Jora30

Starting sex early wasn't just Tres' fault, it's on Vanessa as well. He did not rape her. They made a mutual decision to have sex early on. Vanessa didn't love him at that point because they barely knew each other. So why does she get a pass? It was a bad decision by both of them that ultimately caused problems.

I'm not ready to crucify Tres over these new revelations. I don't think it's a forgone conclusion that he was just stringing her along the whole time. I think he went into this with sincerity and he genuinely hoped his feelings for her would grow and develop into something more, but they never did and he didn't know how to get out. Yes, he handled it badly and should have just been honest with her at the end of the six weeks. But he is still not comparable to Ashley, who decided from day one it was over and never put any effort into the experiment whatsoever.

I don't know where you're getting this from. All that was said was that he asked a woman to go for a drink with him. This could have been a friend that he already knew. Nothing was said about him going out and trying to pick up a woman. There was also nothing about it being "the night before". We'll have to wait until next week to see what it's actually about.

He used "my girl" in the same way that he would say "my boy" or "my dude" when referring to a good guy friend of his. He was deliberately using that phrase to describe the platonic nature of their relationship. It was obvious that there was absolutely nothing intimate being implied by it. He shouldn't have to spell that out for Vanessa. Is this really that hard to understand? Besides, the only place I heard him say that phrase was in the TH, not to Vanessa. He didn't go up to Vanessa and say "hey my girl's coming over so get ready." He used it in the right context.

This is nonsense. In what way did he put Jenna first over Vanessa? Literally all he did was greet her and introduce her to Vanessa before Vanessa immediately started giving her the stink-eye, clinging all over Tres and then ignoring her. Yes, Tres was excited to see Jenna, because she is his friend and she's been a part of his life for a long time... hence why he wanted her to meet his wife. If he didn't care about Vanessa he wouldn't have even bothered to introduce them. What did you expect him to do, shake Jenna's hand and act like she doesn't matter? Marriage is not about suppressing your friendships or acting like they don't exist. He is not obligated to end or downplay his friendship with Jenna because he is married. If Vanessa can't deal with him having female friends that is her problem, not his.