yes2me

Good luck on your date hoosiergirl!!!

I think it's unrealistic to think everyone chosen to be matched has honest motives about being married and being 100% because it's a reality show. And it's the 3rd season of this show in particular. I do agree that Vanessa has really poor communication skills. She needs to grow a pair and tell Tres how she really feels. But in all honesty this is such a pressure cooker kind of situation where she probably doesn't have a lot of time to sort out her feelings to a place where she can communicate them properly. I was rooting for them early on but I see where her expectations are too unrealistic. Along with her poor communication skills and a husband as laid back as Tres...it likely won't work out.

I agree that Vanessa had expectations that were unrealistic. I think she expected to have a match that was 100%% serious about marriage. But little incidents piled on top of one another to where she was in a no win situation...and she felt duped. The first incident was finding out Tres was recruited as oppose to him seeking out this situation. The experts talked her down from that and she gives it a shot. Then he gets pass-out drunk which is another red flag. By this time she has slept with him and probably feeling a bit of buyers remorse. Then the experts and Tres talk her down from that disappointment only to have a cute "girlfriend visit at the party where Tres announces that love is a "big word". More feelings of buyers remorse. I think most women in that situation would feel hurt and it would take some time to get over. That's why the horseback riding trip was awkward. Vanessa wasn't over it and probably felt obligated to sleep with Tres on that trip since he went out of his way to plan it. Then the conversation about where to live just cemented the wall she put up. I think she realized then that she married someone who mostly just wanted to be on tv. Vanessa should have expected a better than 50% chance that her mate would be seeking the spotlight and a payday by doing the show. I think that she really regrets not taking it slower and is ultimately disappointed with herself. Tres is just a regular dude getting laid and having fun being on tv...and there's nothing wrong with that.