S39: Missy Byrd

[Whimsy]

From CBS.com

Missy Byrd

Biography

Age: 24
Hometown: Decatur, Georgia
Current residence: Tacoma, Washington
Occupation: Air Force Veteran

Hobbies: Hiking, traveling, immersing myself into the culture I'm visiting, and winning.

Pet peeves: Annoying human beings.

Three words to describe you: Relentless, clever, and decently dope.

What accomplishment are you most proud of?
Always finding a way to travel the world regardless of budget. We all deserve to see what's out there.

Who or what is your inspiration in life?
Oprah, Beyoncé and the Obamas. They all broke the mold for what being black in America looks like.

What's one thing we wouldn't know from seeing a photo of you?
I rather enjoy a hot cup of tea and a good book.

Which Survivor contestant are you most like?
Kim, my girl is a legend. She hit the sand and aligned quickly. She played both sides effortlessly. I would play like this. Kill 'em with a smile.

Why do you think you'll "survive" Survivor?
Beyoncé wrote a song about surviving so I have to honor Queen B.

[Lamb18]

When I saw her picture I thought "I wonder if she will be sipping tea" because she reminded me if Michaela (sp?). And then she says she enjoys a hot cup of tea!

[LadyChatts]

56 minutes ago, Lamb18 said:

When I saw her picture I thought "I wonder if she will be sipping tea" because she reminded me if Michaela (sp?). And then she says she enjoys a hot cup of tea!

I was thinking Michaela, too.  

I kind of feel like she might rub people the wrong way.  It's hard to tell from bios vs what they actually end up doing, but she seems very outspoken.  

[LadyChatts]

[Hanahope]

I've been listening to the cast interviews on RHAP.  Quite the back story she has.  but I think people are going to get tired real fast of her saying "super dope" every 5 minutes.

[LadyChatts]

Missy's apology.

[ByaNose]

I guess it’s good she said something but how could she have been confused after speaking with Kellee?!

Edited November 15, 2019 by ByaNose

[LadyChatts]

3 minutes ago, ByaNose said:

I guess it’s good she said something but how could she have been confused after speaking Kellee?!

This is where I keep getting confused.  Everyone keeps saying they had no idea how bad Kellee was hurting or how deep this really went.  Yet, it seemed like Kellee was making people aware.  And she had a heart to heart with Missy about it.  So why wouldn't Missy speak up?  Maybe people, especially the guys, didn't know how bad it was.  But I'm having my doubts about the women not knowing.  And especially after the whole Janet situation, how could it not have been clear?  

[LanceM]

11 minutes ago, ByaNose said:

I guess it’s good she said something but how could she have been confused after speaking Kellee?!r speaking with Kell

Because after speaking with Kellee she was told by Lauren that Kellee was planning on voting her out (which was true). She had every reason to believe that Kellee was playing her.

[watchingtvaddict]

17 minutes ago, LanceM said:

Because after speaking with Kellee she was told by Lauren that Kellee was planning on voting her out (which was true). She had every reason to believe that Kellee was playing her.

But, in the second episode Janet was very clear and vocal and explained the situation. 

She was voting for Dan because the women said they felt uncomfortable. Missy could see no one voted for her. So, she should have realised once the women all expressed their discomfort Kellee wasn't lying and wasn't playing her. 

The decision to vote for Missy was made before the 2 hour conversation. 

[Lady Calypso]

2 hours ago, LanceM said:

Because after speaking with Kellee she was told by Lauren that Kellee was planning on voting her out (which was true). She had every reason to believe that Kellee was playing her.

Ok, fine, if Missy felt like Kellee was playing her, then I can see why. But....how does that excuse what happened AFTER Kellee was voted out? Because Missy's issues didn't just stop at Kellee being voted out. It continued with Janet. And she saw the votes that went all toward Dan and not Missy. I get voting out Kellee in that moment, but then Janet told her what actually went down and Missy knew, from experience, about the Dan situation making many women feel uncomfortable.

And then Missy STILL made the decision to use sexual harassment as a strategy. And it never crossed her mind that Kellee was speaking from truth? And she pinned everyone on Janet and calling her a liar? For me, I think people are missing the bigger issue; it's not Missy's decision to vote out Kellee. It's using sexual harassment as a strategy and also writing off the idea that Kellee may be speaking from her own truth. Assuming she was just plain lying is what makes Missy look bad. I get maybe thinking that Dan was a decoy for Missy going (because it was) but assuming that Kellee was downright lying and doing what she did afterward? 

Especially with the talks that production had with them, it never crossed Missy mind that Kellee's conversation with her wasn't part of some truth? 

Not buying it. Plus, Missy's apology is very....short. It feels hollow and it lacks any sort of emotion. I'm not expecting some lengthy apology. I am expecting some genuine emotion from it. I'm expecting no excuses. I'm expecting more than....this. I'm not saying go on video and cry like Aaron. But Missy's apology felt more like "Well, the fans hate me so I probably should apologize now." 

[LanceM]

6 minutes ago, Lady Calypso said:

Ok, fine, if Missy felt like Kellee was playing her, then I can see why. But....how does that excuse what happened AFTER Kellee was voted out? Because Missy's issues didn't just stop at Kellee being voted out. It continued with Janet. And she saw the votes that went all toward Dan and not Missy. I get voting out Kellee in that moment, but then Janet told her what actually went down and Missy knew, from experience, about the Dan situation making many women feel uncomfortable.

And then Missy STILL made the decision to use sexual harassment as a strategy. And it never crossed her mind that Kellee was speaking from truth? And she pinned everyone on Janet and calling her a liar? For me, I think people are missing the bigger issue; it's not Missy's decision to vote out Kellee. It's using sexual harassment as a strategy and also writing off the idea that Kellee may be speaking from her own truth. Assuming she was just plain lying is what makes Missy look bad. I get maybe thinking that Dan was a decoy for Missy going (because it was) but assuming that Kellee was downright lying and doing what she did afterward? 

Especially with the talks that production had with them, it never crossed Missy mind that Kellee's conversation with her wasn't part of some truth? 

Not buying it. Plus, Missy's apology is very....short. It feels hollow and it lacks any sort of emotion. I'm not expecting some lengthy apology. I am expecting some genuine emotion from it. I'm expecting no excuses. I'm expecting more than....this. I'm not saying go on video and cry like Aaron. But Missy's apology felt more like "Well, the fans hate me so I probably should apologize now." 

Huh?  That strategy was used prior to the Kellee vote (not after) and she used it to try to save herself. Not justifying but clearing up the record. I don't know why she had a problem with Janet after the vote. No idea. I am thinking there is more to this story that we weren't shown.

Edited November 15, 2019 by LanceM

[watchingtvaddict]

1 minute ago, LanceM said:

Huh?  That strategy was used prior to the Kellee vote (not after) and she used it to try to save herself. Not justifying but clearing up the record. I don't know why she had a problem with Janet after the vote. No idea. I am thinking there is more to this story that we weren't shown.

She probably had an issue with Janet because Janet wanted to clear the air after the Kellee/Dan tribal. Janet went up to Dan and was clear she only voted for him to protect the women who felt uncomfortable. The women all went on the defensive. Told Dan, Janet misconstrued/misunderstood the situation and they didn't have any issues with Dan. Janet then became a problem as one could say she was blowing up their game. 

[Lady Calypso]

1 minute ago, LanceM said:

Huh?  That strategy was used prior to the Kellee vote (not after) and she used it to try to save herself. Not justifying but clearing up the record. I don't know why she had a problem with Janet after the vote. No idea. I am thinking there is more to this story that we weren't shown.

Well, I would say lying to Dan and blaming Janet for it is what happened afterward. I think the only reason why Missy was mad at Janet was because she outed them to Dan. That's probably about the extent to where it went. Missy and Elizabeth got upset that Janet told her friend, Dan, the truth on why they were blindsided by the whole situation. Yes, Missy did what she had to in order to preserve her game, but she shouldn't have ever used sexual harassment as a strategy. That takes it to another level, a more personal level. And it's worse when we know how inappropriate Dan is, so what Missy and Elizabeth did was create a situation where Dan felt like he was the victim and Janet was the big bad villain, when that wasn't the case.

What Missy helped do was create a narrative to Dan that Janet was spreading lies about him, damaging lies if they weren't true (WE know they are but in Dan's head, they're not). Great, she was trying to protect herself. But, in turn, she just got the Survivor audience to hate her for using it as a strategy that could have gone terribly wrong. 

[neh]

There is no reason this woman could come up with that would excuse her behavior. Missy knew exactly what she was doing. Her actions were egregious.

[Bryce Lynch]

Her apology is a load of crap.  She knew Dan was groping her and she knew Elizabeth was okay whatever touching Dan was doing to her.  Yet, she actively deceived Kellee, Janet, Dan, and I'm sure Aaron and others in her alliance about the groping. 

She pretended to empathize with Kellee so she could make her comfortable.  She encouraged Elizabeth to play up the situation with Janet, which induced Janet to courageously stand up for the women, against Dan, to the detriment of her own game, and then she threw Janet under the bus.

Only a person with zero moral character would do this.  She wasn't duped, she duped others, and did it systematically and repeatedly.   

Missy and Elizabeth are garbage human beings who would tell any lie about any subject to advance their own agendas in the smallest way.  Anyone who hires either of them for any job is asking for trouble.   

[Hanahope]

You can lie about a lot of things in this game, and it doesn't matter. But lying about sexual harrassment is different, it crossed the line.  There are just some things one should not lie about, and this is one of them.

[LadyChatts]

Aside from Dan, I'm trying to decide who looked worse between Missy and Elizabeth.  Missy knew full well what Dan had done, and had a heart to heart with Kellee about it.  She was uncomfortable with how he'd been acting.  So then she used that because her name got thrown out, so suddenly the game is more important than a serious incident that you just bonded over.  Why didn't she go to Kellee and confront her with what Lauren said?  Instead, she goes to Elizabeth, who didn't feel uncomfortable with Dan, but went along with the charade for her own gain.  Then, they both throw Janet under the bus and attempt to make her out to be a liar and instigator.  

After watching the TC, and listening to Aaron's apology, I do wonder if he was grossly misinformed about what happened.  His attitude towards Janet seemed more like he was talking from a game perspective rather than the seriousness of the issue.  I still think he did not come off well, and should have backed off if he didn't have all the facts.  Instead, he ran his mouth.  But with as close as he and Missy are, I just wonder if she planted ideas in his head like she did Elizabeth.  We'll probably never really know.  

At the end of the day, I agree with those who say that the timing of the apologies and the way they were written were likely done through a CBS PR machine.  I'm sure Missy and Elizabeth were none too happy with how they came off, and while I'm first to say that editing can be it's own character on this show, it's hard to edit around what they said and did.  This will be their Survivor legacy-the girl who cried sexual harassment for her own game play, and the girl who knew what was going on but put it aside from her own game play.

Edited November 15, 2019 by LadyChatts

[Bryce Lynch]

42 minutes ago, LadyChatts said:

Aside from Dan, I'm trying to decide who looked worse between Missy and Elizabeth.  Missy knew full well what Dan had done, and had a heart to heart with Kellee about it.  She was uncomfortable with how he'd been acting.  So then she used that because her name got thrown out, so suddenly the game is more important than a serious incident that you just bonded over.  Why didn't she go to Kellee and confront her with what Lauren said?  Instead, she goes to Elizabeth, who didn't feel uncomfortable with Dan, but went along with the charade for her own gain.  Then, they both throw Janet under the bus and attempt to make her out to be a liar and instigator.  

After watching the TC, and listening to Aaron's apology, I do wonder if he was grossly misinformed about what happened.  His attitude towards Janet seemed more like he was talking from a game perspective rather than the seriousness of the issue.  I still think he did not come off well, and should have backed off if he didn't have all the facts.  Instead, he ran his mouth.  But with as close as he and Missy are, I just wonder if she planted ideas in his head like she did Elizabeth.  We'll probably never really know.  

At the end of the day, I agree with those who say that the timing of the apologies and the way they were written were likely done through a CBS PR machine.  I'm sure Missy and Elizabeth were none too happy with how they came off, and while I'm first to say that editing can be it's own character on this show, it's hard to edit around what they said and did.  This will be their Survivor legacy-the girl who cried sexual harassment for her own game play, and the girl who knew what was going on but put it aside from her own game play.

Missy and Elizabeth pretty much acted in concert, so I am not sure which one is worse. 

I have little doubt that Missy lied to Aaron about the whole situation.  Aaron is the only one who can plausibly claim he was misinformed.  

[gingerella]

Piece.Of.Shit. 

[ProfCrash]

I was going with coward

[Bryce Lynch]

4 hours ago, ProfCrash said:

I was going with coward

I'm not sure I'd call her that.  It takes a certain amount of courage to go through life being as big a POS as she is.  

[LanceM]

In case anyone cares, here is her day after exit interview.

[gingerella]

On 11/15/2019 at 5:30 AM, Bryce Lynch said:

Her apology is a load of crap.  She knew Dan was groping her and she knew Elizabeth was okay whatever touching Dan was doing to her.  Yet, she actively deceived Kellee, Janet, Dan, and I'm sure Aaron and others in her alliance about the groping. 

She pretended to empathize with Kellee so she could make her comfortable.  She encouraged Elizabeth to play up the situation with Janet, which induced Janet to courageously stand up for the women, against Dan, to the detriment of her own game, and then she threw Janet under the bus.

Only a person with zero moral character would do this.  She wasn't duped, she duped others, and did it systematically and repeatedly.   

Missy and Elizabeth are garbage human beings who would tell any lie about any subject to advance their own agendas in the smallest way.  Anyone who hires either of them for any job is asking for trouble.   

What got me even more angered was in her 'apology' on Twitter where she says watching back now, she's 'This is a life changing moment for me..." Bitch, please! You needed to get caught out on national television to claim that now, after serving in the military and whatever else you've experienced in life, now you finally understand sexual harassment issues? Gurl, you can fuck right off with your hollow apology and crocodile tears, and take your BFFs too.

Edited November 24, 2019 by gingerella