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Job Service isn't really that helpful all they are really there to do is process and audit unemployment and if you're looking for work, you need to be able to check and reply to your email on the quarter hour and no library is going to allow you to use a computer all day 7 days a week. You're competing with students who also need to use those resources. Plus, you still need a permanent address for a background check and you need a permanent address for the last 5 years. And you are missing the point completely! We are pointing out that people are out of touch with what it takes to look for a job in 2018 as opposed to 1988. PS. RE: no one is promised easy. No they aren't but it is disingenuous to continue to pretend that it is easy to get a job without these resources.

I agree. We own a house and the most cats we've ever managed were four and that's because I moved in with two and he already had two. Taking care of four cats was a lot of work and the vet bills when they started to get older and sick got very, very expensive. We now have two cats adopted as kittens from the same litter and they are more than enough. Fifteen sounds like a collection.

From the preview I saw on Friday, it looks like he blew the inheritance on strippers and gambling. This might not be a case of him hiding the money away and it's still there so much as he was terribly irresponsible with it and he has a problem with gambling.

Brandon was unlikable. I think I was supposed to feel sorry for her but it was impossible between the laughing about not 'needing' a job and taking her mother's money to buy a $2000 wig while living in a car and having no ambition while being a glorified prostitute and being a general smart a**. Being transgender doesn't mean you can't be an awful person.

I do not agree with anything Phil did on that show. I do not agree with him implying the husband should keep supporting the wife. I believe she is a damaging influence on her kids and he should get them away from her as fast as possible. Sometimes Phil makes really, really bad calls.

I still read/hear people try to give advice that people should go 'door to door' looking for jobs. I think Phil even tries to give that advice and very few businesses will even take applications in person anymore. About fifteen years ago I had to take a job in retail for a few months while I was looking for a job after moving. Hey, gotta pay the bills! Anyway, the store I worked at didn't take applications in person only online. Now I work in tech and that industry doesn't even have the ability to deal with someone walking in off the street to apply for a job. They'd probably consider the person a security risk and have them arrested. And yes, you're right - no credit history and no address means no job no apartment and no way to get started. You might be able to explain it away if you make as far as an interview but in most cases, they're going to ask for that information prior to the interview and you'll get screened out because you won't pass the background check. Even ridiculous retail jobs run background checks now.

So if the person claims they were abused early in life, they get a pass on one of the absolute relationship dealbreakers? So, dealbreakers aren't dealbreakers?

I'd have to write a novel not an obituary. In the end, I opted to give up and move on. Easier that way. I saw this a few months back and this is some crazy, scary level stalking. One of them was not sane if I remember right.

Would someone just please push the father off of a very tall building? And I'm really, really disappointed in Phil. He sat there and let that father make all sorts of unfounded accusations about the mother's 'drug use' etc and essentially gaslight her. I'm sure the son listening to the father do that to the mother for 10+ years is part of why he is the way he is. Not that the mother doesn't have ownership of the son's issues. She does. But this is something else entirely. It was highly unprofessional behavior from Phil.

I hate it when Phil uses this as an excuse for terrible behavior. I often feel like people who say this have never had to deal with really toxic people in their life and don't know what it is like when every time you try to declare a truce or be nice to someone, they are absolutely awful to you in return. The best solution is to walk away and refuse all contact.

Oh honestly, why are these even episodes? Both shows should take 30 seconds where Phil tells the people to leave the relationship. Neither of these shows merit an hour except to pull ratings with shock value. I couldn't stomach this show. When Phil started pointing out the dog with the broken leg? It was too much for me. Stupid human behavior towards other humans? Not good but I can handle it. Pushing stupid human behavior onto animals who can't escape the situation and can't ask for help? Not Okay.

Everyone is this group is horrible except for the kid. I mean, even the grandmother isn't fit to raise the kid what with committing computer crimes and all and thinking she's totally justified in doing so. And you know, the grandmother handing that kid over to that horrible father. Meh. Not one of them deserves help but... the kid. ETA: The father's girlfriend didn't even need to be there? She was just annoying.

I also didn't quite understand what Phil was doing in this episode unless something is going to happen tomorrow with the catfish girl's boyfriend? It is not/was not that guy's responsibility to fix the girl and he was as much a victim of hers as anyone else. Just because he wasn't on the other end of a monitor doesn't mean she wasn't highly manipulative in her communication and relationship with him. As I've said in the past, Phil is uneven in his approach to people.

From what I've seen lately, Phil isn't very quick on the draw putting a stop to bad behavior either. This is the kind of stuff most therapists would end almost immediately. (A therapist would never have allowed someone to describe how they were having sex with someone's daughter in a session) Phil seems to let it go one for a couple minutes and then act like everyone is wasting his time, and people are behaving badly, and someone is deflecting blah blah and/or someone is high/drunk or (finally) someone is completely out of line. In the meantime, the audience at home has already called everyone on their bad behavior, diagnosed them and is ready to send a bill. I saw a lot of things in him. Class wasn't one of them. He was pulling that fake polite crap that young men do when they're trying to be a smart alecks* but in reality, they're being smug little snits* and they think you're too stupid to know they're actually being rude. He did that as another form of abuse. *I'm keeping my language clean.

Kttmg really doesn't like abusers. It refused to convert this episode. I watched the clips from the show on youtube and this kid is really something else. He sounds like he's high. He can't maintain his train of thought without repeating himself three or four times. He's pulling abuser tactics on the dad and Dr. Phil like some amateur - deflection isn't going to work here. You need to re-evaluate your life choices. (Can't imagine why he even came on the show but... young and stupid) He also thinks he's going to go toe to toe with two men more than twice his age with more education and experience. You know the joke "don't bring a knife to a gun fight?" Don't bring an uneducated brain to an intellectual butt kicking.