Foreign-wife

Just don't wake me with a whistle.

I wish I had found this forum at the start of the season, not at the end of it. As my name suggests, I am as a foreign-born wife. My husband and I are already married and I am currently awaiting my IR-1 visa in my home country before moving to the United States to live with him. For us, this was better than the 90-day fiancé route. I'm from the UK and have a career here and it makes sense for me to keep working and earning, rather than sit at home over there. With the IR-1 visa, you can work immediately upon arrival. And that's what I intend to do. Anyhow, this series has really caught my attention due to the similarity to our situation. But one thing I have noticed about Mark is that when he was doing the pre-nup and when he presented the ring in front of Elise he made no mention of loving her. He said "I promise to protect you, shelter you, provide for you" and I think at one point he even said "nurture you". That made me gag. It was more like an adoption ceremony than an engagement. When he was questioned about the pre-nup by Erica Hill, he changed it slightly and said "love you" but that wasn't in the scene at the dinner table with Elise. And here's a general comment about the whole series. I find it incredible how they keep saying "90 days is not a long time to know if you want to marry someone and spend the rest of your life with them". You're not kidding! That's why the normal way is to spend time getting to know one another before getting married. I met my husband online and we met in person around 12 times before we got engaged. We're fortunate that we have the earnings and passports to be able to do that. But if we didn't, I don't think I could have agreed to marry someone on the other side of the world that I'd spent a handful of days with. And you don't have to wait the whole 90 days before you get married. Those that complained about not being able to work should have got married earlier and started the AOS process to get their work permits. No requirement to spend a full 90 days waiting for a wedding. My husband jokingly suggested we should have done this instead, the K1 visa, and appeared on the show. I said we wouldn't have been what the show is looking for. No 40-year age gap. No poor family at home counting on me to send money home. No language problems. No arguments over whether one of us should be an underwear model or not. No children older than the spouse. And my husband would not freak out if I went to a strip club. No cars belonging to the ex-wife. No faded zebra sheets.