I don't think cheating is anything I could get over, but I won't tell others how to live their lives. It reminds me a bit of what Rinna pulled with Denise. Oh, thank you for clarifying that! I was surprised because it sounded out of character for Heather to be so cruel. I thought the other thing was blown out of proportion by Emily too. I don't think it was a great idea for Heather to comment on her chest, but I can see Heather thinking she's being complimentary toward Emily having "nice, big boobs" or whatever. Emily was so insulted you would have thought Heather suggested she had grandma boobs or something. Just saw this post and 100% agree about Heather. I admit, I am a Heather fan. I'm not always on her side. There have been instances I've thought she was hard on others (Shannon for one), but I like that she has a class about her and isn't ever vicious. Regarding Emily and body positivity, I think you can absolutely be body positive and want to lose weight. I think being body positive doesn't mean you only love your body larger or smaller. It means we should all try to love ourselves as we are, even if we do want to get into better shape. My concern with Emily's weight loss is I read she used Ozempic and liposuction. I'm not necessarily 100% against either. I know some people really struggle losing weight with diet and exercise alone, but I am concerned about the safety of weight loss drugs and weight loss procedures. I obviously don't know details about Emily's health, nor am I doctor. But there are people who aren't the smallest who are healthy as can be. Full of energy, no diabetes, cholesterol, high blood pressure, no issues at all. I think if you're a healthy person who is active and eats healthy, you would love your body enough not to risk serious side effects just to be skinny.

I also get bummed when regulars disappear. I always hope they're alright and just got busy. If you're someone whose posts I regularly like and get a new name for some reason, please message me to let me know! There was someone who did that awhile back (not revealing who it was), and I really appreciated that she considered me her virtual friend and said hello. I knew to keep an eye out for her posts. :) Aw you're a sweetie and most people here are nice, but I've experienced when someone has been uh strong with me shall we say. It makes me sad if someone left because they felt unwelcome. I think sometimes people don't realize how harsh they can be and forget the person whose posts they're picking apart could very well be a kid, someone from a totally different generation, culture, etc. I guess it's asking a lot to make a forum feel like a safe space for everyone. I just try to appreciate all the kind folks and not let the occasional not so kind person get to me. I don't know what people get from being mean to strangers on the internet. I guess they can't possibly be living happy lives, not that it's an excuse. When I'm sad I might vent here, but I'd never want to hurt anyone's feelings, not intentionally.

I'm struggling more being single the older I get. My family is small. I love my sister but can only handle her in small doses due to her immaturity and temper. Most of my friends have their own partners/kids. Just gets so lonely. I really want to find someone this year. Universe, please send me a kindhearted, respectful guy.

Monica reminds me a bit of Kelly Dodd with the cruel comments she makes about the other women’s looks. With the likes of Jen Shah and Mary, Monica isn’t the worst, but she is too mean girl for my tastes.

I believe Dorit about not having as much work done as people say. She always had a beautiful face imo. I would totally go to whoever does her Botox and filler. She doesn’t have that frozen or overly plumped look many women. Erika and Kyle both had great work too. I guess these ladies go to the best.

Seriously! I wonder what Emily's in-laws think. That moment was icky by anyone's standards, but most of the Mormons and Persians I know are conservative. The woman has a law license as well. It's not like her whole life is being a trashy reality star.

That's a good point. I think Vanderpump is more likable and charming, but actions speak louder than words. I can't keep up with all the Bravolebrity lawsuits, but I tend to be suspicious of the exceptionally wealthy. They're often screwing over employees, clients, customers, etc. The Bravo Docket typically does an episode if there is something to a lawsuit in Bravo world though, and I don't think I've come across one against Lisa/Ken. I could be wrong. I do really like how philanthropic Lisa is, but that doesn't mean she is automatically a generous or even fair employer.

I stopped taking calls from unknown numbers due to all the spammers. If it's important, I figure I'll get a voicemail an/or a text. I agree it's still annoying to get spam calls.

Seriously, what's with Tamra's girls gone wild schtick? Kyle's splits got to be old, but at least she kept her clothes on.

I don't know. Men and boys are weird. I'm approaching 40. I've had teenagers yell sexual innuendo at me. Tamra isn't a spring chicken, but I'm sure still gets attention being an attractive fit blonde. I agree Tamra bringing up all this years later on camera isn't cool. She clearly doesn't genuinely care about Jenn. At this point, I think it's cruel she tells her friend that her man wanted to f*** her. I remember when she screamed bloody murder and said we'd "never see her again" after Lizzie allegedly said Tamra was just jealous Eddie said he'd either want to f*** or marry Lizzie when they played the stupid marry, f, kill game. Jenn has horrible taste in men, but she seems like a nice woman. The other ladies need to back off unless they truly care about her. I see Heather's point with Gina and her boyfriend. If I had a boyfriend who constantly cried and was triggered by things that reminded them of their ex, I'd feel like a consolation prize/therapist. I don't blame Gina for not being fully over it. She experienced a great deal of trauma between the cheating and the abuse. But I do think she should limit how much she vents to Travis.