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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

     

    Yest. 11:01 pm

    I want to say I enjoy most things that are written here. I like the different viewpoints expressed here. I am a Christian who works a lot so I do not have the chance to hear the viewpoint of an atheist , I hear that here, and I do enjoy hearing different views or thoughts on things. I have never been wished a Happy Occult Day, and honestly would like to know more about that. I worry about HFC's mom and daughter, I worry about Jellybeans as she continues to deal with the death of her daughter. I laugh at some of the stories all of you tell. In an odd way all of you become friends. I do not post here often, but I read a few times a day, in fact I check here more than I do my Facebook page. I even wonder about WW , because she must have a sad life. Well today is my birthday, I am now almost as old as dirt, at least that is what my body tells me, my mind wonders where that body went to you know the one that could get up from the floor without help. Everyone take care during Thanksgiving and have fun, with family or friends or even by yourself if that is what you need.

    CrazyCatLady,  I hope your birthday is full of everything you love.  

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

     

    My daughter uses my iPad. It is now her iPad. I never needed it or wanted it anyway. My husband bought it for me and it sat in a drawer. I was thrilled she was taking interest in something and could work it. Because she is non-verbal, it gave me insight into her mind. What she likes and her interests. And it shows me what she knows because she cannot tell me. She has shown amazing progress by learning things on apps on the iPad. That being said, there is no reason why if there are other iPads and tablets in the house, the kid can't you know, share.

    The Christmas list thing really hits me, too. When I was a kid, I literally had nothing that belonged to me. Not even my clothes. My sister and I are 22 months apart. I was small and she was bigger and we wore the same size. So our wardrobe was shared. There was only one of each toy and we had to play with it together or take turns. And you know what, even though it was taken to the extreme by extremely cheap and frugal parents, it taught us a lot about life and getting along with others. I remember as a child when I was asked what I wanted for Christmas I would burst into tears. It was too much pressure. I was never taken into stores to look at toys. I didn't even know what the possibilities were. I think I asked for Legos one year. Of course, I didn't get Lego brand. I got some Sears brand called Brix Blocks maybe? But I didn't care. I wasn't hung up on labels and brands. I was the kid that got socks and underwear in my stocking and was happy about it.

    We passed around a knife to carefully open the paper so as not to rip it, so it could be reused the next year. I am not THAT old. We are talking the 80s here. My parents were dirt floor poor growing up and still lived that way even when they got a little money.

    The presents we get for my parents now are things like lawn mower blades. We have been making sentimental gifts for my dad. He used to make up songs and play them on his guitar when we were kids, so we tricked him last year into performing it an we recorded it and turned it into a music video with scenes of all of us and our children dancing to it (it is kind of a dance song like the whip nae nae). This year we are doing a photo book a la $hit my Dad says in which every page looks like a meme with one of my dad's favorite sayings. One year, I wrote a poem about his old truck he finally had to sell. It was my grandfather's and held lots of memories for our family. To me, that is the kind of stuff Christmas is really all about.

    I know I brought up the hand soap -- so to defend myself, there are going to be a lot of people in my house and I need to get hand soap because there are so many germy kids in the house. We only use one of the bathrooms when it is just us, but we have 5 sinks in the house and they ALL get used. I kind of like the idea of incorporating smells because it is a part of building and remembering memories. They trigger them for me and so I am trying to incorporate that into our family togetherness. Memories and experiences is what I am trying to focus on and not on stuff.

    We used to trade names on my side of the family, but the last couple years we have stopped and are pooling our resources for gifts for mom and dad and the growing population of nieces and nephews instead. My husband's side of the family is way more materialistic. Fortunately there are fewer of them. Mr XM's mother would shrivel up and die if she could never shop again. "I shop therefore I am" should be on their family crest.

    XinaMarie, I'm sorry that you had to experience such sad times but I think you make Christmas special for every one in your life.

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

     

    I'm tripping down the path, dropping daisies because I have some happy news!

    We all went to eat Friday night (it's a standing date, all my cousin peeps go out every Friday, including Mamas sitter, who is a cousin-peep. It's her regular day off and we have a stand-in for her). Anyway, she'd brought some groceries home and was in the kitchen putting them away when Boo Radley (Mama) stumbles in! She's over-the-top confused, and wobbly holding on to everything...but she announces "I got to pee and I want something to eat". First time up in 4 days. It HAD to seem like a marathon to her to get to where the lights were. Saturday, she was up a little longer, and yesterday she slept in her chair in the LR almost all day. Still sleeping, yes (even through meals, but OUT OF BED!!!). Using some leg muscles. She's lost some muscle coordination, we're crushing pills because she doesn't have the ability to swallow them any more, and has to be fed. How bizarre. But YAY!!! At least (this moment), I'm not as worried about having a baby in L&D while panicking about losing Mama.

    I didn't cancel the not-quite-hospice appointment for morning because this is exactly what we've hoped for anyway - guidance and direction. These people never are what I expect (the professionals) but I'm hoping. My heart is singing! This is the first T'giving in YEARS I haven't had a billion orders staring me in the face. Mama is apparently going to sail through the day just fine, and my newest little tiny grand has orders NOT to screw up my plans until the dishes are put away. I feel full of hope. Also, my husband is on his annual trip to Vegas with his brother and BIL's, and the house is quiet and all mine. I forget how much I like my alone time sometimes. I'm decorating for Christmas today! WHEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!

    Such wonderful news,  Happyfatchick! 

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    burlsa, I hope you realize that not only did you have a enormous part in stopping the ww fraud but you were our cheerleader, too, telling us not to feel like we had been foolish or stupid but that we are just a bunch of kind and caring people.  And that this is really a very special group of people.  I hope and pray you continue to feel comfortable posting whatever you need to.  But more important, I hope and pray you get a good diagnosis of your health problems and can be treated successfully.  Blessings and love to you and your awesome mom  <3

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

     

    So it was fine for "Wanderwoman" to dominate this forum for months with her made up bullshit--and even have the thread renamed for her fake kid--but shame on Burlsa for being at the lowest point of her life and daring to talk about it here. Real life support groups aren't an option for some folks with social anxiety, who are afraid of opening themselves up to be criticized by rude, judgmental people. Instead, she felt safe to post here because most posters here are pretty great and have made her feel welcome.

    Burlsa is my daughter, so yeah, I'm feeling pretty damn protective of her these days. I guess I should tell her to refrain from posting until she gives birth to conjoined twins who came out sideways at 26 weeks gestation and have arms coming out of their foreheads like a unicorn, and only Ben Carson can save them, but that will cost lots of money, so we'll need to set up a GoFundMe campaign.

    Go Mom!  I am so grateful for you and your daughter!

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    Happy, you already are DOT!  You've gone through this for so long and really gotten to see the best and worst of how people handle illness.  When my mom was dying she wanted to see one of her sisters so badly and even though I explained to this poor excuse for a human, she wasn't coming.  She told one of my other aunts that she was going through something worse which she finally explained that she had cancer of her mouth that she cured with salt water.  No doctor had diagnosed this.  I also had a cousin who didn't come to see her, she lived around the corner, because she wanted to remember her how she was before.  It infuriates me when someone uses that excuse.  If we all felt that way people would die alone.  I think you're doing an amazing job taking care of all of your family!

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

     

    It's been a hard day. Tomorrow doesn't look any better. It's just hard. How is it that I want her stay and want her to go at the same time? How is it I'm spilling my guts to people I've never even met? "Oversharing" someone once called it, and I was embarrassed because...that's me.

    Happy, this is such a safe place to share your feelings no matter what.  It's understandable you don't want to give up your mom but you just don't want her to continue the way she is.

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    Josh & Anna Smuggar: A Series of Unfortunate Events

    in Counting On

     

    Yeah, see the difference between your view and my view is that, in my view, Michelle and Jim Bob hurt those kids every single day, in multiple ways, and have done since each kid was born. I was raised by people that I think were very similar to the Duggars in some essential ways, so to me they represent a toxicity and spiritual damage that's incalculable -- to every single kid, compounded by every day those kids live with them. To me, all a disgusting stupid brother can add is some bad publicity for the family and the loss of some more money. Josh isn't enmeshed with those kids, brainwashing those kids, depriving those kids of knowledge and opportunity and autonomy when they don't even know it. He isn't convincing them that falsehood in communication, denying all of one's true feelings and manufacturing your life to look good for reality tv are virtues. When those are really things that destroy your soul and your ability to live like a normal human being, possibly for life. It's Michelle and Jim Bob who are doing all that really damaging crap.

     

    Meanwhile, Josh is nothing but a jerky passerby who may cost the family some money. And, frankly, if the loss of Duggar money motivated some of the older kids to get the hell out of that household, I'd  consider that a great benefit. And if the Josh scandal caused TLC to rethink their obvious plan to continue airing Duggar crap (although it won't, I'm sure), I'd think that was a huge benefit. The sooner they get off tv, the better for all of them, in my opinion. Beyond those external things, Josh has no power to "destroy" the family, in my opinion. The other kids don't seem to have much relationship with him. He doesn't seem to want much relationship with them. It's the people who are enmeshed with you who destroy you, not passersby.

     

    Obviously, mileage varies on this.. To me, though, the world vastly vastly underestimates the evil Michelle and Jim Bob have perpetrated on all their kids and continue to perpetrate (along with TLC), and vastly overestimates how much harm can come to a kid from having a brother who slept with a prostitute.
    I didn't grow up with any of this and I couldn't agree with you more, churchhoney.
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    Michelle and JimBob aka J'Chelle and Boob

    in Counting On

    I love Josie.  That child had to fight so hard to survive when the idiots who were so obsessed with having 20 children that they risked her health conceiving her.  Watching her when she had her seizure, knowing that wasn't the first time, and not one of her family members had a clue about how to take care of her.  Jim Bob and Michelle are horrible people and really did their beautiful children a disservice in the way they've neglected them in every area of their lives.

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

    Skittl, I'm so sorry for your loss.  You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.  What you wrote was heartfelt and lovely, especially for the small close group of people with whom you share facebook. If you don't feel up to it, a friend would be fine to let who you want to know what happened. 

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    Small Talk: The Prayer Closet

    in Counting On

     

    I am now a big believer that hospice care givers are angels from heaven (I knew this but forgot), and when they tell you that a person has entered the dying process, they know their business.

     

    It probably sounds silly, but this is very odd and unhinged feeling, not having any parents at what I feel like is a pretty young age of 53.

    Nextliteration, it doesn't seem silly at all.  It's a process losing a parent at any age.  Whatever you feel is right for you.  And the hospice caregivers really are the best.  Take care of yourself.  I hope you have peace and a lot of love surround you.

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