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Judi Sunshine

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  1. On 1/12/2022 at 3:35 PM, bichonblitz said:

    James is a pothead and seems to have motivation. At least the guy works.

    Yeah, pot works differently for everyone, especially if you know what to shop for. Give me a good sativa and I'll clean and go for hours and hours with a focus I simply don't have otherwise. It also was the catalyst for my weight loss!

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  2. I DEEPLY relate to Charli's food issues, and the dismissiveness/mockery from those who don't get it is why so many keep it to ourselves, as I did for most of my life. I'm glad she's talking about them at 24, and am happy people are at least trying to support her, even if many don't know how to. Even my best friend will say she doesn't really get it, but she never gaslights me over my eating disorder and I appreciate that. So many do.

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  3. While someone who smokes weed isn't "sober," it can be a completely life-saving alternative to alcohol for many. They're not equal. Not every addict should smoke cannabis, but I really hope the show after YEARS of promoting the way more dangerous drug alcohol, doesn't start to clutch pearls over weed.

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  4. On 10/7/2021 at 5:37 AM, Lassus said:

    It's a good book, actually.  Have used it frequently, it's well done.

    It (Fancy AF Cocktails) really is. I was truly impressed by how beautiful it is, all the photography. Has a very rich feel. I also appreciate all the writing they put into it. And then the recipes are awesome! So much fun and all over the place. I've only made one so far, from the Trash section, an ersatz Bloody Mary. But definitely want to make more.

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  5. 2 hours ago, rideashire said:

    James saying it would be hard for him if Raquel fucked up her nose should be a red flag. Girl, he is saying he will leave your ass if he stops finding you attractive. Don't you dare put on a little weight, have any sort of traumatic accident, or smudge your eyeliner one single time, or that dude is gone. Any guy saying that shit to me would be single real fast. Also pretty funny that Muppet James seems to think so highly of his own looks as if he's got plenty of choices beyond Raquel. 

    Oh man. I TRULY at first was giving him the benefit of the doubt, but he ruined it. Because I definitely could understand someone especially on that show worrying that they'd get too much plastic surgery. Raquel is naturally so beautiful, but everyone on that show was too and only Katie still really looks like herself anymore.

    But no, he had to destroy that benefit of the doubt by continuing on!

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  6. On 4/1/2020 at 8:32 PM, HeddaGabler said:

    There are a ton of ways to critique these dummies, but I'm not a fan of criticizing Katie and Brittany's weight, or cracking food jokes about them.

    Thank you. I'm always disappointed when people go that route.

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  7. 18 hours ago, eleanorofaquitaine said:

    But also, as I said above, bi-erasure is a real thing, so I suspect part of the reason why my friend talks about it is to show that bisexual people exist, even if they are in monogamous relationships. And that is a perfectly valid reason for her - or Ariana, for that matter - to identify publicly as bi. 

    Thank you. I didn't come out as bi until I was in a committed relationship with a guy. I'm glad he didn't take personal offense to my wanting to be a more honest version of myself. 

    Straight people can have as many opinions about this as they want, but they're not the ones dealing within it, so they don't really concern me much.

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  8. On 2/20/2020 at 12:31 PM, eleanorofaquitaine said:

     

    People come out when they are ready to come out.  Given that we know that Ariana has had issues with her sexuality before, I don't see why it is so confusing as to why she hasn't talked about it before.  She obviously has a complicated relationship with her sexuality. Furthermore, maybe part of the reason that she hasn't talked about being bisexual before is because she was afraid that the reaction would be one of skepticism.  (The fact is that bi-erasure is a real thing and lots of people - both straight and gay - have misconceptions about what it means to bi).

    Anyway, I think it is perfectly valid for her to talk about her bisexuality in the context of being unhappy with this pastor's words, and I don't really see much reason to demand that she come out on my timetable, as opposed to her own. 

    Thank you!!! 

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  9. On 2/20/2020 at 10:21 AM, Juliegirlj said:

    I’m kind of confused- why would a woman in a long term, mostly monogamist, heterosexual relationship be coming out as bisexual??! Has Ariana ever actually been in an adult relationship with another woman, or is her experience limited to Lala going down on her in the backseat?  

    I did after I was married (to a man). Rosario Dawson just did. Sometimes it's just about finally being honest about another part of yourself that you weren't before. And it's really freeing. Also kind of maddening when you realize how long you kept it hidden for whatever reasons, and knowing that people are going to judge you, say you're just greedy/want attention, etc. So I'm not on TV or anything, but I feel like I do get it!

    Re: Britney and drinking and pregnancy. Tbh I knew I drank too much at her age, but always thought if the time came to have a baby, I'd stop. There was an ep where he said to her you like to drink, do you think you could stop if you were pregnant? And she answered yes in a way that made me believe her. You can be a heavy drinker with little to no self preservation, but have strong instincts that would kick in to protect someone else. I never ended up getting pregnant and just had to quit, but know that if I had, that would have immediately flipped a quit switch in me.

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  10. I had to bow out of being a bridesmaid in my SIL-to-be's wedding because it's just TOO expensive! I think it's fine to go on vacation and have it be an *option*, but wrong to MAKE your friends spend SO much money because you made the choice to get married. Weddings are ridiculous. 

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  11. 15 hours ago, yourmomiseasy said:

    It can't be worse than the other home improvement shit Bravo was trying to make happen.

    I didn't see any of that -- because nothing bores me to tears more. I'd rather watch Lisa and Guillermo read the new SUR menu line for line!

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  12. 1 hour ago, Juliegirlj said:

    It looks like Katie and Tom bought a new house in Ariana and Sandoval’s neighborhood, and so did Brittany and Jax. Kristin bought a fixer upper too. 

    Congrats to them and all, but while I never plan to quit watching this show, I could change my mind in a New York minute if they start focusing on home renovations/interior decorating. 

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  13. 6 minutes ago, Rebecca said:

    It kind of reminds me of when Kelly Osborne was chubby and she said that people would mail her clothes and things in size 14 or 16 and meanwhile she actually was a 10, she looked bigger on TV.

    That happened with Amber Benson too when she was on "Buffy." And that woman is hot af IMO.  

    And really, hearing/reading people justify body shaming because they don't like someone's personality is...icky.

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  14. On 3/19/2019 at 7:45 AM, bichonblitz said:

    I still can't even figure out what Lala has against Raquel. Raquel may not be smart and she may be blind when it comes to James but that isn't anybody's business. The girl is not mean or vicious to anybody so Lala needs to lay off! I hope when she's looking back at these episodes that are airing now she is supremely embarrassed of her behavior. 

    My husband used to watch with me, but hasn't seen much of this or last season because he's been working Tuesdays when I watch. Anyway, he was home last night and said "Lala seems really jealous of Raquel. Like she doesn't want James for herself but she doesn't like not having him to adore her and be there unconditionally for her anymore." And I agree. She reminds me a lot of my ex's "bestie" in that way. It's exhausting to deal with if you're the Raquel in the equation. 

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  15. On 3/12/2019 at 7:44 AM, FancyNancy said:

    this is like the second or third time they’ve invited him to only disinvite him.

    Yeah -- whoever started things, escalated things, was wrong, was right -- the inviting then disinviting is some middle-school bullshit. Even IN middle school, that is bullshit. 

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  16. 1 hour ago, politichick said:

    I'm so happy for her!!! I knew it wasn't just Rand's influence to quit drinking, because she's been lamenting her problems with alcohol since before she was with him. This is so much better for her than dry drunking it on her own around a bunch of active drinkers. I bet she really thrives in the program. 🧡

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  17. 4 hours ago, FozzyBear said:

    I actually felt really bad for Lala. I can have a soft spot for that girl and I think she has been at a place of wanting to scale back her drinking for a while so when a crazy night happened a break sounded like a good idea. Then she finds out Rand is enjoying the full DJ James combo plate in her absence (plus I really felt like he cheated on her. That scene she walked into sounded like there were some girls involved ). I would have been pissed off too. Especially since it also seemed like Rand has been making her feel very ashamed of her own substance use. 

    All of this. I don't think Lala just got sober for Rand, because she's lamented having an issue with drinking since she joined the show. Or maybe since S5, but it's been awhile. As someone who finally quit drinking myself but took awhile to do it, I've felt her journey and was thrilled to read recently that she was five months sober. I really HOPE she's doing it for herself and the night of the hurricane-window shattering was just a catalyst. Doing it for another person rarely works. But it still really SUCKS to think you have a partner with you in the sobriety journey, only to have them flake out in a major way. 

    Also yeah, with the cheating or at least cheating-tangential behavior o' Rand. Dating a cokehead alcoholic with a propensity for cheating is NOT fun; I've been there, and there often feels like they have different rules set for themselves that doesn't apply to others. And if you're dealing with someone who's those things, and narcissistic AND rich af? Chances are, there's going to be a lot more tits and ass around that most people don't have to give a pass to in their ostensibly monogamous relationships. I feel bad for Lala and really wish she would get together with not James per se, but someone who she bonds with like that -- as a friend and trustworthy companion. Girl already has money and she's smart. I think she would be financially just fine on her own, while living a more authentic life. 

    Also (sorry, not sure how to do quoting within an edit and don't want to double post):

    " Stassi is a nice friend to her it was sweet to say 'I’m excited to be around you.'" ~ iloveit

    YES!!! Omg. In that moment, I wanted Stassi to come live with me and be my BFF. That made me cry, so sweet!!!!!

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  18. My brother and SIL bought a big house because they loved it and they don't plan on having kids.

    Regarding a place being dated, I'd just love to have a place to call my own. As long as it's clean, paint it orange, throw down a shag rug, and put up some wood paneling -- I don't care! I'd just be grateful to have one. 

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