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See, this is where a lot of the confusion comes in. Does "transgender" mean simply having the feeling of being the opposite gender, *or* does it mean a person who has actually had surgery and hormones so that they do physically resemble the gender they want? Most of us honestly don't know because it's rarely talked about, so there is a LOT of confusion on that.

 

EDITED TO ADD: Yes, I've read the GLAAD guidelines posted above, but "transgender" can still refer to someone who simply identifies with the opposite sex and may or may not have had surgery. Now, this does not matter if we are simply talking about friendships. But it *does* matter when it comes to sexual/romantic relationships.

 

If we are talking about a pre- or non-surgical transgender female, like Jazz, it is not "transphobia" for straight boys not to be interested in dating her. It's because they are not physically attracted to anyone with a penis. That's it. That's all.

 

If we are talking about a post-surgery transgender female, then a relationship with a straight male might work. I'm sure they have.

 

My point is that we are never going to change what people are inherently attracted to, or not attracted to. Jazz does not want us to change what she is attracted to or what she wants to be - and she shouldn't have to. But in the same way, she cannot expect others to change what they are attracted to or want to be, either.

 

Transgender means both "having feelings of being the opposite sex" and "transitioning medically to the opposite sex". Jazz has been on puberty blockers for years and on estrogen for at least two so the only physical trait she has of the body she was born in is the genitalia. By the time she is 18, she will look just like a cisgender woman.

Okay, so we're not allowed to ask how the doctors are helping a young transgender person deal with their future sexuality, or with the difficulties a person will face when they want to be female but can never be truly transformed into one.

 

That last one seems to be the biggest taboo of all, but I really don't understand why because I'd think it would be the biggest problem a post-surgical transgender person could face. How does it help to turn away from reality and blame any difficulties in adjusting on "transphobia" in others? I really don't understand why no one is willing to discuss this aspect of being transgender.

 

It did not occur to me that any of this would be offensive in any way, especially on a forum dedicated to a show about a young transgender person and the problems they face. How are people supposed to learn and understand, if no one wants to discuss it?

 

And yes, I did read the link above. It did not answer the questions I have in this post.

Wow your first part is very offensive. Chromosomes don't matter, in fact, i bet if you went up to 100 cisgender (non-trans people) maybe, at most, one would know their chrosomal sex.

"this aspect of being transgender."

Because that isn't an aspect of being transgender. Hormones are very powerful things and by the time Jazz is 18, she will hormonally be indistinct from a cis female.

 

 

[Love, Lust Or Run - General Discussion]

Okay, i'm around that same age as a lot of the women Stacey makes over (especially quite a few of the Goth-styled ones) and the 'man-on-the-street' section? Where everyone, even the ones around the contestant's age, are freaking out about her clothing?

At my school -and this was in a suburb of DC- Goth style was seen everywhere (90% of my friends group in high school fell into it actually).

[Extreme Guide To Parenting - General Discussion]

The hypnotist mom actually isn't as weird as I expected. But the sex mom is downright creepy. I'm not even sure I want to watch the rest of this episode.

 

I missed the first 5-10 minutes of the episode, anyone know why sex mom calls her husband daddy? Is that for the baby's sake, or her own?

It's for her sake. She's in a D/s relationship with him.

 

As for my thoughts, while I approve of the sex-positive mom teaching her kid the proper names for intimate parts, I don't approve of the leaving sex toys where kids can get them.