Here also she stays in her delusion. She says He's so mean, like he's really mean....
At first she says to Nicky I am crazy. but then she changes and just says he's so mean. (So for a while she had realized it was all fake but she immediately got back into her fantasy)
And about what you say about stalkers I don't believe that you should never talk to a stalker. That's only when a stalker is really delusional and mental ill. Lorna is also a little bit ill but I think the more he would come to say to her that they are not a couple the more she would face reality and let go her fantasy that he's the man of her life.
I think the study that you should ignore and never talk to a stalker should be reviewed. I think the study is a lot based on what victims have told. I think some poeple don't react well when they get stalked. I think poeple get quickly scared and just start to ignore and then it gets worse. I read a lot about stalkers. There are different kind of stalkers and Lorna is an intimacy seeker but a little bit psyhotic too because like in the court she said he's being so dramatic, but she kind of know what she is doing. So talking to her I think would have been good.
To make my point there is a difference between a delusional/mental ill/psychotic stalker who really believes the victim is in love with the stalker and the intimacy seeker. I think you always have to make it clear to the intimacy seeker. The more the better.
I say this because I think I almost had a stalker.
I had met a girl in a bar. I was a bit drunk but I flirted with her. The next day she (sally) sent me a message when would go on a date. I thought to myself did i ask her on a date?? Then I thought maybe I did in my drunkness. And I thought well why not. But for me the date was really bad. I didn't like her. So after a few hours I saw that she was interessed in me by the things she said and after a while a I began to say We're not a match and it was only a one time thing. I was going to see some friends later in a bar and she was going to take her bus at 10 to go home. So a bit before 10 i said that i was going to my friends but that I will accompagny her to her bus, but then she said she was going with me to the bar... I said no. You're going home. I want to go my friends alone. And she said yeah but i can be in the bar. I got a little bit scared so I said again that I only want to be friends and not more and that i was not interessed in her. That I didn't want her in the bar. I asked if she knew someone there. She said yes and kept on saying she was also going to the bar so I said okay but i m not going to give you any attention. I am there with my friends. When we arrive there she said hi to my friends... I explained what was happening to one friend. Then a kind of ex girlfriend came in and we we're just close like good friends. And Sally began to be jealous and asked my friend who that girl was and why she was flirting with me... while we we're just talking. And she said to my friend that I was here with her and shouldn't talk in that way to my friend...
So i talked to Sally again that we're not together and that she is not my type and that i am not going to talk to her anymore.
It was in a bar where you also could dance. So we always go dance after a while. She also went on the dancefloor but the whole night she stood in a corner watching me, looking really really depressed and crying but also really mad at me. I was trying not to look at her and just having a good time. But she stood there like that for hoors. After a while she was kissing someone else so I thought. God bless you she understood. She'll leave me alone.
The next day she messaged me we had to talk. That I had been really mean to her. And that she wanted me to explain what she had did wrong. Why I had been so mean to her and that we should work it out. (but in a way that she was my girlfriend ...) I said her again that she was not my type but if she wanted we could be friends but i didn't want her as a girlfriend.
She said why cant we just work it out. Let me call you. (she already tried to call me but i did'nt answer)
I said I dont want to call you and that she should leave me alone. That I was never interessed, that it was a stupid date to get to know eachother but that she was not my type. That I would never be attracted or interessed in her and everything you possibly could say to someone to reject the person.
It kept on like that for a while and I kept on saying that I didn't want her.
But then after a half hour It stopped. It just stopped. I was really scary.. I was really scared but I really thougt that it was the best way to just keep on rejection her.
But she was a really scary person..
